user 150037
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I had never previously made that much of an effort to make friends due to - not only my social awkwardness - but also the fact that I'm an adult who looks like a scrawny teenager due to hormone deficiency. But a few months ago, I joined meetup.com - and through them - found someone who was starting a whatsapp group.
I went to a couple of meetups - it was alright. But then I said something on the actual whatsapp page - just about being generally curious about the people who had joined, but never posted. I was curious about those people, and wanted to see if I could perhaps get talking to them - cos afterall I might have had something in common with them. Of course people took it to mean that I was complaining that they never post anything.
Before I knew it I was getting lots of negative messages - and despite the fact that I explained that my message was in no way malicious - some were still a bit funny with me. One person who I'd previously got on well with, saying that they're not comfortable joining any events that I go to. Because of this, I left the group.
Even now, I'm incredibly anxious about not saying something that might upset people.
Has anybody else had any bad experiences?
I went to a couple of meetups - it was alright. But then I said something on the actual whatsapp page - just about being generally curious about the people who had joined, but never posted. I was curious about those people, and wanted to see if I could perhaps get talking to them - cos afterall I might have had something in common with them. Of course people took it to mean that I was complaining that they never post anything.
Before I knew it I was getting lots of negative messages - and despite the fact that I explained that my message was in no way malicious - some were still a bit funny with me. One person who I'd previously got on well with, saying that they're not comfortable joining any events that I go to. Because of this, I left the group.
Even now, I'm incredibly anxious about not saying something that might upset people.
Has anybody else had any bad experiences?