MentatsGhoul
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So last year I tried online dating and I gave up pretty quick since there was virtually no one in my area.
This year, I have a lot more friends, but my romantic life has been very unsuccessful, so thoughts turned to dating again. Better self-esteem and knowing that a lot of people actually like me as a friend really helped. I told a close female friend about my experiences in online dating and why it didn't work out, and she recommended using Tinder. And about a week ago, I finally got around to making my profile.
Well, it was very promising, hundreds of women from my area, and I thought surely I'd find something, at the very least chat and maybe go on a date or two. Now, for those who don't know, Tinder is based on matches, which means that you both need to anonymously like each other's profiles before you can get around to messaging. A good system, since, in theory, it means you only get the chance to message people you already know are attracted to you, and if you "like" someone who isn't interested, you never have to face the embarrassment, since it's anonymous until you "match".
A week later though, guess how many matches I've gotten... No, not a dozen or so, not a couple. None. Absolutely none. I don't even have the chance to try to chat up anyone. And I can't really just explain it away. I read on the internet, and apparently it's actually pretty uncommon to get, you know, literally NO matches, I read figures for men from anywhere between a half a dozen to forty in their first week, and for women, pretty much everyone they liked being an instant match. I must have "liked" countless girls, possibly 50-100, but none of them have "matched". Not a one.
I've always considered myself good looking, but okay, honeysuckle, maybe I'm not as great as some of the bearded guys with sixpacks and tattoos that every girl goes crazy over. I guess I can live with that. And it's the holidays, there's less people on. Sure. But... none man. I even got a "boost" twice (which puts your profile on the front of the queue, thus getting it much more views), and still nothing.
honeysuckle... how can a man keep up hope like this.... Not a single one...
This year, I have a lot more friends, but my romantic life has been very unsuccessful, so thoughts turned to dating again. Better self-esteem and knowing that a lot of people actually like me as a friend really helped. I told a close female friend about my experiences in online dating and why it didn't work out, and she recommended using Tinder. And about a week ago, I finally got around to making my profile.
Well, it was very promising, hundreds of women from my area, and I thought surely I'd find something, at the very least chat and maybe go on a date or two. Now, for those who don't know, Tinder is based on matches, which means that you both need to anonymously like each other's profiles before you can get around to messaging. A good system, since, in theory, it means you only get the chance to message people you already know are attracted to you, and if you "like" someone who isn't interested, you never have to face the embarrassment, since it's anonymous until you "match".
A week later though, guess how many matches I've gotten... No, not a dozen or so, not a couple. None. Absolutely none. I don't even have the chance to try to chat up anyone. And I can't really just explain it away. I read on the internet, and apparently it's actually pretty uncommon to get, you know, literally NO matches, I read figures for men from anywhere between a half a dozen to forty in their first week, and for women, pretty much everyone they liked being an instant match. I must have "liked" countless girls, possibly 50-100, but none of them have "matched". Not a one.
I've always considered myself good looking, but okay, honeysuckle, maybe I'm not as great as some of the bearded guys with sixpacks and tattoos that every girl goes crazy over. I guess I can live with that. And it's the holidays, there's less people on. Sure. But... none man. I even got a "boost" twice (which puts your profile on the front of the queue, thus getting it much more views), and still nothing.
honeysuckle... how can a man keep up hope like this.... Not a single one...
. Fml....
