warrior452
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Just feelin' the blues. I have a lot on my plate, but I can't talk to people about it, because I get accused of complaining too much and I need to just "grow up" "man up" "deal with it." I connect really really well with the girls in my life as a friend, but I have really low self-esteem when it comes to pursuing/dating a girl. My mom tells me it's because I need to work on becoming more established and attractive and "marketable" for a lack of a better word. I've kinda let my act go in the last couple of years. However, I don't really think it's connected. I tried really hard to keep it all together in high school - good grades, work, all that. I was in decent shape, and I guess I'm attractive in an average kind of way. And girls were a problem as far back as junior high. Either it was, "you missed your opportunity" or "I'm not interested." Even have gotten a few, "I love you and all, but I'd never date you."
I'm not good at connecting with other guys. Never been good at the stereotypical guy things. More artsy - theater, music, etc. I have kind of an odd personality. I'm loud (I try not to be) and I talk a lot. I'm forgetful or sometimes I just process things in weird ways - to the point of people sometimes questioning what's going on upstairs. I try and be funny and say really ignorant stuff. Sometimes come off as kind of feminine I think since I spend more time with girls. I really want/need a good solid, healthy relationship with a few guy friends in my life, and I feel like none of them truly like me and I feel like I'm burdening them with my friendship. I don't want to be tolerated or a project.
I feel like I've pushed a lot of people away. Recently I took a sabbatical year from college, and the few closer friends I had basically stopped talking to me. I just feel lonely. Not looking to find my validation in someone or get pumped up. Just to feel like I have people who truly care about me, and aren't just tolerating me. That like me for me. I'm trying to not complain a whole lot, but I need someone who can hear about all that's going on in my life and not tune me out. Someone who can support me and who I can be there for too! I miss that so much, and I haven't really felt that in a few years.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not good at connecting with other guys. Never been good at the stereotypical guy things. More artsy - theater, music, etc. I have kind of an odd personality. I'm loud (I try not to be) and I talk a lot. I'm forgetful or sometimes I just process things in weird ways - to the point of people sometimes questioning what's going on upstairs. I try and be funny and say really ignorant stuff. Sometimes come off as kind of feminine I think since I spend more time with girls. I really want/need a good solid, healthy relationship with a few guy friends in my life, and I feel like none of them truly like me and I feel like I'm burdening them with my friendship. I don't want to be tolerated or a project.
I feel like I've pushed a lot of people away. Recently I took a sabbatical year from college, and the few closer friends I had basically stopped talking to me. I just feel lonely. Not looking to find my validation in someone or get pumped up. Just to feel like I have people who truly care about me, and aren't just tolerating me. That like me for me. I'm trying to not complain a whole lot, but I need someone who can hear about all that's going on in my life and not tune me out. Someone who can support me and who I can be there for too! I miss that so much, and I haven't really felt that in a few years.
I don't know what to do.