Red_Wedding_Casualty
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I'm sure you've all heard this story before. Man is single. Man is lonely. Man can't get women to even look his way. Man does not know why, for he is a nice guy. If I told you this story, that would be a lie. Because I have the option to end all that tomorrow if I wanted to. The catch is that I would need to start dating someone I REALLY don't want to.
I met this girl a few years ago at a small house gathering, since then she's been somewhat omnipresent in our social circle. Now, on a purely platonic level of friendship, I don't dislike her. Not by a long stretch. However, her body language and mannerisms around me are an obvious indicator that she wants more. She's quite 'huggy' towards me on most group outings. Sure, alcohol is involved, but I believe this to be a smokescreen rather than a genuine loss of inhibitions. It's one of those, 'she knows that I know that she knows' situations. She's 'huggy' because she knows I won't tell her to back off out of fear of causing a scene. But up to this point, she's never tried to kiss me, as she likely believes that this is where I'd draw the line. I would have written this off as short term infatuation, only I'd met her towards the end of 2016, and we're fast approaching 2019.....
So, you're probably thinking: "Beggars can't be choosers, right? She's clearly interested in you, so why not take the plunge?" Well, this may be shallow on my part, but........ I'm just not attracted to her in that way. For three reasons.
*She turned 18 this year. Where as I'm 32. The age difference between us is a few years short of driving a car.
*At the certainty of sounding like a superficial ******* in this forum, she's........ a few weight classes above me.
*Her family background can best be described as the Australian equivalent of 'trailer park trash', (or chavs in the UK dialect). Alot of that mentality has rubbed off on her, and for someone like me who's lived a sheltered teenage/early adulthood life, it's alot to stomach.
But, despite my reasoning, this is likely the only prospect I'll ever receive for a proper relationship. I really don't want to take this chance, but I feel that if I don't, there'll be no chances after it. So forum. I ask this question: What is more shallow? Not taking a chance for a relationship because they don't fit any of your criteria, or entering a potentially unhappy relationship just to gain the title of 'has a girlfriend'?
I met this girl a few years ago at a small house gathering, since then she's been somewhat omnipresent in our social circle. Now, on a purely platonic level of friendship, I don't dislike her. Not by a long stretch. However, her body language and mannerisms around me are an obvious indicator that she wants more. She's quite 'huggy' towards me on most group outings. Sure, alcohol is involved, but I believe this to be a smokescreen rather than a genuine loss of inhibitions. It's one of those, 'she knows that I know that she knows' situations. She's 'huggy' because she knows I won't tell her to back off out of fear of causing a scene. But up to this point, she's never tried to kiss me, as she likely believes that this is where I'd draw the line. I would have written this off as short term infatuation, only I'd met her towards the end of 2016, and we're fast approaching 2019.....
So, you're probably thinking: "Beggars can't be choosers, right? She's clearly interested in you, so why not take the plunge?" Well, this may be shallow on my part, but........ I'm just not attracted to her in that way. For three reasons.
*She turned 18 this year. Where as I'm 32. The age difference between us is a few years short of driving a car.
*At the certainty of sounding like a superficial ******* in this forum, she's........ a few weight classes above me.
*Her family background can best be described as the Australian equivalent of 'trailer park trash', (or chavs in the UK dialect). Alot of that mentality has rubbed off on her, and for someone like me who's lived a sheltered teenage/early adulthood life, it's alot to stomach.
But, despite my reasoning, this is likely the only prospect I'll ever receive for a proper relationship. I really don't want to take this chance, but I feel that if I don't, there'll be no chances after it. So forum. I ask this question: What is more shallow? Not taking a chance for a relationship because they don't fit any of your criteria, or entering a potentially unhappy relationship just to gain the title of 'has a girlfriend'?