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A lot of my friends will go out once a while to drink at friends house or at a party or a bar and I want to know what I can do if I'm not drinking but want to disguise or pretend like I am without having to get drunk or not even have to drink. what are some good tricks I can do to pretend?
 
You shouldn't have to 'disguise' or 'pretend' - if you don't want to get drunk, then don't drink. Simple as that. A true friend will respect your decision not to drink without subjecting you to mockery or negative judgement.

If you really feel self-conscious about being the only one not drinking alcohol, then find out what your friends are drinking, and take some fizzy pop that looks similar - find an empty room, and pour your pop into one of their glasses. But, like I said, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Happy partying :)
 
Either you are having a good time or you're not. Don't pretend. If you don't like being around them while they are drinking, don't go with them when they are drinking.

You can still have fun with them, even when they are drinking and you are sober. Where do they drink? If it's in a bar, there's usually pool or darts or something like that you can do. If it's somewhere else, try a card game like Cards Against Humanity. Find somehow to connect with them despite who is drinking what.
 
Been there, if you are with friends who respect your decision then it shouldn't matter what you drink. Plus if you are the only one not drinking you are considered the designated driver and some places won't charge you. If you are around people who make it a big deal then they are people you don't want to be around.
 
Dear UpsideE23,
Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. I’m truly sorry that you are dealing with such difficult situation. These forums are great for sharing burdens, and venting. Even in the darkest moments in our lives there’s always hope. It is understandable the way what you feel. I think that its always within young people that drinking is a kind of ‘peer pressure’ in order to be accepted by others. I guess a couple of tricks for you is to instead of having pure alcoholic beverages is to have a coke, soft drink, ginger ale or water and hope they don’t ask what you’re drinking. But if they do, just try to change the conversation to something else or say that you’re the ‘designated driver’. Better yet, if you can just try to avoid such places and if you do go, just go early and then leave. If they are your friends they should accept you the way that you are and they should force you to drink something that you don’t want. I encourage you to evaluate why type of friends you would like to get along. Remember that you are valuable and worthy person worth fighting for. Sending you hugs. Hope this will help you. I will keep you in my prayers, my friend.
 
Hi UpsideE23 It will be easy to disguise yourself 20yrs down the line with a bit of makeup [Halloween style] go for the sunken cheeks, wasted, half crazed, bad skin, deathly pallor, baggy red eyed kind of look. Most heavy drinkers [including ex drinkers like myself] lose a few teeth as its a hazardous lifestyle- so blacking out a couple in front should do the trick  :D
 
Seriously though just be yourself and hide nothing, this way you'll gravitate to where you should be and feel comfortable- best of luck  :D

ps A bright intelligent demeaner may give you away to the fact you haven't pickled most of your brain cells.....this can be replicated by driving a rail road spike in your ear or watching a hundred consecutive episodes of 'Big Brother' :D


Disclaimer- This advice is not given by a trained medical professional!
 
Don't pretend, that is a really unhealthy thing to do. If you aren't having fun then don't go out with them in the first place. 

Spend your time doing something constructive or entertaining.

The best way to have friends is not to try to have friends.
 
Hell, I don't drink because it makes me really sick as in there is no way I'm walking around after drinking even a cup of hard liquor. The most i can do is a Red's Apple Ale or a Strongbow. Some kind of hard cider with only 7% alcohol or something like that. I'm lightweight. But even then, I mostly don't attend bars or clubs. I drink at home or at the occasional concert.

So, not sure how you fit in in that settings as I don't do it myself.
 
I tried drinking years ago, and my bladder became very irritated and uncomfortable. I was told that this is unusual, so, since then, I've never really drank much alcohol. I might have a sip of champagne on special occasions, but that's it.
 
Just tell them that you're not interested in drinking, and either they roll with it or they don't. Chances are, they'll probably try to introduce different conversational subject matter that has nothing to do with drinking which can (admittedly) be hit or miss. This will also help you gauge how often your friends drink, and how much. I can say this myself because I used to have a pretty goddamned serious drinking problem...as in I was once legally drinking an excess maximum of the state allowance per bottle in my U.S. state over the course of a 2-day weekend, while working 60+ hours a week, and being on the lower side of an average BMI to an underweight BMI. I was trying to kill myself with alcohol during that time period...I cut myself off right before it got bad, like really, medically bad kind of a deal. I think the worst part about that is that it totally messed up my alcohol tolerance. These days I can be sober for up to 90 days, and still have a tolerance of at least six shots of whiskey before I get a buzz and that was...like 3 or 4 years ago?? I drink less as I get older.Except for specifically today, wherein I'm inclined to drink as if Caesar (and effectively all of the Roman autocracy) himself commands me to.
 
You shouldn't pretend... you should just go out and be yourself. I don't drink, I did in my 20's, but when my friends and I all get together, everyone has drinks, except for me..... I'm just not a fan. Noone cares, and if your friends are your friends, they won't care either...
 
I agree with Danielle. Why should you pretend. 
Decide what’s right for you, then do it. 
I don’t drink a lot, usually a cider once in a while. 
Feel that’s enough for me. And that’s fine. My choice.
You should make your choice and be proud of that. ❤️
 
One excuse I use is that I'm on meds that interact with alcohol and can't drink.
 
I do drink and get drunk very occasionally, but I'm not a big drinker. I dislike how drinking is such a big part of socialising and how it's just what's expected of you. It puts unnecessary pressure on people to drink and I really don't like or agree with that. 

I admit, sometimes I get drawn into the peer pressure to drink which is annoying. However, I've started to simply decide not to drink in some of those social situations which normally "call for it". It could be because I don't want to feel like crap the next day or I don't have enough money or whatever (I mean, whose business is it anyway why I'm not drinking? I could be a sober alcoholic for all they know), but sometimes I will just sit there with my water whilst everyone else is drinking. I don't even use an excuse, and it works okay. I like to think of it as a little act of rebellion against social norms  ;)
 

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