Danielle
Well-known member
*Long Post*
I had a beautiful baby girl just over 5 months ago. I love her, and she is my world. She is the sweetest baby.. this is not about her at all.
Just before our baby was due, My boyfriend quit his job. We had some money saved in the bank, so he didn't;t look for a job right away, and I was ok with that, In fact, I liked having him home during my maternity leave. But as the time went on, our money was running out. We rent an apartment from my grandmother, and once the money ran out, we weren't able to pay the rent. My grandmother was forgiving for a while, and gave my boyfriend time to look for a job. He was applying to jobs where he would make more money, but where he had no real experience, and no one was calling him back..... so after 2 months of that, and waiting for interviews, we decided that he needed to look for jobs, lower paying, but better suited to his skill set.
During this time, My grandmother talked to all my aunts and uncles (her kids) about how we haven't been paying full rent, or much at all the past 2 months and they got very upset. Which I do understand. I have lived here for 15 years, and am/was very close with my family. My Boyfriend has lived with me for almost 4 years, and he has never been a problem, we have never been a problem.
Out of the blue, the day after my Boyfriend finally finds a job, my family, without talking to me first, served my boyfriend with eviction papers and he needs to move out within 30 days. They no longer want him there. I asked my family to give us until tax season, to save some money, and get our taxes back so that we could find another apartment, and they told me NO, and that I must also be looking to leave before the Christmas Holidays.
As, I said, I have lived here for 15 years, always been on time with my rent, never caused a problem, and my boyfriend has never caused a problem the whole time he has lived with me. We just had our baby, and I have been back to work only 2.5 months. My family... people I thought I could trust, and lean on. People that I have done everything for, my entire life, are now making My boyfriend leave in 30 days, and me shortly behind.
I am not saying that my boyfriend not having a job for that long was a good idea. He should have gotten a job right away, I know there is no excuse for that, and he knows that too. We messed up in that regard, and I am forever sorry, but I can't help but feel so angry and hurt by my family to blindside me with evicting my Boyfriend and then asking me to leave shortly thereafter.
They all feel its time I "leave the nest" and that someday "I will thank them for pushing this along". Only issue is... we have no money, not enough to move right away..... and I am a mess. My dad is willing to help us a bit, (he is a different side of the family than I am talking about), But I don't really know what he means by "help us".
My family is forcing me to be a single mother, while I look for a new apartment so that me, my boyfriend and my daughter can live together again... All I can do is cry, all I do is mope and I cannot keep it together. I am so sad, hurt, angry, desperate....devastated, betrayed..... etc. My head is spinning, like I said, all I do is cry. I cry at work, I cry in the car, the shower, and I cry myself to sleep. My Doctor is so concerned by my sadness that he started treating me for Post Partum depression.
Anyway, I know my boyfriend and I are wrong, for not having paid rent the way we should have over the past couple of months, but I feel my family is over reacting and right now, I do not feel so friendly toward them. They still want me to come to cookouts, and Sunday dinners, but I just do not want to socialize with them right now.
All I want is for my little family, the 3 of us to be together, and happy. I pray to the universe that things will work out....that I will win the lottery, or someone will know of an affordable apartment for us. Thank you for letting me vent, and get this all out of my head. I don't know if any you have read this all, but if you have, thank you.
I do know this is my fault because of the rent.... but now I am just lost, confused, hurt and so stressed that I have no idea what to do anymore.
I had a beautiful baby girl just over 5 months ago. I love her, and she is my world. She is the sweetest baby.. this is not about her at all.
Just before our baby was due, My boyfriend quit his job. We had some money saved in the bank, so he didn't;t look for a job right away, and I was ok with that, In fact, I liked having him home during my maternity leave. But as the time went on, our money was running out. We rent an apartment from my grandmother, and once the money ran out, we weren't able to pay the rent. My grandmother was forgiving for a while, and gave my boyfriend time to look for a job. He was applying to jobs where he would make more money, but where he had no real experience, and no one was calling him back..... so after 2 months of that, and waiting for interviews, we decided that he needed to look for jobs, lower paying, but better suited to his skill set.
During this time, My grandmother talked to all my aunts and uncles (her kids) about how we haven't been paying full rent, or much at all the past 2 months and they got very upset. Which I do understand. I have lived here for 15 years, and am/was very close with my family. My Boyfriend has lived with me for almost 4 years, and he has never been a problem, we have never been a problem.
Out of the blue, the day after my Boyfriend finally finds a job, my family, without talking to me first, served my boyfriend with eviction papers and he needs to move out within 30 days. They no longer want him there. I asked my family to give us until tax season, to save some money, and get our taxes back so that we could find another apartment, and they told me NO, and that I must also be looking to leave before the Christmas Holidays.
As, I said, I have lived here for 15 years, always been on time with my rent, never caused a problem, and my boyfriend has never caused a problem the whole time he has lived with me. We just had our baby, and I have been back to work only 2.5 months. My family... people I thought I could trust, and lean on. People that I have done everything for, my entire life, are now making My boyfriend leave in 30 days, and me shortly behind.
I am not saying that my boyfriend not having a job for that long was a good idea. He should have gotten a job right away, I know there is no excuse for that, and he knows that too. We messed up in that regard, and I am forever sorry, but I can't help but feel so angry and hurt by my family to blindside me with evicting my Boyfriend and then asking me to leave shortly thereafter.
They all feel its time I "leave the nest" and that someday "I will thank them for pushing this along". Only issue is... we have no money, not enough to move right away..... and I am a mess. My dad is willing to help us a bit, (he is a different side of the family than I am talking about), But I don't really know what he means by "help us".
My family is forcing me to be a single mother, while I look for a new apartment so that me, my boyfriend and my daughter can live together again... All I can do is cry, all I do is mope and I cannot keep it together. I am so sad, hurt, angry, desperate....devastated, betrayed..... etc. My head is spinning, like I said, all I do is cry. I cry at work, I cry in the car, the shower, and I cry myself to sleep. My Doctor is so concerned by my sadness that he started treating me for Post Partum depression.
Anyway, I know my boyfriend and I are wrong, for not having paid rent the way we should have over the past couple of months, but I feel my family is over reacting and right now, I do not feel so friendly toward them. They still want me to come to cookouts, and Sunday dinners, but I just do not want to socialize with them right now.
All I want is for my little family, the 3 of us to be together, and happy. I pray to the universe that things will work out....that I will win the lottery, or someone will know of an affordable apartment for us. Thank you for letting me vent, and get this all out of my head. I don't know if any you have read this all, but if you have, thank you.
I do know this is my fault because of the rent.... but now I am just lost, confused, hurt and so stressed that I have no idea what to do anymore.
It'll be okay. Also, not trying to make light of your situation. That's pretty heavy stuff. Sometimes a little humor helps a bit.
