Missingthesun
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I think I've come to the sad conclusion that unless I lose the extra 50 lb. I am carrying, I am just going to stay lonely.
I found a guy on an online dating site that reads perfect for me. Into authentic cultures, third world travel, passion for helping others. I wrote him and he responded nicely that he loved the way I approach life but that he didn't think we would be a match. I can guess why. My profile pics are honest.
I met a guy on vacation last month and he wants me to come back to visit. I thought it might be for a green card, but I've told him clearly that I can't help him with that and that I can't help him with money either (a common thing in his country). He still wants to see me, but I can't get it out of my head that he must have an ulterior motive, otherwise why would he pick me. It is not like he is Adonis, but still......I can't shake it. I have no body confidence.
I'm going to visit in two weeks but I don't know if I can manage be even semi naked with him. Even a bathing suit is feeling questionable. Pretty sure he is expecting it will be intimate, and probably not just under the covers in a completely dark room. I don't know if I can handle that.
Regardless of whether this is society pressure or just my own poor body image, I think I just have to get this done. It seems so unfair and I don't want to be on hold while I try, but what other options are there?
Can anyone else relate? I have lost 5-6 lb. recently but that is only a start.
I forgot to mention my other forum experience that didn't help to say the least. I asked on a local expat forum about my situation and was horribly ridiculed for thinking it could be even partially real. Without even seeing my picture some gave long descriptions of how ridiculous we would look together and one said don't be surprised if he can't perform. I can't get it out of my head now.
I think I've come to the sad conclusion that unless I lose the extra 50 lb. I am carrying, I am just going to stay lonely.
I found a guy on an online dating site that reads perfect for me. Into authentic cultures, third world travel, passion for helping others. I wrote him and he responded nicely that he loved the way I approach life but that he didn't think we would be a match. I can guess why. My profile pics are honest.
I met a guy on vacation last month and he wants me to come back to visit. I thought it might be for a green card, but I've told him clearly that I can't help him with that and that I can't help him with money either (a common thing in his country). He still wants to see me, but I can't get it out of my head that he must have an ulterior motive, otherwise why would he pick me. It is not like he is Adonis, but still......I can't shake it. I have no body confidence.
I'm going to visit in two weeks but I don't know if I can manage be even semi naked with him. Even a bathing suit is feeling questionable. Pretty sure he is expecting it will be intimate, and probably not just under the covers in a completely dark room. I don't know if I can handle that.
Regardless of whether this is society pressure or just my own poor body image, I think I just have to get this done. It seems so unfair and I don't want to be on hold while I try, but what other options are there?
Can anyone else relate? I have lost 5-6 lb. recently but that is only a start.
I forgot to mention my other forum experience that didn't help to say the least. I asked on a local expat forum about my situation and was horribly ridiculed for thinking it could be even partially real. Without even seeing my picture some gave long descriptions of how ridiculous we would look together and one said don't be surprised if he can't perform. I can't get it out of my head now.
