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Can People Love Each Other Equally?
#1
One thing I have noticed about all the women I have had relationships with in the past (not a high number, I assure you,) is that there is a pattern of mismatched love.

In every case one person's feelings are intense and the other person's feelings are muted. One person treats the relationship as everything they every needed or wanted out of life, and the other is like, "Meh. I can take it or leave it."

I have never been in a relationship where both myself and my lady-friend loved each other equally. One of us was always either feeling more intensity, more commitment, more passion, (perhaps more jealousy,) or more dedication than the other. And, I have been on both sides of the equation. I have either been the intense one, or I have been the "Meh" one.

What I have been wondering is whether or not this is always the case in every relationship. 

So, I have a question: Have you ever been in a relationship where both of you loved each other equally?

My hypothesis (based on an admittedly limited number of women) is that men and women (or any gender pairing) cannot possibly love each other at the same rate of intensity. Someone is always lagging behind. Someone always fell in love FIRST. So, I wonder what happens to bring both people together for the long-term? 

Is this a problematic hypothesis? Do I have it all wrong? Do we all have someone out there who we can love with 100 percent of our being and get 100 percent of their being back in return? 

TL DR - I believe that no couple can love each other on the same level. One person is always more intense, more passionate, more whatever than the other. Do you agree or disagree, and why?
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#2
In my own experience, I haven't experienced equal love, it has always been me who has loved more.

Although I can think of two relationships where I do believe they love equally. So I think it can happen, but it is very rare.
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#3
unquantifiable can't be quantified, since exact definitions vary wildly from one individual to the next. So in a nutshell...no.
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#4
It's important to ensure you are talking about real "love" in this discussion. Much of what passes for "love" in Western societies is hormones, intrigue, excitement, anticipation, infatuation, discovery, sexual attraction, etc. When you dig deeper and listen to a variety of enlightened voices have to say about love, you will find a common theme that "real love" is more a choice and a commitment rather than a feeling. Large amounts of the sheeple will never understand this as society has conditioned them to believe that butterflies-in-the-stomach (aka: I want to fuck you) means Love.
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#5
No - because, sadly the majority of women are attracted to masculinity, and the less invested you are, the more masculine you appear. Conversely the more attached you become the less masculine appeal you have. Quite depressing really.
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(08-29-2018, 01:43 PM)ardour Wrote: No - because, sadly the majority of women are attracted to masculinity, and the less invested you are, the more masculine you appear. Conversely the  more attached you become the less masculine appeal you have. Quite depressing really.

Hmm. This does not describe my own life experiences about women at all. I guess I have attracted a different kind of woman entirely.
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#7
I think I did in some relationship but then when I see how they end I don’t know
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#8
No one can love equally because we are each too different. Different feelings, different ideals, different morals/beliefs, etc etc.

But, on the other hand. Just because you can't have the exact same love, doesn't necessarily mean one loves the other more or less. The love is just different.
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(08-29-2018, 01:43 PM)ardour Wrote: No - because, sadly the majority of women are attracted to masculinity, and the less invested you are, the more masculine you appear. Conversely the more attached you become the less masculine appeal you have. Quite depressing really.

Stop with this bullshit, you won't be warned again.
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#10
Maybe if we loved each other for the same reasons, but no.
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