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Just a heads up, the manner in which I wondered this question, might be a bit awkward for some of you.
 
A couple of days ago, I was browsing some porn, didn’t see anything that caught my attention, until I found an amateur couple (I won’t mention who they are).  Like I always do when I find a curious pair, I check out their profile, it mostly mentioned personal details about the woman, what interested me the most though a particular description of her.  She states that she loves to travel and has been to many different places in the world, tries to experiences as much as she can and face all her fears, for life is too short.  Well, good for her, at least she has the confidence that many of us lack, but I think she mainly meant her comment in a sexual manner; most of her videos were public sex.  =/  I won’t get into details, but she was very kinky to say the least; her boyfriend’s a lucky man.  -_-  I then reflected about my life, I couldn’t help but wonder how many things could have been if I hadn’t grown up with my renal insufficiency problems, which probably made a permanent impact on how I view myself.
 
During my 10s, often times, I had to stay inside my house, in case something bad happened to me due to my delicate condition at the time, I had my video games, which have been part of my life since I was child, but I also had friends, both in school and around where I lived (except from when I was 15 and onwards), I definitely was a livelier person back then, my sickness wasn’t as severe and was still childish in some way (my mom said that I matured slower than average).  I was courageous too, although I wish I hadn’t been, there are many things I made that make wish I could just erase them from my brain; they’re very mortifying and alleviate myself by saying that I’m the only one who remembers that.  Nevertheless, despite the ups and downs, I treasure many memories, especially junior high school ones, where I felt in love for the first time, even though I didn’t made any moves on her, maybe my subconsciousness knew she didn’t like me as a boyfriend.  Here’s a photo of her on our graduation day, she’s the one of the far left:
 
http://www.mediafire.com/view/88atbln2jaunu6i/Scan002.png#
 
The best way I can describe my 20s, especially after going through my below average 10s, could be: lifeless, completely devoid of joy.  Couldn’t make any friendships, I failed more than succeeding; everything went downhill for me, even though I was cured from my renal insufficiency and finally being physically healthy, I somehow got worse emotionally and socially.  2017 is going to mark the 4th or 5th year in which I’ve done nothing but stay in my room and imagining myself in far better situations; I could have met people, gone to new places, feel new experiences, try new activities, etc.  Now, some of you might say that it’s still not too late for that, that I’m still young (I’ll be 27 on May, for those who are curious) and still have time to accomplish things, but that’s now what I’m talking about here, I wanted to do those things in my 20s, it just seems like the appropriate time to have fun, people in their 30s have usually settled down and go through a different phase of life.  It makes me angry when I see people 2 or 5 years younger than me traveling the world and having threesomes, while I’m aimless in life, writing on alonelylife.com in my dimly lit, moist bedroom.  O how my 20s have been a waste, years I’ll never have again in my one, short life.
 
I know I won’t get far in life, but I am somewhat still trying to better myself, for instance: I’ll start going to the gym soon and I’ll buy a Smart car sometime in the following months, I still don’t think these things will make a big difference, but at least everyone around me will see me a bit more positively.
 
Enough of me though, who else feels like this?  Or is it just me?

BTW, what's the masturbation thread about?  =|
 
You're still in your 20's, though, so that gives you 3 years to get what you want. It is entirely possible....if you get busy. Stop making excuses and get out there. Don't let your 20's be a waste, turn them around now. Go out and get what you want, travel, meet new people, make new friends, do what you want.

Most people would probably consider my 20's wasted. I don't. Not because I feel I accomplished a lot, because I didn't. Rather because I learned from it. I had to basically start over in my late 20's, but I did it. Wasn't easy, but I did it anyway. I can't change the past, so I refuse to dwell on it and I wouldn't change it because I wouldn't be who I am now. So, it just is what it is, it's part of my past.


Fap, no fap reddit....arguing...off topic nonsense. The usual.
 
You will never be as young as you are now and if you regret wasting your 20's years think about how you'll feel looking back at wasted 30's, 40's and 50's.  GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

I wish I was still as young as you are.
 
I wonder about it too. I didn't have a health difficulty but I wondered how different my life would have turned out if I hadn't been bullied or ostracized, or if I'd been more confident and socially "with it" growing up. It also made an impact on how I saw myself.

I don't know if I'd really consider it to have wasted my life though. Sometimes when I catch myself wondering about how things might have gone differently under different circumstances, I remember that I just didn't know any better at the time. I didn't know what my options were, or how to handle various things, because I just wasn't experienced enough to know. With most of the people I grew up with, I really didn't have that many options for friendly socialization. Also, it wasn't unhappy all the time. Most of my childhood was pretty good, there are only a few things that I feel like I should have done differently.

Now that we do know better though, we can do things like we wish we had the first time though. I hear you about the feeling of aimlessness too and I think that's the big part of the problem. I too have been aimless for a while and i think this is the problem, you want to do something but you don't know exactly what or where to start. You know, I know that we want to do SOMETHING but we're not sure what that something is. Maybe take the time to make a list of all the things you want to do, places you want to go, stuff you want to learn more about. I think it's a matter of just taking the time to sit down with yourself and try to answer some of these questions.
 
constant stranger said:
You will never be as young as you are now and if you regret wasting your 20's years think about how you'll feel looking back at wasted 30's, 40's and 50's.  GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

I wish I was still as young as you are.

I am. I am at starbucks.

A little better..not by much
 
Restless soul said:
constant stranger said:
You will never be as young as you are now and if you regret wasting your 20's years think about how you'll feel looking back at wasted 30's, 40's and 50's.  GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

I wish I was still as young as you are.

I am. I am at starbucks.

A little better..not by much

Um, this thread isn't yours....
 
TheRealCallie said:
Restless soul said:
constant stranger said:
You will never be as young as you are now and if you regret wasting your 20's years think about how you'll feel looking back at wasted 30's, 40's and 50's.  GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

I wish I was still as young as you are.

I am. I am at starbucks.

A little better..not by much

Um, this thread isn't yours....

Oh come now. Just be glad i am here and not banned
 
Excuse me. Don't worry. I am still alive. Not in jail. No woman called the cops on me.....yet
 
AmytheTemperamental said:
Jail would be the least of my fears lol.

That was my thought. Another thought was that I want your signature... in my face.
 
Restless soul said:
Excuse me. Don't worry. I am still alive. Not in jail. No woman called the cops on me.....yet

Well, there's always tomorrow.
 
Hey Restless, if you don't mind, please take your fight with the ladies to another one of your threads, please.
I don't mean to be rude, but with the attitude you have, I just have to be blunt.

constant stranger said:
GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

Hey stranger, just out of curiosity, you didn't meant this comment in an insulting manner, right?
 
AnonymousMe said:
Hey Restless, if you don't mind, please take your fight with the ladies to another one of your threads, please.
I don't mean to be rude, but with the attitude you have, I just have to be blunt.

constant stranger said:
GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

Hey stranger, just out of curiosity, you didn't meant this comment in an insulting manner, right?

Hey I am sorry if you feel that I intruded upon your thread here. But what fight and attitude are you referring to?
Wasn't fighting.
 
Restless soul said:
Hey I am sorry if you feel that I intruded upon your thread here. But what fight and attitude are you referring to?
Wasn't fighting.

Well, I guess "arguing" would have been more appropriate.  You did say that women haven't called the cops on you, which is an obvious indication about your thread in which you ask if complimenting a woman's legs is a good approach, which, by the way, IT'S NOT, those types of comments makes women think that all you are after is their body.  If you want to make first impressions and get women interested in you, I suggest you search tips on how to flirt, it doesn't matter how you look, I've read that that always works.
By the way, I read your thread and this will sound strange to you, but the rest of the ladies were actually trying to protect you, many women are a bit loony nowadays due to the overly abundant, political correctness.  If you're unlucky enough to meet someone that's a feminist, or more appropriately, a "feminazi," she'll do more to you than just calling the cops on you.  My advice is this: after you're properly groomed and approach someone with lovely legs, talk to her, just like building up a normal friendship, make her feel comfortable while being funny and don't be afraid to break the touch barrier.  Before you know it, those legs will be yours!  =)  You might stumble and face a few rejections, but women don't like quitters!
It'll be up to you if you want to take my advice seriously though, as my contact with women has been abysmal, purely by choice; I lack almost every quality that requires me to be a long-term boyfriend.
 
AnonymousMe said:
Restless soul said:
Hey I am sorry if you feel that I intruded upon your thread here. But what fight and attitude are you referring to?
Wasn't fighting.

Well, I guess "arguing" would have been more appropriate.  You did say that women haven't called the cops on you, which is an obvious indication about your thread in which you ask if complimenting a woman's legs is a good approach, which, by the way, IT'S NOT, those types of comments makes women think that all you are after is their body.  If you want to make first impressions and get women interested in you, I suggest you search tips on how to flirt, it doesn't matter how you look, I've read that that always works.
By the way, I read your thread and this will sound strange to you, but the rest of the ladies were actually trying to protect you, many women are a bit loony nowadays due to the overly abundant, political correctness.  If you're unlucky enough to meet someone that's a feminist, or more appropriately, a "feminazi," she'll do more to you than just calling the cops on you.  My advice is this: after you're properly groomed and approach someone with lovely legs, talk to her, just like building up a normal friendship, make her feel comfortable while being funny and don't be afraid to break the touch barrier.  Before you know it, those legs will be yours!  =)  You might stumble and face a few rejections, but women don't like quitters!
It'll be up to you if you want to take my advice seriously though, as my contact with women has been abysmal, purely by choice; I lack almost every quality that requires me to be a long-term boyfriend.
No, no. You misunderstood. I was being facetious. Wasn't serious. No one called the cops. 

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate the advice here and assume most are out for my best interest.  As far as the forward comments to women I rarely do it. Have done it. It's always a risk. I usually have good judgement with who I say anything with usually get an idea how they might react. Calling the cops for a comment? Hmmm. I am too concerned they will freak. But...it's something to keep in mind I guess😀
 
AnonymousMe said:
Hey Restless, if you don't mind, please take your fight with the ladies to another one of your threads, please.
I don't mean to be rude, but with the attitude you have, I just have to be blunt.

constant stranger said:
GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM AND LIVE A LIFE!

Hey stranger, just out of curiosity, you didn't meant this comment in an insulting manner, right?

No I did not intend the comment to be insulting.  But it WAS  undiplomatic and altogether too flippant and I'm sorry that I did not word it more thoughtfully.

Actually I'm sympathetic to the OP's plight and I can see myself in it.....except I'm four decades older.  That's probably why I was shouting in caps.......it's tantalizing to imagine still having the promise of youth and yet not savoring it.  I'm transitioning into old age and looking back at sixty some years of unhappy living, so all you young people:  your lives are ahead of you and what it's going to be like is mostly what you make of the cards you got dealt.

And there's an expiration date on blame and excuses just like there is on how long we get to live.
 

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