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Been thinking about it lately and trying to put together a profile of people that are well liked... this is what I came up with.
1. good looking. Not always but if you can be good looking this really helps. I would break this category down into a few things.. well dressed.. clean cut... clothing that comes from name brands. Not necessarily intrinsically attractive.
2. No strong opinions about anything. My boss is well liked because he never actually has a strong thought about anything. Unfortunately for him he is in a position how where he has to take a stand. Unfortunately for us he never takes one and will do anything to avoid taking a stand.
3. No knowledge about anything. They suck up information that others provide them but never have any information to give to others. That doesn't mean they aren't smart, but they never provide information. They are always fascinated by anything you say as if they didn't know it and you are the most interesting person in the world. As if they are dependent on you.
4. NEVER do anything in a contrary manner than what everyone else does. You go along to get along. No mind of your own.
5. Always go to events and parties... even if you just stay for a second.
6. Never feel used even if people use you. That is just expected.
7. Be vunerable. Heart on your sleeve all the time. It kind of implies a trust that makes people want to take care of you.
Whatchat think?
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Uuuhhhh...meh yeah some of it. I guess it all depends on where you are basing your term of popularity from. I've seen people who were "popular" that it just boggled my mind as to why. The whole "popularity" thing is just a status we like to toss on things, whether it should or shouldn't have it.
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01-22-2018, 10:08 AM
(This post was last modified: 01-22-2018, 10:10 AM by ardour.)
Except for good looking, pretty much the opposite. Opinionated, ambitious, aggressive, highly social and cliquish. People with more passive personalities generally want the approval of those who are more dominant, that's why they're popular.
Sounds like you just resent a few people.
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I can't say about the 1st one since I haven't met many popular people. But for the rest,
2nd Look at Milo Yiannopolous
3rd Look at Ben Shapiro
4th Look at Elon Musk
5th Look at Shia LaBeouf
6th Look at Hillary Clinton
7th Look at Donald Trump
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01-22-2018, 01:52 PM
(This post was last modified: 01-22-2018, 01:56 PM by kamya.)
The first thing that came to mind before even clicking on the thread was "No strong opinions about anything". Not that they don't have strong opinions, they just don't let their opinions be known. I also agree a bit on the "go along to get along" a little bit. They are very rarely the type to rock the boat.
A more positive trait I've noticed about my more popular friends is that, when talking or hanging out one-on-one, they have the ability to make it seem like you are really important to them. They give you their full attention and are always positive and supportive. Very little negativity. Nothing repels other people faster than being negative. Even if they might have 100 other friends and you only see them once or twice a year, when you do get the chance to hang out you are their whole focus. They are actually curious about getting to know others and genuinely care for their well being. Their actions make people really feel it too.
Then of course there are some people that are ONLY popular because of the genetics gods blessing them with amazing looks, but no one actually likes those people really. =P It's all superficial unless the person actually has other good traits to go along with their looks. Sure they might get more attention but there is a trend of attractive people complaining about not being taken seriously. Bimbo/Slut/Fuckboy labels and all that. I don't think that kind of attention really equates to popularity as much as people think.
Extroversion, agreeableness, openness...
I don't think these traits have innate bad connotations at all, if it's the case that's being made in this thread (which I don't know if it is), but they can turn into something bad if you don't focus on developing well - that can be said about any personality trait, imo.
Also don't think good looks really fit here, sure they're more well accepted generally, but you have to give people something else to be popular among them... if it's just good looks they'll probably not like you very much (see Kamya's post).
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I agree.
But then you have to ask yourself, are the popular people really the ones you want around you all the time?
I tend to shy away from the popular ones. They're usually just pretending at what you've listed. The kind of people that exhude that at work, then they go home to their wife or husbands and bitch about work all night.
I'd rather people with stronger opinions that stand by them, or someone who I'm telling something too that looks at me and goes "I don't really care...honestly, neither should you" or some such. Popular tend to be so because they're good at pretending. I don't remember where I saw this, but I'd rather be hated for something I am rather than be loved for something i'm not, no matter the advantages I get from it.
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People are popular for all kinds of reasons. But I think people with strong personalities, who are humorous, or generally compatible people are the most popular.
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