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Have you ever loved someone so much that you dedicated yourself to them(mind, body, and soul), only to be dropped like yesterday's garbage?
Phantimos said:Have you ever loved someone so much that you dedicated yourself to them(mind, body, and soul), only to be dropped like yesterday's garbage?
Danielle said:My first real love, was that kind of love... I don't know if it was obsession, but yes, I know the feelings you are talking about. He cheated on me, and he was never all that great to me to begin with, but yet, I loved everything about him. I think that relationship shaped how I approached other relationships for a long, long while.
This was over 20 years ago, we were together for 4 years, I learned so much about myself, what I will allow in a relationship and how to handle myself from healing from that relationship.
Its been over 20 years, and now, we send monthly texts, chat about our families, and have learned to be friends after all of that time! Pretty amazing!
ardour said:The problem is that you over-invested and ended up with a case of oneitus, having fundamentally misunderstood what it is the majority of the opposite sex finds attractive. Things don't work that way. Dedication only matters when it comes from someone they find appealing to start with, and then usually later in the relationship, otherwise it will count against you as desperation and an indicator of low self-esteem.
Phantimos said:Danielle said:My first real love, was that kind of love... I don't know if it was obsession, but yes, I know the feelings you are talking about. He cheated on me, and he was never all that great to me to begin with, but yet, I loved everything about him. I think that relationship shaped how I approached other relationships for a long, long while.
This was over 20 years ago, we were together for 4 years, I learned so much about myself, what I will allow in a relationship and how to handle myself from healing from that relationship.
Its been over 20 years, and now, we send monthly texts, chat about our families, and have learned to be friends after all of that time! Pretty amazing!
Do you still think about him?
Its nice to hear you moved on with your life. It also gives me hope for my situation so, thank you for sharing Danielle.Danielle said:Phantimos said:Danielle said:My first real love, was that kind of love... I don't know if it was obsession, but yes, I know the feelings you are talking about. He cheated on me, and he was never all that great to me to begin with, but yet, I loved everything about him. I think that relationship shaped how I approached other relationships for a long, long while.
This was over 20 years ago, we were together for 4 years, I learned so much about myself, what I will allow in a relationship and how to handle myself from healing from that relationship.
Its been over 20 years, and now, we send monthly texts, chat about our families, and have learned to be friends after all of that time! Pretty amazing!
Do you still think about him?
Phantimos, No, I don't think of him at all. That's the good thing about time, as it passes, feelings truly do fade away. I NEVER thought I would get over him, not ever at all... but I truly am over him, and once in a while, I'll see a post of his on Facebook, or a happy birthday message shared between us, and I an happy that he has a nice life with a great family, and I am building mine..
so, no.... I don't think about him , nor miss him in anyway.
Phantimos said:Its nice to hear you moved on with your life. It also gives me hope for my situation so, thank you for sharing Danielle.Danielle said:Phantimos said:Danielle said:My first real love, was that kind of love... I don't know if it was obsession, but yes, I know the feelings you are talking about. He cheated on me, and he was never all that great to me to begin with, but yet, I loved everything about him. I think that relationship shaped how I approached other relationships for a long, long while.
This was over 20 years ago, we were together for 4 years, I learned so much about myself, what I will allow in a relationship and how to handle myself from healing from that relationship.
Its been over 20 years, and now, we send monthly texts, chat about our families, and have learned to be friends after all of that time! Pretty amazing!
Do you still think about him?
Phantimos, No, I don't think of him at all. That's the good thing about time, as it passes, feelings truly do fade away. I NEVER thought I would get over him, not ever at all... but I truly am over him, and once in a while, I'll see a post of his on Facebook, or a happy birthday message shared between us, and I an happy that he has a nice life with a great family, and I am building mine..
so, no.... I don't think about him , nor miss him in anyway.
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