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The title basically says it all. Is it worth? I'm very good looking and i have a great and big physique but i have never been in a relationship due to the fact that i have a small penis (around 5 inches). So, i had also a pretty serious phimosis problems, which only now i have decided to resolve, getting my circumcision done. The fact that people think that i'm a great ****** just because i'm good looking is making things even worse, sometime i wish i was an average guy with an average dick.

Now i have no excuses that holds me from losing my virginity but i'm very concerned about the fact that the girls i know will laugh at me (they will, i have seen it so many times, even when i was traveling in train i have heard a group of girls that vere talking about how they were disappointed while finding that their favorite singer had a small dick) so now is just a question on how to get sexual experience without being laughed on every time. Also i work in a very aggressive enviroment, so if someone find that i have this issue i'm pretty sure that it will be the end of my plans to became an executive.

I have thought about going with escorts, but right now this isn't a great option since i don't have all that money to pay 100 bucks for a single fresia. But i also don't want to be virgin anymore. Any thoughts?
 
I don't really understand what's so wrong with being a virgin. It's not a race. Sure, a lot of people start having sex young, but personally, I feel it should be more than just a romp in the sheets, one night stand kind of thing.

Yes, I know not everyone feels that way about the subject, but it will happen when it happens. There has to be more important things in your life than when you're going to get to fresia a person...isn't there?
 
Being an adult male virgin is definitely shamed and stigmatized, but this is bad way of dealing with it for a a few reasons.

And as far as I know, sex workers often try and get the sex part over as quick as possible. It won’t do anything for your self-esteem either. Her blank stare and lack of interest will probably be obvious and burn into your brain as another ugly experience. Those kind of memories are the last thing a lonely guy needs. Yeah, some might be good at acting, but that’s all it’ll be at best: an act, concealing feelings of disdain towards you.

On top of that, can you call yourself a decent person after going through with this. I know that sounds like sanctimonious virtue signalling, but for men like us, concepts like being ‘decent’ matters, perhaps more than to the average person, because it's one of the few things we have left to base our self-image on.

And in the end it doesn’t even count, because you still haven’t been able to find someone who consented to sexy times with because they actually wanted it. Where’s the significance? Technically you’re not a virgin, but emotionally you are and most people, especially women, would frown if they knew, so it’s not like you’re going to want to shout this out to future partners. “Don’t worry ladies, I’ve had it with as sex worker, I’m experienced”. No. On the physical side of things, this isn't likely to make you any better at it either, since this isn’t a willing partner responding out of desire, rather it's just service being rendered in exchange for money.

You can tell me to go away and get stabbed in the back with rusty knife if you like, but in my opinion it changes nothing.
 
So, losing your virginity is not important, but if you force yourself to lose it then it's important?
Tha's what I'm getting from this.
 
I always say that it doesn’t really matter about size as long as you know how to use it lol

But I agree with Callie , it will happen when it will happen don’t force it too much :)
 
I wish I could have my virginity back.

That being said, even if I was equipped with a q-tip barely 2 inches long, I wouldn't go with a hooker.
You don't know where it's been. And it's nowhere near as fulfilling as a sexual relationship based on love.
Plus, at 100 bucks...you're ABSOLUTELY going to get one who's been to places...

But that's just me.
 
Wait...100 quid? Man if I had that kind of money to waste on sex I'd at least get a Dominatrix or something....forget I said that!.. I don't know why it's so important to you, on my 21st birthday I was a virgin and an escort offered to do me for free...infact her exact words were "I'm going to ******* ruin you". You know why I didn't take the offer? Because I don't want "sex" with a woman, I want a connection which eventually leads to you wanting to get to know...a bit more about eachother.. lol. As corny as that sounds I think most men are like this but get the feelings confused. If you genuinely just want to put your dick where many have gone before, go ahead! If it makes you happy I'd say 100% go for it, but I think you'll regret it in the future.
 
I agree with TheRealCallie as well, you don't have to force it, it will happen some day. Losing your virginity is not the most important thing in life and you have to be childish to shame people for things like that.
I'm usually the type of girl who sees sex as something you should do with the person you love, so I'd say that if you find yourself a girl who truly loves you, she wouldn't care about your size, as long as she's with you.
Escorts aren't worth that.
 
When I was in the army, my friend got a re-up bonus and he wanted to take me out and get some whores. I was a virgin, so this would have been my first. Prostitution is legal in Germany, or West Germany at the time, so it wasn't a matter of wandering red light districts. We drove to Saarbrucken, and went to a "poof house" so it was called. The place was discrete, a large home, no signs or anything indicating anything. We knocked, and a security guard let us in. Inside there was luxurious carpeting and tapestry. Real thick carpeting, we had to take off our shoes, and walked into a large dimly lit room with a bar. Behind the bar were girls....the one with looooong blonde hair I wanted. My friend wanted the same one but selfish me started talking to her first. They had a menu, drinks yes, but a sexual menu. "What did you want, and how long." Package deals, it was like being at mcdonalds ordering a value meal. Anyway, I ordered a hot tub 2 hour visit. Being the nervous virgin I was, I ordered drinks...since my friend was paying, I drank three really strong martinis. Going into the room, I knew I was in trouble. Nothing worked at that point thanks to me f'n drinking too much, to ease my nerves. I eased alot more than that. We spent some time "trying" and then talked. I told her sorry that I drank too much, that it definitely wasn't her. And I wished her good night. Of course, I told my army buddy a whole different story.

Moral of the story, don't drink and think you'll drive.
 
There is another aspect to consider as well.

That 100 dollars, and the thing that almost every guy will say is - yeah I lasted like 2 minutes.

So look at it from a purely financial aspect, you wont be getting value for money haha
 
TheRealCallie said:
I don't really understand what's so wrong with being a virgin.  It's not a race.  Sure, a lot of people start having sex young, but personally, I feel it should be more than just a romp in the sheets, one night stand kind of thing.  

Yes, I know not everyone feels that way about the subject, but it will happen when it happens.  There has to be more important things in your life than when you're going to get to fresia a person...isn't there?

As a woman you cant undestand the shame of this kind of problems

ardour said:
Being an adult male virgin is definitely shamed and stigmatized, but this is bad way of dealing with it for a a few reasons.

And as far as I know, sex workers often try and get the sex part over as quick as possible. It won’t do anything for your self-esteem either.  Her blank stare and lack of interest will probably be obvious and burn into your brain as another ugly experience. Those kind of memories are the last thing a lonely guy needs. Yeah, some  might be good at acting, but that’s all it’ll be at best: an act, concealing feelings of disdain towards you.

On top of that, can you call yourself a decent person after going through with this. I know that sounds like sanctimonious virtue signalling,  but for men like us, concepts like being ‘decent’ matters, perhaps more than to the average person, because it's one of the few things we have left to base our self-image on.  

And  in the end it doesn’t even count, because you still haven’t been able to find someone who consented to sexy times with because they actually wanted it.   Where’s the significance? Technically you’re not a virgin, but emotionally you are and most people, especially women, would frown if they knew, so it’s not like you’re going  to want to shout  this out to future partners. “Don’t worry ladies, I’ve had it with as sex worker, I’m experienced”. No. On the  physical side of things, this isn't likely to make you any better at it either,  since this isn’t a willing partner responding out of desire, rather it's just service being rendered in exchange for money.

You can tell me to go away and get stabbed in the back with rusty knife if you like, but in my opinion it changes nothing.

My life was always based on values like honor, kindness, responsability etc I was never reciprocated in any way, i have accepted the fact that i will be alone for ever, like the color of my skin, i have tried so much. It doesn't pains me that much anymore. However i want to have sexual satisfaction at least once. It wont make me better for sure, i know this. Facts are that the virtues i have developed in these years are useless in this world, there is no sense in keeping them

Xpendable said:
So, losing your virginity is not important, but if you force yourself to lose it then it's important?
Tha's what I'm getting from this.

I don't care about virginity, i care about my sexual insatisfaction. Also i care about not being laugh on since this might affect my work prospects
Moetan21 said:
I always say that it doesn’t really matter about size as long as you know how to use it lol

But I agree with Callie , it will happen when it will happen don’t force it too much :)

Yeah, girls always do...Today my best firend said to me how she was always "lucky" with guys ( she was the one who always said that size doesn't matters bla bla). I'm still a very caring person, i just don't want to make a girl feel "unlucky" about her relationship

Richard_39 said:
I wish I could have my virginity back.

That being said, even if I was equipped with a q-tip barely 2 inches long, I wouldn't go with a hooker.
You don't know where it's been. And it's nowhere near as fulfilling as a sexual relationship based on love.
Plus, at 100 bucks...you're ABSOLUTELY going to get one who's been to places...

But that's just me.

Who cares amymore, i won't get a heartfull relationship anyway

LifePath1 said:
Wait...100 quid? Man if I had that kind of money to waste on sex I'd at least get a Dominatrix or something....forget I said that!.. I don't know why it's so important to you, on my 21st birthday I was a virgin and an escort offered to do me for free...infact her exact words were "I'm going to ******* ruin you". You know why I didn't take the offer? Because I don't want "sex" with a woman, I want a connection which eventually leads to you wanting to get to know...a bit more about eachother.. lol. As corny as that sounds I think most men are like this but get the feelings confused. If you genuinely just want to put your dick where many have gone before, go ahead! If it makes you happy I'd say 100% go for it, but I think you'll regret it in the future.

Nah, i don't like the idea of being dominated  :club: the thing i'm regretting right now is to have wasted 1/3 of my sexual life
Effervescent said:
I agree with TheRealCallie as well, you don't have to force it, it will happen some day. Losing your virginity is not the most important thing in life and you have to be childish to shame people for things like that.
I'm usually the type of girl who sees sex as something you should do with the person you love, so I'd say that if you find yourself a girl who truly loves you, she wouldn't care about your size, as long as she's with you.
Escorts aren't worth that.

Girls like these don't seems to exist, only now i'm realizing of how bad is my relationship with girls 

morrowrd said:
When I was in the army, my friend got a re-up bonus and he wanted to take me out and get some whores. I was a virgin, so this would have been my first.  Prostitution is legal in Germany, or West Germany at the time, so it wasn't a matter of wandering red light districts. We drove to Saarbrucken, and went to a "poof house" so it was called.  The place was discrete, a large home, no signs or anything indicating anything.  We knocked, and a security guard let us in.  Inside there was luxurious carpeting and tapestry. Real thick carpeting, we had to take off our shoes, and walked into a large dimly lit room with a bar.  Behind the bar were girls....the one with looooong blonde hair I wanted.  My friend wanted the same one but selfish me started talking to her first.  They had a menu, drinks yes, but a sexual menu. "What did you want, and how long." Package deals, it was like being at mcdonalds ordering a value meal.  Anyway, I ordered a hot tub 2 hour visit.   Being the nervous virgin I was, I ordered drinks...since my friend was paying, I drank three really strong martinis.  Going into the room, I knew I was in trouble.  Nothing worked at that point thanks to me f'n drinking too much, to ease my nerves.   I eased alot more than that.  We spent some time "trying" and then talked.  I told her sorry that I drank too much, that it definitely wasn't her.  And I wished her good night.  Of course, I told my army buddy a whole different story.

Moral of the story, don't drink and think you'll drive.

There are no problems, i hate alchool :cool:

zibafu said:
There is another aspect to consider as well.

That 100 dollars, and the thing that almost every guy will say is - yeah I lasted like 2 minutes.

So look at it from a purely financial aspect, you wont be getting value for money haha

well, i won't get value neither spending them on a real woman since it will lead to another disappointment
 
What exactly does that mean...."as a woman I can't understand"? Why the fresia can't I? Because I don't have a **** penis? lol, seriously?
Yeah, no, that's bullshit. Sex is sex, regardless of what parts you have. Women desire sex just as much as men do.

Sounds to me like you need to fix your issues before you can get a meaningful relationship that may or may not include sex.
 
There are women out there who really don't care about penis size/shape, myself included and I know several others too. But I also know a lot of girls who take the piss out of men with small penis', I think it's sickening and it's not worth having sex with an ugly person like that.

Have you tried forming relationships with older women? Like women in their 30s or 40s? (I'm assuming you're in your 20s based on all might being your dp, love it btw). I've generally found that older women are way more understanding, compassionate and less fussy (I know that sounds insulting but your problem seems to be that lots of young women are top fussy about penis size and shape).

There's no shame in having sex with a prostitute, especially in your situation, but as someone said before it might leave you feeling more inadequate... If it doesn't work as you'd hoped then maybe see if you can develop a meaningful relationship with an older woman, itd be so much better for loads of reasons (obviously love is great, your confidence in bed would increase with practise, and you wouldn't feel like this anymore) but it sounds like you need immediate satisfaction, which you'd be better off getting from a prostitute. Be safe and I hope you feel better soon! :)
 
TheRealCallie said:
What exactly does that mean...."as a woman I can't understand"?  Why the fresia can't I?  Because I don't have a **** penis?  lol, seriously?
Yeah, no, that's bullshit.  Sex is sex, regardless of what parts you have.  Women desire sex just as much as men do.  

Sounds to me like you need to fix your issues before you can get a meaningful relationship that may or may not include sex.

There is no need to get angry.
I was talking about being a virgin, not about the sex. I know very well that women desire sex as much as men.
Male virginity is a way more complicated. A virgin woman is percevied as pure, a virgin male is percevied as a loser
 
I'm not sure that's totally true, women are also mocked for being Virgins, usually by other girls. But male competitiveness of sex is a big part of lad culture so I do get it.
 
Unix said:
TheRealCallie said:
What exactly does that mean...."as a woman I can't understand"?  Why the fresia can't I?  Because I don't have a **** penis?  lol, seriously?
Yeah, no, that's bullshit.  Sex is sex, regardless of what parts you have.  Women desire sex just as much as men do.  

Sounds to me like you need to fix your issues before you can get a meaningful relationship that may or may not include sex.

There is no need to get angry.
I was talking about being a virgin, not about the sex. I know very well that women desire sex as much as men.
Male virginity is a way more complicated. A virgin woman is percevied as pure, a virgin male is percevied as a loser

Wait, why am I angry?  Because I said fresia?  lol, yeah, no.  Not even remotely angry. 
But no, that's where you are wrong, especially today with all the slutty "role models" women have today.  I don't think male virginity is any less complicated than female virginity.  I know females who get just as much honeysuckle for being virgins as males do.  I also know males who don't get any honeysuckle.
One could also argue that the world would still perceive you as a "loser" if you have to PAY for sex to lose your virginity.
Aside from all that, who the fresia cares what other people think....what society thinks.  Be your own person and stop worrying about what the fresia everyone else is doing or saying.  Also, you're only a loser if YOU think you are a loser, the world doesn't decide what you are, only you can do that.
 
He's not wrong. Being a male and being a virgin is looked down up among some guys. If you haven't lost it by the time you are eighteen you get asked why, just do it, find a hooker, offers to hook you up with some easy girl. There are some things women will not understand just the same as there are some things men can not understand that women go through. There are differences and what he said IS NOT WRONG.
 

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