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As you may have read from my previous thread, I'm learning to set healthy boundaries in allowing how others treat me. As a people-pleaser that has based my feelings of self-worth on how much others like me - I've come to realize that it has severely damaged my self-esteem and mental health and I'm left alone picking up the pieces.
I've started looking into self-help books, YouTube videos and (obviously) the forums here on adjusting my mentality of constantly seeking approval and validation from people. People who don't give a honeysuckle about me which is pretty much almost everyone.
I've love to hear any advice that any of you all have or any comments. We all found this forum for a reason! I have some books on hold at the library and I'll share them once I get to reading them.
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I really like this YouTuber Marie Dubuque's videos. I wish I could meet her! I feel like I hit the jackpot when I found her videos.
I'm sick of being a doormat for selfish egomaniacs! My time is valuable too. I want to be around people who care about me, respect me and value my time.
Here are some of Marie's videos that relate to me the most...she talks a lot about other people-related problems (friends, dating, colleagues etc.) so if none of these apply to you, her other videos might. Just thought I'd share in case anyone else here could benefit:
[size=large]Friends who don't return texts then all of a sudden contact you[/size]
[size=large]What to do when someone doesn't respond to your text[/size]
How to handle friends who flake out on you;are always late, don't show up
Should you stay friends with someone who never initiates contact?
How do you know when someone doesn't like you as much as you like them?
What to do about someone who is mean to you but nice to others
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hProNWtIW7U
I've started looking into self-help books, YouTube videos and (obviously) the forums here on adjusting my mentality of constantly seeking approval and validation from people. People who don't give a honeysuckle about me which is pretty much almost everyone.
I've love to hear any advice that any of you all have or any comments. We all found this forum for a reason! I have some books on hold at the library and I'll share them once I get to reading them.
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I really like this YouTuber Marie Dubuque's videos. I wish I could meet her! I feel like I hit the jackpot when I found her videos.
I'm sick of being a doormat for selfish egomaniacs! My time is valuable too. I want to be around people who care about me, respect me and value my time.
Here are some of Marie's videos that relate to me the most...she talks a lot about other people-related problems (friends, dating, colleagues etc.) so if none of these apply to you, her other videos might. Just thought I'd share in case anyone else here could benefit:
[size=large]Friends who don't return texts then all of a sudden contact you[/size]
[size=large]What to do when someone doesn't respond to your text[/size]
How to handle friends who flake out on you;are always late, don't show up
Should you stay friends with someone who never initiates contact?
How do you know when someone doesn't like you as much as you like them?
What to do about someone who is mean to you but nice to others
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hProNWtIW7U