Broken

michael2 said:

He sounds like a predator.  Surely he senses your lack of confidence, and is taking advantage of it.  You deserve much better then that.

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kamya said:

Sorry to hear about this PurpleStar. Do you have any children together? If not then I'd say you're lucky. If he is offering your a situation that you don't want then it looks like its time to move on. You'll be alright again some day. Keep your head up.

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PurpleStar said:

I feel so utterly broken right now.

My husband recently had an affair, and i believed we were trying to get past it. It wasn't so much what he did that hurt, but the lying and mind games that accompanied it as they nearly destroyed me. 

He was adamant there is no future for them, but still wanted the friendship which i allowed. He was more distant at home, increasingly these past couple of weeks, and today announced he basically wants us to separate so he can find himself and sort his head out, then maybe we can start meeting and try to rebuild something, even just a friendship (which I'm not sure i could do as it would hurt too much). This later evolved into what sounded more like a friends with benefits type thing with no rules or expectations.

I feel so broken and frightened and ill right now and don't know what to think. I have no self confidence as it is, and currently no trust in anyone, and now i feel completely unloved and unwanted too. 

I'm sorry, i don't really know what I'm expecting from this, but i just needed someone to talk to and i don't really have anyone.

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Unix said:

PurpleStar said:

I feel so utterly broken right now.

My husband recently had an affair, and i believed we were trying to get past it. It wasn't so much what he did that hurt, but the lying and mind games that accompanied it as they nearly destroyed me. 

He was adamant there is no future for them, but still wanted the friendship which i allowed. He was more distant at home, increasingly these past couple of weeks, and today announced he basically wants us to separate so he can find himself and sort his head out, then maybe we can start meeting and try to rebuild something, even just a friendship (which I'm not sure i could do as it would hurt too much). This later evolved into what sounded more like a friends with benefits type thing with no rules or expectations.

I feel so broken and frightened and ill right now and don't know what to think. I have no self confidence as it is, and currently no trust in anyone, and now i feel completely unloved and unwanted too. 

I'm sorry, i don't really know what I'm expecting from this, but i just needed someone to talk to and i don't really have anyone.

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I love you purplestar :

However I can't give you an advice, but I guess that you aren't looking for someone that gives you the solution to the problem, you just need someone that makes you feel not alone. 


So, use this forum to talk with us, listen some good music that cheers you up (Elo-mr Blue sky) and try to find someone to talk with on a daily basis, here and irl

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TheLoadedDog said:

Dump the cheating *******,  Just do it,  It will be painful.  It will be horrible.  And you will suffer.

But do it.  Becuse it will set you free, and if you do not, chances are he will do this again.  And there will be more excuses.

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