MHD said:
Some schoolmates are making fun of me, because I'm quiet and alone (and probably I also don't look confident). Why are they making fun of me? No idea to be honest, I didn't do or say anything bad to anyone, probably I'm easy target. Beside that, they also tell others that I'm strange and socially awkward, which makes me a bit angry, they sow hate on me. I don't think I have any friends here in school, I have enemies that I hate less than others, so maybe 2-4 people that aren't 'against' me. I also don't have any other friends, brothers or sisters, no one to talk to, so yeah I'm pretty quiet all the time. I'm not really sad/angry that I don't have friends, I just hate that other people spread hate on me because I'm a little different than 'cool kids'. I don't smoke, vape or do drugs like some others, I usually don't play fancy new games, mostly chess on phone and so on. i'm a bit skinny so I joined the gym and some people are laughinh at this too. I heard many bad things talking about me, but I'm very sure they make fun of me when I'm not near too.
Hey there, MHD. I just wanted to tell you I had a pretty similar experience. I was also treated kind of badly in school, and I think it was because I was also quiet, alone, and not confident. I was quiet because I didn't know what to talk to people about and most people seemed unfriendly so I tried to be as invisible as I could. I wasn't into the same things as most people, especially the "cool crowd". And because I didn't swear or fight and tried to be agreeable and avoid getting in trouble, people probably thought I was an easy target too who wouldn't fight back. I didn't think I was strong enough to win fights, I didn't want to keep having to fight people all the time, and I didn't want to become a troublemaker. It made me angry that people thought they could pick on me and talk down to me too.
There's a lot I wish I could go back and do differently. I wish I had been myself more, because I probably would have felt better expressing myself, and there was no benefit to hiding it - the "cool kids" weren't going to like me anyway. And I wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying about those people. I wish I'd just said, well, those people are going to be stupid, and then spent that same energy trying to get good at things I liked and figuring out who I want to be. I wish I had read more books, started listening to more bands, kept collecting the stuff I liked, and gotten better at creative things. But instead, for a while I put down the things I liked because I was afraid other people would think they were "uncool". I really wish I hadn't done that.
I think you should keep doing things that you feel are right for you, and not give in to peer pressure if you feel like what your peers are doing is wrong. If you don't want to smoke or vape or do drugs, don't. It's okay, and like I said, most of the "cool kids" who do that kind of stuff are stupid anyway. There isn't anything better about doing those things, and most likely those people are either going to quit eventually, or they are going to keep doing it and only hurt themselves. And if you want to play chess and go to the gym, keep playing chess and going to the gym. It might take time to see results, but you'll definitely get better at the game and build at least some muscle. I'm finding that in my own life, it's really hard to stick with things at first because for a long while it seems like you're getting nowhere, but then all of the sudden I started to notice more and more improvements, and it made me wish I had just kept pushing through the beginner phase instead of having so many false starts.
It seems hard NOT to worry about them when you don't have the experience to know that nothing the "cool kids" say matters, or if they are constantly messing with you. But just stay strong, remember they are idiots who don't matter, and that soon it will pass. Keep doing the things you like, because the better you get at them, the more confidence you will have. And if things get really bad, don't be afraid to talk to your parents, a teacher, or another authority figure if you feel like they would be willing to help.
Paraiyar said:
Maybe you should start learning guitar and get real good. In my experience it can raise your status with a lot of people.
I really wish I'd done this, myself. Not so much FOR status, as it might have kept me busier so it could have taken my mind off of status. If I got good at something, especially something I liked, I would have liked myself more and felt more confident, more in control of my life. And if I stuck with it all these years, I would have probably been pretty decent by now.