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Friends are hard to find.
#1
Real.

In your work.

On the internet.

Just anywhere.

At my work everyone is obsessed about who's dating who or who's screwing who or who likes who. They are good to be with sometimes, they're fun company, cheerful. But I don't really know what their motives are. I hear them gossiping behind other people's back, they could very well be gossiping about me too. 

On the internet, no offense but we're all complete strangers. It's like trying to make friends in a masquarade. Anyone could be phishing anyone. So there's not much trust compared to actually being there in front of the other person.

I don't know where else to go to make friends. At church people are too shy to invite you to go out and do something fun and when I try to do that they always seem busy.

I've never been clubbing but I'm guessing everyone just wants to get laid there.


dang. 

not really a useful topic, just a rant.

yea its hard to find friends.
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(07-21-2017, 06:46 AM)Idol Minos Wrote: On the internet, no offense but we're all complete strangers. It's like trying to make friends in a masquarade. Anyone could be phishing anyone. So there's not much trust compared to actually being there in front of the other person.

The internet is a good starting point, sometimes. The anonymity allows for honesty and openness sometimes. After all, masks can be worn face to face as well. 

Of course it's not a substitute for rl friendships. And yes - those are not easy to find.
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(07-21-2017, 06:46 AM)Idol Minos Wrote: On the internet, no offense but we're all complete strangers. It's like trying to make friends in a masquarade. Anyone could be phishing anyone. So there's not much trust compared to actually being there in front of the other person.

I've met some of my greatest friends online.  It's not easy, no, but if you put in the time to get to know people, you find some good ones.  Same out in the real world.  You just have to keep looking until you find someone worthwhile.
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#4
I think that's how it is with age. I've been told to "just go out there", and even between work, volunteer work, and a class, I did not make new friends.

People who are used to making friends and in a good environment for doing so tend to underestimate how fickle it really is. People need to be exposed to each other regularly and have some common ground, and lifestyles and schedules that fit together...

I've made good friends over games I play regularly, but finding people in the same stage of life, with similar values and activities, is not so easy. Many people at my age are busy parents and focused on careers with little time to bond with new people purely for friendship.
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#5
Good friends are even harder to keep.
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#6
You're close with the clubbing thing, everyone just wants to get drunk and laid lol.

God I know what you're talking about, I moved a month ago and no matter how hard I try. No matter where I go, I can't make a single friend. Acquaintances...yes. Not real friends you'd care about if they're having a bad day. I'm going to try joining a football(soccer) team next to try and meet people and do some excersise.

All you can do is join clubs and increase your activity! Bars work if you find a nice quiet one you can talk in, but it's hit and miss. Find a bar you like and become a regular then sit at the bar and talk to the staff. That way people basically have to acknowledge you if they're ordering a drink.

But hey! I don't know what you like! Try and find a sports club you like and it will be a lot easier to make friends as you all have the same passion! Not even a sports club, any!

Anyway..Good luck!
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#7
Alright guys thanks for reading and responding to my little rant. 'preciate it.
"From my mind to these pages
to another time and another reader's eyes,
it's amazing how I can speak to you
over time and distance.
That is the Beauty of Literature."
-P.L.R.
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#8
(07-21-2017, 06:46 AM)Idol Minos Wrote: Real.

In your work.

On the internet.

Just anywhere.

At my work everyone is obsessed about who's dating who or who's screwing who or who likes who. They are good to be with sometimes, they're fun company, cheerful. But I don't really know what their motives are. I hear them gossiping behind other people's back, they could very well be gossiping about me too. 

On the internet, no offense but we're all complete strangers. It's like trying to make friends in a masquarade. Anyone could be phishing anyone. So there's not much trust compared to actually being there in front of the other person.

I don't know where else to go to make friends. At church people are too shy to invite you to go out and do something fun and when I try to do that they always seem busy.

I've never been clubbing but I'm guessing everyone just wants to get laid there.


dang. 

not really a useful topic, just a rant.

yea its hard to find friends.

Trust me, you'e better off without friends. They just turn their back on you. People are assholes.
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(07-21-2017, 06:46 AM)Idol Minos Wrote: Real.

In your work.

On the internet.

Just anywhere.

At my work everyone is obsessed about who's dating who or who's screwing who or who likes who. They are good to be with sometimes, they're fun company, cheerful. But I don't really know what their motives are. I hear them gossiping behind other people's back, they could very well be gossiping about me too. 

On the internet, no offense but we're all complete strangers. It's like trying to make friends in a masquarade. Anyone could be phishing anyone. So there's not much trust compared to actually being there in front of the other person.

I don't know where else to go to make friends. At church people are too shy to invite you to go out and do something fun and when I try to do that they always seem busy.

I've never been clubbing but I'm guessing everyone just wants to get laid there.

Lol.

Pretty good description. I once worked in a place, where everyone was gossiping. I stayed away from this, because that's exhausting for me and the people have pretty negative energy. I can't imagine them being friends, ever.

I have several very good friends though, who have stayed with me... like for a decade or more. I think they key is that they are people with who you 1) have similar hobbies/interests, 2) most crucially similar view of the world/life philosophy. So you can basically discuss about the world, life, everything without any problem at all. Yeah, that's cool. You can share every thought without needing to hold yourself back or wear a mask, and it doesn't create any conflict whatsoever, because deep down you understand the issue.

But these are the kind of people, who naturally have more depth in them (I mean are smarter than average). I don't think there is a rule, where you could find them. Internet can be useful, because it could unite people with similar interests (like a forum dedicated to some topic). And also a couple of people have remained from the time I was in high school/university, but that's a decade or more ago now.
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#10
Meeting friends is easy but having a good friendship that lasts with honest ppl that love you is hard in this world. I would just say hang on there, don't give up, maybe someday you will find real friends.
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