JohnWayne_Duke
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I am at a stage in my life (mid 50's) that i really dont need or want a relationship anymore. It would not serve a purpose as i dont need to talk, i am not looking for sex, and any other involvement would just bring undesired complexity and drama to my life for which i am just not interested. I have not dated for over 13 years and just really have no desire to, there is no place in my life or my environment for anyone in that regard.
Now at first yes this was hard for me but what made it better many years ago is that i realized that loneliness is a state of mind and we can blame society for that. Society as a whole has set the mark that you are less than normal if you dont have a relationship and much like the "white picket fences" view of success that many of us were brainwashed to believe, this is just not true.
The truth is you are the same person with or without someone, being with someone does not make you a better person, it does not make you more special, or more wealthy, that is all brainwashing that you must get out of your head. You are in fact special just the way you are!!
So with that said just enjoy your life, dont dwell on the fact that your lonely. Instead focus on the fact that you are lucky as hell not to have all the drama and BS that comes with relationships now days, and be thankfull of that. Be confident in your life, do what you want to do, when you want to do it. And if you dont want to do a darn thing and sit and watch TV then do that too.
Don't buy into the falsehood of what society sets as the standard because the bottom line is that life is not fair. If you fall into the pit of comparing yourself to others then you will be dissapointed most of the time. There is no rhyme or reason why one person succeeds in relationships and one does not (given the same data), thats just the twisted fate of life and there is no way to calculate that.
So be the best person you can be for noone else "but you" and be happy. Once you are able to change the way you think and feel about things then you will be much happier spending time with yourself.
I hope this helps!!
Now at first yes this was hard for me but what made it better many years ago is that i realized that loneliness is a state of mind and we can blame society for that. Society as a whole has set the mark that you are less than normal if you dont have a relationship and much like the "white picket fences" view of success that many of us were brainwashed to believe, this is just not true.
The truth is you are the same person with or without someone, being with someone does not make you a better person, it does not make you more special, or more wealthy, that is all brainwashing that you must get out of your head. You are in fact special just the way you are!!
So with that said just enjoy your life, dont dwell on the fact that your lonely. Instead focus on the fact that you are lucky as hell not to have all the drama and BS that comes with relationships now days, and be thankfull of that. Be confident in your life, do what you want to do, when you want to do it. And if you dont want to do a darn thing and sit and watch TV then do that too.
Don't buy into the falsehood of what society sets as the standard because the bottom line is that life is not fair. If you fall into the pit of comparing yourself to others then you will be dissapointed most of the time. There is no rhyme or reason why one person succeeds in relationships and one does not (given the same data), thats just the twisted fate of life and there is no way to calculate that.
So be the best person you can be for noone else "but you" and be happy. Once you are able to change the way you think and feel about things then you will be much happier spending time with yourself.
I hope this helps!!