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still in love, heart broken to see them move on..
#11
i care about her health issues because i was the cause of it, to know i made or make people that way makes me hate myself. i wouldnt want someone to affect how i feel. but i suppose..
also no i havent got laid, not since we broke up and that was barley happening at the end of our relationship. so its been almost a year, i think 3 months shy. but still nothing, ive tried dating apps with no luck either, really poked at my self confidence, im not an ugly guy but idk.. i barley go out, i barley talk, and barley interact with strangers, almost never. so i havent really chatted up any ladies. usually my relationships happen because a girl liked me, i never get girls i like. and that barley happens so i usually accept even when i know i dont want to..... ugh
but, i did recently have a match on an app, but again, they liked me first and they're really into me, so much so that its really weird, but nice and im glad. we havent met in person yet but i feel horrible im still in love with someone while another is interested. i know the obvious, move on and get to know this new girl.
but not feeling "right" has stopped me alot, to high of morals to just fuck girls and ditch'em, its not like i could if i wanted, no game super lamo.
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#12
Opex, you’re over thinking.

I’ve been engaged twice, ended up a ten year relationship that went nowhere and been married and seperated for 5 years.

Go out and have some fun.

If there’s a girl that really likes you on an app or something, then go out and have some fun with her.

I’m sorry love, opex, 50% of marriages end in divorce. I love my wife, because she’s my wife, I made a commitment for life, my love is expressed by honering that commitment and not divorcing her and not committing adultery.

Do want to know something, according to the bible, love has nothing to do with marriage, according to the bible Corinthians 7:3-5 marriage is a sexual union.

If you marry a woman, she never has to love you, there is nothing in the bible that says a wife has to love her husband, absolutely nothing, it never uses those terms. She has to respect you, never does she have to love you. Ephesians 5:33.

So put all these fanciful notions of love away.
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#13
i dont really believe in marriage any way, or the bible. neither of those things have power over me, the connection and love is far more important than a title and ring. at least legally i think its mumbo jumbo. should be a nice ceremony of love and cheer, dont want to sound like a hater or anything.. but i suppose ill take what i can get.
itd be nice to actually be able to go out and have some fun but i suck at it and end up wishing i never went out, i suck a socializing and having fun.
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#14
(01-03-2019, 08:35 AM)opex100 Wrote: i care about her health issues because i was the cause of it, to know i made or make people that way makes me hate myself. i wouldnt want someone to affect how i feel. but i suppose..

You were NOT the cause of them.  Did you FORCE her to stay home?  Did you FORCE her to do anything she didn't want to do?  Did you hold a gun to her head?  Did you force feed her? 

You did NOT cause those issues, SHE did.  She is the one that chose to let that happen to her, not you.  The only person that can make you feel bad is yourself.  Whether you or anyone else wants to  believe that or not, it's true.  You decide how you react to someone, no one else.  You decide if circumstances or words or whatever makes you anxious or nervous or depressed or offended.  No one else can make you feel those things.
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(01-03-2019, 03:42 PM)opex100 Wrote: love is far more important than a title and ring.

But you can’t define love, you haven’t married this woman, you haven’t had children with the woman, you haven’t gone to work to provide for her or your family, you haven’t nursed her through sickness, the relationship appeared to have lasted only a few months and the end she seemed to go off sex.

I’ve been studying the bible for 5 years, i’ve been telling people for years, never marry on the basis of love, marriage in itself is a sexual union.
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(01-04-2019, 04:58 AM)Puddled Duck Wrote:
(01-03-2019, 03:42 PM)opex100 Wrote: love is far more important than a title and ring.

But you can’t define love, you haven’t married this woman, you haven’t had children with the woman, you haven’t gone to work to provide for her or your family, you haven’t nursed her through sickness, the relationship appeared to have lasted only a few months and the end she seemed to go off sex.

I’ve been studying the bible for 5 years, i’ve been telling people for years, never marry on the basis of love, marriage in itself is a sexual union.

You don't have to marry or have children or provide or whatever else to love someone.  You don't CHOOSE to fall in love, it just happens.  That said, not everyone who says they are in love are actually in love, especially if they haven't experienced the real thing before.   

Also, you can study the bible all you want, everyone who reads it interprets it differently.  It has a different meaning for everyone.  And not everyone is religious or follows the same bible.
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(01-04-2019, 05:16 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: You don't CHOOSE to fall in love, it just happens. 

But you can’t define love. If I you can’t define it, how can you say anything about it.

It’s a lofty notion that can mean anything to anyone.

Next off we’ll discussing morals, but no one can really define them.

I’m fairly clear on the bible, what it means to everyone else I don’t really care.

If you think you love someone, there are billions, billions, ten of billions that have come your way, only to find this lofty notion of love lying dead in the ground.

I didn’t marry wife because I loved her, never in a million years, I didn’t marry a millionairess because I loved her. It was the day I married her I loved her and honour that love by never divorcing her, never committing adultery and when she could be bothered with me supporting her and I supporting her through terrible circumstances for 3 years (2 year of that a seperation). The day she dies I’m released from that ‘love’.

Never does a woman have to love me, she has to respect me. Never, ever will I ever want my wife to love me. But I’d be happy (as the bible states) with just an ounce of respect.

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#18
yo puddle duck, you suck, scram
i dont give a fuck about your bible, who cares.
dont marry for love? because a book told you? i know thats how marriage started but its not anymore.
to many people care way to much about it and being married ruins love.
TheRealCallie knows what they're talking about. love is nature, natural and the post powerful energy in the universe.
love happens and you dont need responsibilities to do so, you have no idea what how my past relationships have been,
im not going to sit here and say you dont really love your wife or your past relationships.
just a little flick to my brain to just now..
but thankyou TheRealCallie, you make an excellent point
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(01-04-2019, 08:56 AM)opex100 Wrote: yo puddle duck, you suck, scram
i dont give a fuck about your bible, who cares.
dont marry for love? because a book told you? i know thats how marriage started but its not anymore.
to many people care way to much about it and being married ruins love.
TheRealCallie knows what they're talking about. love is nature, natural and the post powerful energy in the universe.
love happens and you dont need responsibilities to do so, you have no idea what how my past relationships have been,
im not going to sit here and say you dont really love your wife or your past relationships.
just a little flick to my brain to just now..
but thankyou TheRealCallie, you make an excellent point

There is no love, I simply do not recognise this word love, because I can’t define it.

Love is the most powerful energy in the universe? Really?

About now this woman you love, is probably shagging someone else, then there might be someone else, well then someone else and someone else.

The minute you date another woman, or have sex with another woman, this concept of love you have will be blown apart, for the rest of your entire life, you will never recover, never!. Let it go now!

How long are you prepared to cling onto it for?. For the rest of your entire life?.

If I have to tell people once I have to tell people a million times and I doubt I only know maybe a few people in the world that would agree with me, marriage is a sexual union, nothing more, nothing less. What I tell you has cost me a wife, a £250,000 house, 3 step children and a tap into a £20 million pound turnover company.

The minute you walk down the street and even glance at another woman, every single notion you have about love, gone forever!, never will return!.
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That's YOUR opinion. Stop trying to force it on everyone else.

opex100, just ignore him, you'll only get yourself in trouble if you keep replying to him.
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