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Simple title so I will try to get right to the point.

I know there is already a thread on here. But its buried.
Ok, so I got sucked into the subredit called 'no fap' 
And I have to say it has a cult like atmosphere. I mean you have people saying all sorts of weird honeysuckle on there claiming it changed thier lives from abstaining from masterbation. You got some claiming they have not masterbated in a year?? 
Are you serious? 
To me these people are either
A. Asexuals
B. On serious meds that killed their sex drive completey
C. Eunuchs 

Now where do I come in? So I took it upon myself even before I discovered nofap subredit was to dial back my masterbation habits. Just because it was time consuming and I can see how it can prevent one from seeking out actual women. So speaking as a male in his 30s who is struggling to meet women and fulfill those sexual needs. I ask the experts here on this forum. What are the benefits from someone like me. A very frustrated individual from going for long periods of not masterbating. Someone who already cut back. Someone who used to do it multiple times a day with or without porn. To now once a month?

And all I see from going without it once a month is....
Being even more sexually frustrated. Didnt see many benefits from not even doing it. How can there be such damage if only once a month? I am wondering? And do believe these people who say rhey go a year without it? Why are they better than someone doing it seldom. I can't imagine they are not going out of their heads. Almost seems unthinkable. And can have adverse affects. Please tell me. What you think??
 
I think cutting it back from multiple times a day was a very good thing, however once a month might be a bit of overdoing the cutting back I'd say.
Like you said there is already a thread out there about this topic and I believe it touched on the positive effects, like how it can be a stress reliever, and achieving orgasm releases endorphines, which make you feel good about yourself.

Humans just like all mammals are inherently sexual beings, we need to be to reproduce, and from that fact I would think that cutting back too much would be just as bad as overdoing it.
 
Restless soul said:
Simple title so I will try to get right to the point.

I know there is already a thread on here. But its buried.
Ok, so I got sucked into the subredit called 'no fap' 
And I have to say it has a cult like atmosphere. I mean you have people saying all sorts of weird honeysuckle on there claiming it changed thier lives from abstaining from masterbation. You got some claiming they have not masterbated in a year?? 
Are you serious? 
To me these people are either
A. Asexuals
B. On serious meds that killed their sex drive completey
C. Eunuchs 

Now where do I come in? So I took it upon myself even before I discovered nofap subredit was to dial back my masterbation habits. Just because it was time consuming and I can see how it can prevent one from seeking out actual women. So speaking as a male in his 30s who is struggling to meet women and fulfill those sexual needs. I ask the experts here on this forum. What are the benefits from someone like me. A very frustrated individual from going for long periods of not masterbating. Someone who already cut back. Someone who used to do it multiple times a day with or without porn. To now once a month?

And all I see from going without it once a month is....
Being even more sexually frustrated. Didnt see many benefits from not even doing it. How can there be such damage if only once a month? I am wondering? And do believe these people who say rhey go a year without it? Why are they better than someone doing it seldom. I can't imagine they are not going out of their heads. Almost seems unthinkable. And can have adverse affects. Please tell me. What you think??

From what I've read, a lot of people who've reduced their masturbation habits claim their productivity has improved. They're able to get more things accomplished in that time normally used to achieve orgasm. Another common thing among "nofappers" or anyone who's overcome a sex/porn addiction is the feeling of accomplishment. Now do you have to go a year without it? I wouldn't. Masturbation does have plenty of benefits, as you may remember from the prior thread on this topic. But it's all relative. What sounds strange to you or me may be the only thing that works for someone else.
 
reynard_muldrake said:
Restless soul said:
Simple title so I will try to get right to the point.

I know there is already a thread on here. But its buried.
Ok, so I got sucked into the subredit called 'no fap' 
And I have to say it has a cult like atmosphere. I mean you have people saying all sorts of weird honeysuckle on there claiming it changed thier lives from abstaining from masterbation. You got some claiming they have not masterbated in a year?? 
Are you serious? 
To me these people are either
A. Asexuals
B. On serious meds that killed their sex drive completey
C. Eunuchs 

Now where do I come in? So I took it upon myself even before I discovered nofap subredit was to dial back my masterbation habits. Just because it was time consuming and I can see how it can prevent one from seeking out actual women. So speaking as a male in his 30s who is struggling to meet women and fulfill those sexual needs. I ask the experts here on this forum. What are the benefits from someone like me. A very frustrated individual from going for long periods of not masterbating. Someone who already cut back. Someone who used to do it multiple times a day with or without porn. To now once a month?

And all I see from going without it once a month is....
Being even more sexually frustrated. Didnt see many benefits from not even doing it. How can there be such damage if only once a month? I am wondering? And do believe these people who say rhey go a year without it? Why are they better than someone doing it seldom. I can't imagine they are not going out of their heads. Almost seems unthinkable. And can have adverse affects. Please tell me. What you think??

From what I've read, a lot of people who've reduced their masturbation habits claim their productivity has improved. They're able to get more things accomplished in that time normally used to achieve orgasm. Another common thing among "nofappers" or anyone who's overcome a sex/porn addiction is the feeling of accomplishment. Now do you have to go a year without it? I wouldn't. Masturbation does have plenty of benefits, as you may remember from the prior thread on this topic. But it's all relative. What sounds strange to you or me may be the only thing that works for someone else.

Exactly.  But it also hinders being productive and functioning like normal if you are super frustrated all the time..so I dont fully get that


MisterLonely said:
I think cutting it back from multiple times a day was a very good thing, however once a month might be a bit of overdoing the cutting back I'd say.
Like you said there is already a thread out there about this topic and I believe it touched on the positive effects, like how it can be a stress reliever, and  achieving orgasm releases endorphines, which make you feel good about yourself.

Humans just like all mammals are inherently sexual beings, we need to be to reproduce, and from that fact I would think that cutting back too much would be just as bad as overdoing it.

Thanks.  I know there is a thread. Needed a refresher.
Anyway, yes. I agree. With all your points aboutabout humans being sexual beings..needing a release every now and then. 
And believe me..this going a month for me is torture not sure why I am doing this to myself. No benefits. And also there were no negatives for me after doing in once or after twice in that month. I either felt better for a little, or exaclty the same.
 
From what I gather they mean on fap. By using words like relapse.
That once you break a streak you will go into a full blown habit of daily, hourly masterbation. That would not be good. I don't plan on going there
 
You are now able to hold out for a month, what makes you think you'll go straight back to your old habits?
You've proven self-control already, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to stop yourself falling back into that patern even if you decide to "fap" a bit more often.
 
MisterLonely said:
You are now able to hold out for a month, what makes you think you'll go straight back to your old habits?
You've proven self-control already, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to stop yourself falling back into that patern even if you decide to "fap" a bit more often.

Yes. Thats is a great point. Experience is everything. 

And, the main points were. If I did it ttwice a month big deal?
I think not. I don't think that everyone that abstains has the same experience.  Some people have stronger sex drives and ssexual energy. I don't know why they choose to go indefinitely without masterbating. I really dont know.
Especially if you are not in a sexual relationship? That is like torture in itself. Any thoughts on that, mr lonley??
 
You know it's such a terrible thing to have such a strong healthy sex drive, yet can't meet an attractive woman who has equally strong sex drive. That is when masterbation becomes a very sad act. When that is all you are doing do alleviate your sexual frustration. When you know by now you should at least meet a woman for that purpose. Do you know what I mean?


And believe me when I say I have tried every avenue ( no not avenues for women on the avenues) but online mainly. I try to refrain from going after women in real life. Going on past experience i came off way too desperate. Like a rabid dog in heat.
That never looks or feels good especially when you don't get a positive response.
 
Restless soul said:
I ask the experts here on this forum. What are the benefits from someone like me. A very frustrated individual from going for long periods of not masterbating. Someone who already cut back. Someone who used to do it multiple times a day with or without porn. To now once a month?

I am actually embarrassed to be posting in a thread like this. I consider something like this your own private business. But something you said caught my eye and this is why I am responding now.

The "experts" here on this forum? What the heck, do you think there are people on here who have masters degrees in this? Look man, the people here are just regular people with problems and hangups and depressions like anyone else. They are no better and no worse than you are.

My advice to you is to try this for a week or so. Do what you think is best. Do what you want and see where it takes you. Maybe it will end up positively and maybe not. But make your own choices. Don't come in here and say what should I do in this situation...come in here and say this is what I did and this is what I learned from it.
 
BeyondShy said:
Restless soul said:
I ask the experts here on this forum. What are the benefits from someone like me. A very frustrated individual from going for long periods of not masterbating. Someone who already cut back. Someone who used to do it multiple times a day with or without porn. To now once a month?

I am actually embarrassed to be posting in a thread like this. I consider something like this your own private business. But something you said caught my eye and this is why I am responding now.

The "experts" here on this forum? What the heck, do you think there are people on here who have masters degrees in this? Look man, the people here are just regular people with problems and hangups and depressions like anyone else. They are no better and no worse than you are.

My advice to you is to try this for a week or so. Do what you think is best. Do what you want and see where it takes you. Maybe it will end up positively and maybe not. But make your own choices. Don't come in here and say what should I do in this situation...come in here and say this is what I did and this is what I learned from it.
Oh please. No reason to be shy. We are all sorta family here on it's a lonely life. And this is one reason why I keep coming back. And been here on a consistent basis for some time. 
Obviously I was being a bit tounge in cheek when I said "experts" but yah. I do value the input and advice here of all.
This topic is of course always going to be very diffrent from person to person. It's related to so many other subjects here I post about. And that is really it. So, people. Of lonley life.
Please feel to read what I wrote. And feel free to express your views and opinions. 

Thanks 
 
But what bothers me on the nofap subredit
Is, that they make it sound like if you go a period of time without faping ( and I do hate that word, so childish ) that once you break that streak. You lose all your vitality. Your substance. And somehow you become a shell of what you were when you were not masterbating. Sounds absurd. I don't buy into it.

And no, I won't post there to make my case. Because the reddit format is horrible. Your post gets lost in the mix and falls on deaf ears. And frankly we have much more knowledgeable people on the subject here
 
What are you trying to say, that everyone here are experts on masturbation? That all we do is play with ourselves on a regular basis? We only find pleasure with our own hands, toys, or other ways if you can bend that far? That we have nothing else better to do with our time than to beat the meat, polish our rods, spank the monkey, choke the chicken, stretch the yard, work the wood, etc. Ladies might have to help me out with euphemisms for fingering.

I'm joking btw :p

You do what's good for you and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's ones own personal preference and no one should shame anyone else for how often or how little they pleasure themselves or how long they can go without it. Studies have shown there are benefits to masturbation, even for married people in committed relationships with a healthy sex life. As for your own sexual urges and needs, if all you want is sex maybe all you need is a "fresia buddy" or professional who can service that need for you.
 
fresia buddy sounds like what the doctor ordered.

Therin lies the problem...seems like the immposible
 
No Fap is all about correlation with out causation. No real science behind it.
 
I don't think its directly related. That masturbation = reduced positive mood. Or reducing masturbation = positive changes in life. I mean that they are not directly proportional.
They had to stop because they personally felt that it was too much. Consider it as reading, for example. Some might be able to read for hours, but some might feel stressed after 10 minutes. If people who can read for 10 minutes read for 15 and then take a break, they will definitely feel better. But who can read for hours may feel normal while doing so.
I hope it makes sense because I am finding hard to make sentences at the moment. Sorry if it doesn't/
 
M_also_lonely said:
I don't think its directly related. That masturbation = reduced positive mood. Or reducing masturbation = positive changes in life. I mean that they are not directly proportional.
They had to stop because they personally felt that it was too much. Consider it as reading, for example. Some might be able to read for hours, but some might feel stressed after 10 minutes. If people who can read for 10 minutes read for 15 and then take a break, they will definitely feel better. But who can read for hours may feel normal while doing so.
I hope it makes sense because I am finding hard to make sentences at the moment. Sorry if it doesn't/

Yes. I am sorry i ever read that subredit. Wild claims

More confidence? Girls suddenly paying attention? 
What hapoens to the guy stops masterbation and still not meeting women??
 
My opinion of masturbation is that too much, excess is bad for your health and your love life.

You guys should really really try to get rid of this stupid habit. I will be honest and be brave and state that I used to do this honeysuckle when I was a teenager up until my late college years.

All you do is jack off to porno/adult material, and you lose that vibe, that energy that you need to ask a girl out on a date or to talk to a girl. So dumb of me to do this stupid habit while a teenager in high school and in my undergraduate college years. This is why I never started dating until my really really late 20's. (well, I was also in graduate school and was super busy where I didn't have time for porno viewing)

I will tell you this guys, and maybe it varies from person to person.

But when I had girlfriends, platonic girlfriends that is, my masturbation urges went down to near ZERO. Yes, when you have a female mate (even platonic), I myself at least had this proud feeling where my urges to jack off went away. Guarantee.

Masturbation also makes you weak. When I used to spank the monkey, I would be really tired and hardly be able to lift weights.

But like I've said, this varies from person to person.

However, when I was in platonic relationships in the past, and stopped my masturbation habit, I could definitely lift more weights and run longer distances when jogging in the park.

When on the treadmill at the gym, my speed of running and duration also lasted longer when I stopped masturbating. Yes, I can run at a 5.7-6.4 speed on a treadmill for a long duration on weeks or months when I stopped this habit.


That's my spiel on my soapbox on masturbation and how detrimental it is to your love life, and even your physical life.
 

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