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I feel  like I'm running out of options....  I just cannot find an apartment.  Yes, there are places out there,  but my credit score is not great, and people are just not renting to me.    I'm already looking at places at the max budget I can squeak by and afford..barely.

I am feeling very defeated, and had no idea this would be so freaking difficult. I need help, and no one can help me.  I need money, and no one can help me there either.   

I've never asked anyone for anything in my 41 years of life,  but I feel like I need to grovel and beg my dad to help me.  At my age, I never thought things would be such shit.

Anyone have any suggestions at all...  any advice would be appreciated.    I really am at the end of my rope.
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#2
Can relate to your problems. When I was 15 and tried to find somewhere to stay it was extremely difficult. Called and went to so many people trying to get a chance. Nobody wanted to rent out to a uncertain paycheck.
Got lucky tho after so many fails. Keep at it. It has to turn at some point.
But yeah if you think your father can help you that’s worth a shot. I don’t think you should feel ashamed for asking him. Life is hard. Sometimes you just got to swallow it to get going further down the road.
Hoping it works out for you. 🌈
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I feel your pain too, I have been working on my credit ever since I ran it into the ground taking care of my mother before she passed. People don't care that you ruined your credit putting family first.

My ex wife is moving to Kentucky next summer and taking my son with her, since she is now dating a guy that will apparently be moving with her I am ass out on any help to relocate. I have to save as much money as I can, then move to Ky, by myself with no job and live in a hotel until I can either find a job or end up out on the street. I am freaking out, and I have no support structure, nor anyone that can help me. My other option is to stay in Fl. and only see my son a few times a year, and I can honestly say that will not last long for me as he is all I have left in this world!

I am sorry its only that I can relate, but if you need to vent I'm here!
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#4
Jessicat.. thank you, I hope something works out soon too...


Svisionguy... I am so sorry you are in the same boat... This is hard and scary. Eventually, it all has to work out... but, just, when??? Feel free to vent to me too...
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
— Dr. Seuss
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(11-06-2018, 03:55 AM)svisionguy Wrote: My ex wife is moving to Kentucky next summer and taking my son with her, since she is now dating a guy that will apparently be moving with her I am ass out on any help to relocate. I have to save as much money as I can, then move to Ky, by myself with no job and live in a hotel until I can either find a job or end up out on the street. I am freaking out, and I have no support structure, nor anyone that can help me. My other option is to stay in Fl. and only see my son a few times a year, and I can honestly say that will not last long for me as he is all I have left in this world

Wtf. Why is she doing that? 
Hmm. I get that you guys aren’t together but you are the father of her child, shouldn’t she think about staying near you so he can be with you. If she has to move then there should have been a talk about what town you all can settle together inn.
Hope I don’t step on anyone’s toes now, just my opinion.
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#6
Have you looked a little outside the town? Not sure what is an acceptable commute for you, but if you get outside the city, it's usually cheaper.

Or. Just move where I live. It's cheap and I want that baby!!! Lol
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(11-06-2018, 04:16 AM)Jessicat Wrote:
(11-06-2018, 03:55 AM)svisionguy Wrote: My ex wife is moving to Kentucky next summer and taking my son with her, since she is now dating a guy that will apparently be moving with her I am ass out on any help to relocate. I have to save as much money as I can, then move to Ky, by myself with no job and live in a hotel until I can either find a job or end up out on the street. I am freaking out, and I have no support structure, nor anyone that can help me. My other option is to stay in Fl. and only see my son a few times a year, and I can honestly say that will not last long for me as he is all I have left in this world

Wtf. Why is she doing that? 
Hmm. I get that you guys aren’t together but you are the father of her child, shouldn’t she think about staying near you so he can be with you. If she has to move then there should have been a talk about what town you all can settle together inn.
Hope I don’t step on anyone’s toes now, just my opinion.

Shes doing it for work, Right now she has to travel every other week and it is getting hard on her. When the discussion of moving came up she was single, and was willing to allow me to stay with her while I found a job and then a place of my own. Now she is in a relationship, and that is not possible...she has offered to "help me move" but I don't think she is seeing the big picture...if it was just getting to Ky that was a problem I would leave everything I own and drive up with just the clothes on my back. But, either she isn't thinking or realizing that since I have no job there i'll have no way to secure an apt, or house...so I'd have to live in a hotel...that with my car payment, student loan payments cell phone etc is like 2200-2500/month. So basically, I have to put every penny I can spare in saving and hope I find something before I run out...my only other option would be to clean out my retirement again, which I had to do to take care of my mom...

So, ya...
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(11-06-2018, 04:52 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: Have you looked a little outside the town?  Not sure what is an acceptable commute for you, but if you get outside the city, it's usually cheaper.

Or. Just move where I live.  It's cheap and I want that baby!!! Lol

Oh yeah... looking everywhere...  not just in the city.... I'm looking into Southern New Hampshire as well...  People keep saying their complexes are full....no one moves during the holidays.....etc...

and just stand alone apartments are the ones killing me with credit checks, and then picking someone else.... or they are telling me their apartments aren't de leaded, and we need that because we have an infant....

I'm looking everywhere. Filled out a million applications, gone to a million open houses/apartment showings and nothing at all is working in our favor! 

I'm sorry to be such a downer, I just realllllllllllly don't know what to do at this point.   Keep looking I guess...
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
— Dr. Seuss
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#9
Svisionguy, your getting a hug! 🌈
We all have demons, I just choose to feed mine.
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#10
Depending on if someone is applying as a single mom, or as a family unit, sometimes there can be programs for housing available through a local women's shelter or centres? It may be a transition, but at least it could be a step.

Also any family housing available/low income housing complexes?

Any chance that you could explain to your Grandmother what is happening?

I don't know your relationship with your Dad, but your Dad (who happens to also be your child's Grandpa Big Grin ), must also know how independent and proud you are. I would hope that if he is in a position to help he would prefer that to knowing that you were out of options. Maybe give him a chance? Even if it as a co signer on a lease?

Good luck.

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