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Northern Lights
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One personality trait that I've often been commended for is my reliability. I've been the "go-to" person for many people during their times of crisis and need. I've noticed that during my times of crisis and need these same people are nowhere to be found.
Flakes are a pet peeve of mine and I find that most people are flakes. I understand that everyone is busy in their lives but so am I and yet I can be relied upon. The shock! How is that possible that a "busy" person could actually be reliable! I find people use the "I'm busy" excuse to justify never being able to show up to work on time, cancelling plans routinely, failing on promises and being unreliable overall.
It's exhausting to deal with people like this at work and in my personal life. It is a pet peeve of mine! I'm the type of person that will call a restaurant again to verify the reservation was made properly or have a back-up plan to my back-up plan. When my plans change or fall through, I find it stressful. I am "very busy" and write my plans on my calendar and have an appointment reminder on my phone. I would never leave someone waiting for me and not show up. (Note: I am understanding to unavoidable circumstances leading to cancelling, but what I'm referring to is a repeated pattern of behaviour)
I have anxiety when it comes to depending on others because deep down, I believe most people are unreliable and are in denial about it. They become very defensive if confronted and respond with a sarcastic "I have a life!" when the reality is, they aren't a special snowflake and everyone has a life. The difference is that I truly value my time and respect others' time that they set aside for me. For a unreliable person, it would be in their interest to simply not commit to anything.
From my experience, I've come to learn that this behaviour is the norm. When a person states that they will do something, they will most likely not follow through. I have been patient and am trying to give others the benefit of the doubt, but all in all, I feel that majority of people are just blowing smoke when they talk. It feels that people just say things that make them appear nice.
I would like to be more accepting of the norm of unreliability and flakiness but I am finding it difficult. I find myself craving to meet people who mean what they say. There's the saying "A man's handshake is his word" but I believe people do not have pride in keeping their word and just don't give a **** about anyone else except themselves. I'm not too sure what to make of it and have come across several articles containing survey statistics showing that a large number of people are lonely or wish that they had friends. We have so much technology to help us connect to others but for many of us it is not working. I wonder to what extent has unreliability deteriorated healthy bonds between people.
What are your thoughts?
(Post is just a combination of ranting, rambling, scattered thoughts and observations. I'm not sure what the intent is but it's nice to let it out...)
Flakes are a pet peeve of mine and I find that most people are flakes. I understand that everyone is busy in their lives but so am I and yet I can be relied upon. The shock! How is that possible that a "busy" person could actually be reliable! I find people use the "I'm busy" excuse to justify never being able to show up to work on time, cancelling plans routinely, failing on promises and being unreliable overall.
It's exhausting to deal with people like this at work and in my personal life. It is a pet peeve of mine! I'm the type of person that will call a restaurant again to verify the reservation was made properly or have a back-up plan to my back-up plan. When my plans change or fall through, I find it stressful. I am "very busy" and write my plans on my calendar and have an appointment reminder on my phone. I would never leave someone waiting for me and not show up. (Note: I am understanding to unavoidable circumstances leading to cancelling, but what I'm referring to is a repeated pattern of behaviour)
I have anxiety when it comes to depending on others because deep down, I believe most people are unreliable and are in denial about it. They become very defensive if confronted and respond with a sarcastic "I have a life!" when the reality is, they aren't a special snowflake and everyone has a life. The difference is that I truly value my time and respect others' time that they set aside for me. For a unreliable person, it would be in their interest to simply not commit to anything.
From my experience, I've come to learn that this behaviour is the norm. When a person states that they will do something, they will most likely not follow through. I have been patient and am trying to give others the benefit of the doubt, but all in all, I feel that majority of people are just blowing smoke when they talk. It feels that people just say things that make them appear nice.
I would like to be more accepting of the norm of unreliability and flakiness but I am finding it difficult. I find myself craving to meet people who mean what they say. There's the saying "A man's handshake is his word" but I believe people do not have pride in keeping their word and just don't give a **** about anyone else except themselves. I'm not too sure what to make of it and have come across several articles containing survey statistics showing that a large number of people are lonely or wish that they had friends. We have so much technology to help us connect to others but for many of us it is not working. I wonder to what extent has unreliability deteriorated healthy bonds between people.
What are your thoughts?
(Post is just a combination of ranting, rambling, scattered thoughts and observations. I'm not sure what the intent is but it's nice to let it out...)