just a man
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I'm writing to you because I'm looking for help. I feel very lonely and do not know how to continue my life. We have been married to my wife for 10 years, and we have been together since 16 years. Then I was 22 and she was 14. I love her almost from the beginning, and at her ... she showed love in the beginning, but she chilled me over the years. We were intimately close to my insistence, but we only did sex when she was 17 years old. We married in a few years, now we have a family, two children together, but my wife does not love me and does not wants me like a man. I feel very lonely and devoid of female warmth.
My wife claims that my impudence and selfishness, wanting intimacy and attention in the early years is the reason for her to withdraw from me. We never had a tumultuous intimate relationship.
I do not know how to do it. Otherwise, I'm fat, and I'm definitely not one of the men most women care about, and it also puts me in a losing position. My wife is a person who keeps the spiritual things, so I think that my appearance should not matter much, but I'm sure he does.
Her biggest pain is that in the early years when she was almost a child, I was looking for her as a woman (we did not have sex but had intimate proximity). Actually it hurt her and I guess can not forgive me.
Either way, we now have no physical proximity for a long time, even though we live together.
I miss so many things and I do not know how to live. There is no option to quit her. I love her and I keep her, too, of the children. I do not want to break my family, but I can not win it.
Give me some advice, I want to be with this woman, this is my wife, I have not had another in my life sexually and I want to stay so.
At the same time, I'm pretty sexually, and this deprivation makes me crazy.
On the one hand, if I stay away from her so as not to annoy her, do not I risk going further. On the other hand, if I constantly remind myself of myself and being a man, it further suppresses her.
My wife claims that my impudence and selfishness, wanting intimacy and attention in the early years is the reason for her to withdraw from me. We never had a tumultuous intimate relationship.
I do not know how to do it. Otherwise, I'm fat, and I'm definitely not one of the men most women care about, and it also puts me in a losing position. My wife is a person who keeps the spiritual things, so I think that my appearance should not matter much, but I'm sure he does.
Her biggest pain is that in the early years when she was almost a child, I was looking for her as a woman (we did not have sex but had intimate proximity). Actually it hurt her and I guess can not forgive me.
Either way, we now have no physical proximity for a long time, even though we live together.
I miss so many things and I do not know how to live. There is no option to quit her. I love her and I keep her, too, of the children. I do not want to break my family, but I can not win it.
Give me some advice, I want to be with this woman, this is my wife, I have not had another in my life sexually and I want to stay so.
At the same time, I'm pretty sexually, and this deprivation makes me crazy.
On the one hand, if I stay away from her so as not to annoy her, do not I risk going further. On the other hand, if I constantly remind myself of myself and being a man, it further suppresses her.