Should I pursue a relationship?

Personally, I would rather have advice from someone who has had the experiences I want to have. It's all well and good to get "advice" from those in the same position, but what does that do? You don't know what you're talking about any more than the person wanting whatever it is. Whereas people who HAVE had sex a lot...those that have messed anything with tits...with be able to tell you their own outcome of what happened with exactly what the person wants.

I hate to break this to you but sex hasn't really changed all that much in the last few decades.....and chances are high that the older people have done honeysuckle you wouldn't even think to do....

Right, sex hasn't changed. Ever heard of the sexual revolution? The rise of promiscuity? The rise of sex partners? Online dating? Rise of divorce rates? Slut walks? Exponential growth of porn material? The act of sex may have stay the same (debatable) but society relation an perception of it has changed a lot.

Ever hear of orgies? I bet they aren't as popular as they used to be....And you really think promiscuity in mass is really all that new? lol

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http://sydney.edu.au/news/84.html?newsstoryid=1074

And no one is talking about the act of sex, no one is inventing anything. I'm talking about the access, the frequency, the quantity and the indifference that has changed the mentality towards sex.

Oh, I'm sorry, I forgot there's nothing you don't already know, whether you've experienced it or not....

Xpendable said:

I say OP should do whatever he wants and for starters don't ask in this forum. People only will tell him what they would do in his position but based on their own morals.

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You don't say... How else is anyone to answer? No one can speak through or for someone else. If the OP didn't want advice or other people's thoughts and opinion, they didn't have to post anything. But they did, so opinions are given. No one said they had to agree and follow every word of advice. It is their own choice.

Xpendable said:

You have twice his age, in that time those feelings have become weaker. People have become more shallow and priorities have changed. I don't want another person struggling with understanding how relationships work because he listens to people instead of evaluating what they do.

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...and you're half and again his age, a decade older. You're not from "his era" either, grandpa. Using that argument, why would he listen to anything you have to say? You're not his age either.
And you're projecting your own issues on him. He might know a lot more about relationships than you AND me combined, though that looks painfully far from the truth on your end. He's his own man, let him decide on what he's supposed to think. You sure as hell aren't the boss of him.

And MORALIST my ass. This isn't a question about morals, it's a question that if you want to just have sex with someone, you sure as hell don't want her back around banging on your door saying she loves you or throwing fits or trying to ruin your existence out of spite because she fell in love with you. And that HAPPENS. You'd know that if you'd lived it and it's a helluva situation to deal with, it's bad for both him and her. So MY POINT was to be very very careful.

I don't even know what your whole point is about age. It has nothing to even remotely do with morals, ideas, priorities or whatnot. It's a direct consequences of treating sexual relationships LIGHTLY. If he doesn't want a hassle he needs to be real careful and make sure he doesn't get one. Maybe it wouldn't bother you but consider how important he views respect of others, it sure as hell might bother HIM.

My advice didn't came from what I believe, but from objective observations made by others. My age has nothing to do.

Objective observations made by others....

LOL

Yes, people with IQ over 100. You should learn from them.

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My advice didn't came from what I believe, but from objective observations made by others. My age has nothing to do.

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And NEITHER does mine, but from subjective observation AND experience. You're the one who brought about an unrelated age debate.

Before throwing IQ comments around, you might want to look a good long while in the mirror.

Anyway, I've spoken my piece, I see nothing useful coming out of this pointless bickering. If the kid has question, he's old enough to be able to ask them.

Xpendable said:

Yes, people with IQ over 100. You should learn from them.

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Wow, so now I'm stupid?  First, IQ is hardly something to judge a person on.  Second, it's just a standardized test.  Third, what do you think my IQ is, exactly?

Don't. If I were you and had urges/desires like you have, i would focus on them doing something about them.

TheRealCallie said:

Xpendable said:

Yes, people with IQ over 100. You should learn from them.

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Wow, so now I'm stupid?  First, IQ is hardly something to judge a person on.  Second, it's just a standardized test.  Third, what do you think my IQ is, exactly?

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I think the first point is technically incorrect. Everything else being equal, I'd attach more weight to the methodology of a person with an IQ of 140 than I would one of 20.

Sure, I agree that an IQ score isn't everything and less important than other factors in at least some instances but I prefer  sound arguments over something that just sounds good... and I like being technically correct.

Richard_39 said:

Xpendable said:

My advice didn't came from what I believe, but from objective observations made by others. My age has nothing to do.

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And NEITHER does mine, but from subjective observation AND experience. You're the one who brought about an unrelated age debate.

Before throwing IQ comments around, you might want to look a good long while in the mirror.

Anyway, I've spoken my piece, I see nothing useful coming out of this pointless bickering. If the kid has question, he's old enough to be able to ask them.

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Wish saw this sooner but once again reminding people that insulting one another is not permitted here. Knock it off.

Wintermute said:

TheRealCallie said:

Xpendable said:

Yes, people with IQ over 100. You should learn from them.

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Wow, so now I'm stupid?  First, IQ is hardly something to judge a person on.  Second, it's just a standardized test.  Third, what do you think my IQ is, exactly?

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I think the first point is technically incorrect. Everything else being equal, I'd attach more weight to the methodology of a person with an IQ of 140 than I would one of 20.

Sure, I agree that an IQ score isn't everything and less important than other factors in at least some instances but I prefer  sound arguments over something that just sounds good... and I like being technically correct.

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A person with an IQ of 20 most likely has some mental issues where they aren't really capable of taking care of themselves.  So everything would definitely not be equal there.  That is too big of a difference to even logically consider. 
However, okay, my son definitely has a higher IQ than I do.  (he's close to 140, I'm not stupid and my IQ isn't exactly low).  Yes okay, he is smarter than me concerning education and what he knows, but he knows nothing of real life, he is "stupid" in terms of "street smart."  So no, you couldn't judge him and me based on IQ alone.  Yes, he has stronger ties than me concerning what he knows, but does that really make up for the things I know that he will likely always struggle with?  That's difficult to say.  So no, you can't judge higher functioning people based on IQ alone.

The numerous IQ tests I had when I was younger helped categorize me (isolate me?) as a genius. Considering the incredible, almost uncanny number of stupid decisions I made in my life, you wonder...

I think I.Q. is entirely overrated and completely inadapted to measure successfully the level of a person's intelligence, which factors a grat many variables seldom if ever taken into consideration. Whereas IQ tests don't measure anything save your ability to successfully complete the specific IQ tests you're passing. You'll probably still burn your toast the following morning.

At this point, you can take that opinion as the opinion of a genius or the ramblings of a madman. It's a toss-up, to be quite honest. ;-)

Richard_39 said:

The numerous IQ tests I had when I was younger helped categorize me (isolate me?) as a genius. Considering the incredible, almost uncanny number of stupid decisions I made in my life, you wonder...

I think I.Q. is entirely overrated and completely inadapted to measure successfully the level of a person's intelligence, which factors a grat many variables seldom if ever taken into consideration. Whereas IQ tests don't measure anything save your ability to successfully complete the specific IQ tests you're passing. You'll probably still burn your toast the following morning.

At this point, you can take that opinion as the opinion of a genius or the ramblings of a madman. It's a toss-up, to be quite honest. ;-)

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Why not a genius madman?

TheRealCallie said:

Richard_39 said:

The numerous IQ tests I had when I was younger helped categorize me (isolate me?) as a genius. Considering the incredible, almost uncanny number of stupid decisions I made in my life, you wonder...

I think I.Q. is entirely overrated and completely inadapted to measure successfully the level of a person's intelligence, which factors a grat many variables seldom if ever taken into consideration. Whereas IQ tests don't measure anything save your ability to successfully complete the specific IQ tests you're passing. You'll probably still burn your toast the following morning.

At this point, you can take that opinion as the opinion of a genius or the ramblings of a madman. It's a toss-up, to be quite honest. ;-)

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Why not a genius madman?

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Aren't they all? ;-)

I'd rather be just a madman. Just in case I end up with a more inflated ego than I already have lol.

Thanks for indulging my inner pedant Callie.
I personally value intelligence for its ability to free us from irrational behavior and reasoning, though I would not seek to foster it to the detriment of sympathy or creativity, for example.
Sadly being intelligent does not preclude one from being a ******* either.