MissLonely79
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What are some of the mind games people play? I know this gut feeling that is left with me after an interaction is not all in my head. Not so much interpersonal relationships such as romantic, family or friendships, wait scratch that, yes all of those but I'm more speaking ......in general. Through out my life, I've always noticed mind games people play but no one ever talks about them or...... gives voice to them. I think these silent mind games or more like power struggles if you will, someone smacking you down mentally so they can have the upperhand...whatever you want to call it, make a lot of people want to just be alone.
Here is one mind game that people play a lot that I hate:
I've noticed this A LOT in my life. Way too much. People who come to me with their problems, who want to talk to me about their problems, throw all their problems onto me, and I am thoughtful enough to give them really thought out non-cliche advice. I truly want to help. Well at the end of the interaction, they wind up defending the person they were just talking really badly about that made them feel like poop, and then I see the shift in them like they don't care about it anymore. It's like they really want to spite me and I don't know why? It's like they threw all their problems onto me, made me care about it and get all into it, then they feel better but not in a grateful way. They are not like "hey, that made me feel so much better, thank you". Nah, it's no where near that. It's almost like "ahahaha, I made you just as upset about my situation, or more, as I am and now if I just leave you right in the middle of it, it'll make me feel better because that will make me feel superior. I just dumped all my problems onto you" Something like that.
This happens to me more often than not. I can't be the only one. My question is, why can't we all just interact normally? Why must there always be a mind game in every interaction. I have not had a genuine human interaction in God knows how long. How did we get here?
Anyway, what is a mind game you all really hate?
What are some of the mind games people play? I know this gut feeling that is left with me after an interaction is not all in my head. Not so much interpersonal relationships such as romantic, family or friendships, wait scratch that, yes all of those but I'm more speaking ......in general. Through out my life, I've always noticed mind games people play but no one ever talks about them or...... gives voice to them. I think these silent mind games or more like power struggles if you will, someone smacking you down mentally so they can have the upperhand...whatever you want to call it, make a lot of people want to just be alone.
Here is one mind game that people play a lot that I hate:
I've noticed this A LOT in my life. Way too much. People who come to me with their problems, who want to talk to me about their problems, throw all their problems onto me, and I am thoughtful enough to give them really thought out non-cliche advice. I truly want to help. Well at the end of the interaction, they wind up defending the person they were just talking really badly about that made them feel like poop, and then I see the shift in them like they don't care about it anymore. It's like they really want to spite me and I don't know why? It's like they threw all their problems onto me, made me care about it and get all into it, then they feel better but not in a grateful way. They are not like "hey, that made me feel so much better, thank you". Nah, it's no where near that. It's almost like "ahahaha, I made you just as upset about my situation, or more, as I am and now if I just leave you right in the middle of it, it'll make me feel better because that will make me feel superior. I just dumped all my problems onto you" Something like that.
This happens to me more often than not. I can't be the only one. My question is, why can't we all just interact normally? Why must there always be a mind game in every interaction. I have not had a genuine human interaction in God knows how long. How did we get here?
Anyway, what is a mind game you all really hate?