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New boss is beginning to realize I am anti-social
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I like him, hate the staff...who are almost all female. Most are all flirting and butterflying around doing his bidding. I've been at this job since 91 and it's never been so icky as it is now. I like the new boss....but I have had HUGE boundaries, not talking to him about personal things, just business, work stuff.  This is willful because my last boss, new too much about me, but was both my biggest supporter and my biggest underminer. 


I am both used to being not liked, but at the same time wondering why. I'm not that unreasonable of a person, I'm respectful, yet people (not all) but most tend to clash with me.

To the point, my new boss now has been very business-like with me. I'm guessing it's because I have been that way with him, yet he always was so cheerful and appreciative. Now, its minimal conatact and strictly business when he does communicate. Not like I'm unhappy with that, but it's just another nail in the coffin of "people don't really like me."
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#2
Same. People are mostly needy creatures who can't functionally compartmentalize. It sounds like you compartmentalize quite well. So do I. Nobody at work knows much, if anything, about my personal life. This is by design. It's because I have no delusions that these people are my "friends" or "confidants." Quite the opposite. However, I am polite, professional, respectful, easygoing, and hardworking. Still, you can see the looks because you fit into this clique or that clique. Essentially, it's kindergarten. Keep your boundaries, but show no sign of discomfort or uneasiness.
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(11-14-2017, 06:39 PM)bleed_the_freak Wrote: Same. People are mostly needy creatures who can't functionally compartmentalize. It sounds like you compartmentalize quite well. So do I. Nobody at work knows much, if anything, about my personal life. This is by design. It's because I have no delusions that these people are my "friends" or "confidants." Quite the opposite. However, I am polite, professional, respectful, easygoing, and hardworking. Still, you can see the looks because you fit into this clique or that clique. Essentially, it's kindergarten. Keep your boundaries, but show no sign of discomfort or uneasiness.

Thanks... one thing I like about these forums is to find people who are like you. Or in this case, like me.
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Would you rather make money or make friends? Yeah friends are great but will your friends pay your bills at the end of the month? Just a food for thought. I'm a supervisor and I like to think I'm very outgoing and a wonderful person but at the same time I keep my co workers professional at all times. I don't go drama or unprofessional people.
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