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I'm a sad, pathetic person who doesn't deserve a relationship
Confession Post.

Whenever I'm not at work I spend my time online. I stay up late chatting with people on forums and reddit, sharing pictures of girls I find on Tinder, or ones I've known from school or work and jerk off. I've always felt weird about it but I feel bad now that I've shared my current crush, who I have genuine feelings for and is now engaged to someone else. I do this to live out the sexual life I've never had (and never will have). I feel like a living contradiction because I loath sexually successful people, detest scummy people and here I am doing weird shit like this. There's no ultimate point to this post. I'm just so lonely and frustrated and felt like sharing this to anyone who's bored.
There’s worst on

Nowt stranger than the people on

I spend hours on there trying to find someone ‘normal’. Then they’re usually in Pakistan. I think the only normal people in the world are from Pakistan.

Avoid the Americans, usually 18 year old woman from Florida who like to spend all their free time on the beach and have a Boyfriend called Larry. On second thoughts, if your younger than 30 and not 49 like me, don’t avoid the Americans.
I don't understand why you're being so hard on yourself for expressing your sexuality - isn't this what we all do? I do stuff to relieve the sexual frustration that I can't relieve through a partner. I fantasize about cute actresses. You look at photos of girls. As long as you draw a certain moral line and don't start hunting and raping these women, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.
To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'
I'm pretty sure a lot of men self pleasure thinking about friends/colleagues/acquaintances. Before porn became widely available, I'm assuming that's what men did. And I am quite sure women do the same with their male friends etc.

Like hewhowalksalone said, as long as it doesn't turn into stalking/sexual harrassment/violation, you don't have to beat yourself this much about it.
I think this is normal behavior. 
Why not maturbate. It’s fun! ❤️
(12-31-2018, 03:27 AM)Jessicat Wrote: I think this is normal behavior. 
Why not maturbate. It’s fun! ❤️

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To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'
(12-31-2018, 01:03 AM)Amelia Wrote: don't have to beat yourself this much about it.

Couldn’t have put it better myself.  Big Grin
You probably already realise sharing images of former classmates and coworkers isn't in the same category as harmless private sexual fantasies.  The motive might be similar to revenge porn: the women either rejected you or you perceive them as completely out of reach.

I don't have advice, other than to say, yep it is weird, unhealthy, and could get you in trouble.
I leave it all to my imagination, personally. I'd feel weird jerking off while looking at a photo (no offense to you, Matt). Even then, the famous women I fantasize about tend to have qualities of higher importance then their looks - like their acting/singing talents or their personalities (or at least how they appear in media). I keep in mind that these women are real people. I do try not to objectify them too much. Hey, I'm sure that these women I fantasize about engage in fantasies themselves.

I guess my additional comment is, maybe lay off sharing photos of people you know - as ardour says, you could get into trouble, as doing this could lead to negative consequences for both you and for the people who's pictures you are using. Perhaps try visualization instead - that way you don't risk being labelled as creepy, and your fantasies remain completely private, and you don't risk freaking anybody out.
To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'

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