jean-vic
Well-known member
I am introvert. It took me a long time to realise that I really don't like people much and I don't really desire their company or time. I like to be alone and social situations tire me out. However, I started a new job about four months ago. I get on with my colleagues well and we always have a laugh. I'm not particularly interested in socialising with them outside of work and I thankfully haven't been asked. That said, not one of them has added me on social media, but more recent additions to our workforce have been added. For instance, one member of staff who has been with us for three weeks is friends online with everyone who claims to be my friend, but not one of them has me as a friend online. Despite all of my desire to be alone, this has bothered me. It also bothers me that it bothers me. I should be above such petty concerns, but I'm not.
I wonder, and please weigh in with opinions, does it bother me because, despite my need to be alone, I also need to be liked? Is my recent flare up of depression causing me to overthink and adopt a more negative view of myself in light of objective opinion, both real and imagined? Is social media so pervasive that we literally define friendships and social health by our performance therein? Is there simply a greater need for social interaction than I am consciously aware of or does it all just come down to an egotistical need to receive social validation?
Thoughts?
I wonder, and please weigh in with opinions, does it bother me because, despite my need to be alone, I also need to be liked? Is my recent flare up of depression causing me to overthink and adopt a more negative view of myself in light of objective opinion, both real and imagined? Is social media so pervasive that we literally define friendships and social health by our performance therein? Is there simply a greater need for social interaction than I am consciously aware of or does it all just come down to an egotistical need to receive social validation?
Thoughts?