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losing virginity with an escort?
^Only you can decide this for yourself then.

It may help you get over any hangups over the physical aspect, but in regards to self-esteem paying for it is not a solution at all IMO.

You sound ashamed at the idea, so why do it?
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I've seen many camgirls and amateur videos and I've never seen a woman use a dildo smaller than 6 inches. And it's not that they don't sell any smaller. So I don't know where this concept comes from, where size is never and issue.
Loneliness of spirit is discovered in our depths.
Sometimes, when we least expect it, loneliness freezes us.
Or perhaps it feels like the bottom dropping out of our being.
We feel incomplete, as if something important is missing.
We feel shaky and insecure inside, weak and 'clingy'.
Sometimes this gnawing deficiency makes us want to 'devour' others
—to get as much of them as possible,
to complete our egos by possessing them.
Or we might seek to be supported and protected by others.
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(05-12-2018, 08:17 PM)ardour Wrote: ^Only you can decide this for yourself then.

It may help you get over any hangups over the physical aspect, but in regards to self-esteem paying for it is not a solution at all IMO.

You sound ashamed at the idea, so why do it?

Because i can't see any other options. Maybe i need to stop with porn and all these things. Thinking about people who lived 100 years ago, they didn't had any tangible comparison so they just had sex with others without worrying too much about this kind of things

Quote:I've seen many camgirls and amateur videos and I've never seen a woman use a dildo smaller than 6 inches. And it's not that they don't sell any smaller. So I don't know where this concept comes from, where size is never and issue.

I think is a sort of encoraugement to boost men overall confidence
"To conquer one's loneliness one must first conquer one's fears"
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I think visually big dildos are better. There's lots of things people do to get money with porn that they'd never want to do in real life. From a biological standpoint 6 inches can be small and it can also be too big. Since only TMI works to explain these things... in my experience anything around and bigger than 6 inches hurt and I cannot enjoy intercourse but 5 inches is perfect. 

I think that the emotional part of this idea worries me more than the act itself or any fears about this being your only option, but tbh I don't think this type of experience is as shallow as people think, especially if you're a regular client. What other questions do you have about this? How do you think you'd feel after the fact?
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(05-13-2018, 04:08 AM)DarkSelene Wrote: I think that the emotional part of this idea worries me more than the act itself or any fears about this being your only option, but tbh I don't think this type of experience is as shallow as people think, especially if you're a regular client. What other questions do you have about this? How do you think you'd feel after the fact?

I honestly don't think that anything good will come out, but i don't know what else i can do. Everyone is talking about emoctions but i always was "Emotionally Bullied" for having them, for sharing my feelings etc So i really can't think of someone who can feel emoctions, it seems fake to me. Probably is one of my biggest limits. When i see people talking about emoctions in sex a sort of sacrasm barrier rises in me, like: "oh yeah, lets see how long this emoctional state will last before you make fun of someone here". Of course i understand that this is a problem of mine, that is my fault. It simply sucks to be born like this, nothing more. 

I have so much work to do for improving myself. But in the end when i'm about to get started i thought pops in my mind: "So? you are still alone. No one cares if you improve, you can just stay at home, there will be no difference"
"To conquer one's loneliness one must first conquer one's fears"
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I really can't comment much on the last bit, because "giving up" is a personal decision - well, as much as you can call it a decision *and as much as you can call it giving up*

Anyways, as much as you've felt bullied about these things, you still do feel it on an emotional level. You wouldn't be here making sense of things otherwise and as much as you consciously want to avoid it - it exists and you're being influenced by it.
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(05-13-2018, 04:30 AM)Unix Wrote: I honestly don't think that anything good will come out, but i don't know what else i can do. 

Remain a virgin?

It's understandable to want to have had sex by a certain age with someone who's into the idea.But obviously that's not how it is with a sex worker. You're just a client. Where's the significance? Some of the least attractive guys on the planet that very few women would touch have had done that with sex workers. It doesn't mean anything.
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(01-09-2018, 07:27 AM)zibafu Wrote: There is another aspect to consider as well.

That 100 dollars, and the thing that almost every guy will say is - yeah I lasted like 2 minutes.

So look at it from a purely financial aspect, you wont be getting value for money haha

Probably the best reply in this thread.

Never mind all the moral/emotional stigmas and connotations. THIS is why virgins should avoid losing it to a sex worker. There are so many better ways to spend 100 bucks.
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(05-13-2018, 11:06 AM)ardour Wrote:
(05-13-2018, 04:30 AM)Unix Wrote: I honestly don't think that anything good will come out, but i don't know what else i can do. 

Remain a virgin?

It's understandable to  want to have had sex by a certain age with someone who's into the idea.But obviously that's not how it is with a sex worker. You're just a client. Where's the significance? Some of the least attractive guys on the planet that very few women would touch  have had done that with sex workers. It doesn't mean anything.

Why should i? There is no reason to remain a virgin. No one will "appreciate" virginity at the age of 23. Sex with an escord will never mean anyting. But now i'm quite curious of why men pay for sex, because not all of them are losers or ugly

Quote:Never mind all the moral/emotional stigmas and connotations. THIS is why virgins should avoid losing it to a sex worker. There are so many better ways to spend 100 bucks.

For sure. I ain't that tight on money. Well, i aint rich but i can afford to spend 500-600 bucks at month for these things. It just that i can't stand this situation anymore. In the last 4 months 90% of my thoughts were on this topic

Quote:Anyways, as much as you've felt bullied about these things, you still do feel it on an emotional level. You wouldn't be here making sense of things otherwise and as much as you consciously want to avoid it - it exists and you're being influenced by it.

Yes, that is the problem. I'm still full of emoction, and this si the only reason of why i haven't lost my virginity with an escort
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