telos
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i've been dating a guy since april this year. he's very sweet and i have developed some very intense feelings towards him, we are in a long-distance relationship - whenever we are physically together i feel content and i generally don't doubt our relationship, but whenever we spend more than 2 weeks apart i get very paranoid and fearful. if he doesn't message me for a day i always jump to conclusions that he doesn't care for me, he isn't thinking of me, he will leave me etc... this results in me being passive aggressive towards him and trying to text him less often, as i thought that being less clingy myself would make me feel less bad that he isn't openly clingy... i've talked to him about it numerous times and he is making an effort, in my bad moments he always reassures me that he does actually care for me and misses me, yet it still hurts me whenever we cancel plans or can't meet up due to his university assignments, work etc as there's a voice in my head that always tells me that i am just not important enough to him. i realise this is quite childish, as i can't expect someone to drop all of their responsibilites for me, but it feels like i can't control these intrusive negative thoughts and my unhealthy dependancy on him
i'm not sure where i am going with this, i just wanted to get it off my chest...
i'm not sure where i am going with this, i just wanted to get it off my chest...