Perhaps you have tried internet dating sites, there are quite a few, some very specific.
I've sampled them off and on for several years, and noticed some interesting things.
One of them that men outnumber the women by quite a large margin.
This of course means that women tend to get a lot of messages. Too many, spme told me.
Since our western culture seems to have been telling women that they are never allowed to
ever approach a man, only to wait to be approached, the majority of men just get ignored.'
No one has ever been able to make me understand this. Who made this rule? And why do women follow it?
Finding out it is a numbers game, men quit actually reading women's profiles and crafting personal messages, because
no one ever answers.
Instead, they spam out one stupid short message to every single profile hoping to hit like playing roulette.
This of course annoys the women.
Out of simple curiosity I have created dummy accounts as if I were a woman, just so that i could
look at what other men do and say in their ads.
Some of it made me embarrassed I was ever born a man. I mean, there are no shortage of
idiot ads among the women, but some of this stuff was just so bad it was hard to believe.
Hoping to do some good in the world, I have posted an idea all over the internet, literally for years:
If you want to have a relationship with the opposite gender, you are going to have to actually
UNDERSTAND that opposite gender. One of the best ways to do that is to create a fake ad, pretending to be
a woman or a man. Send out some messages to some people, and see what happens. I'm pretty certain not a single person
ever did this very simple and very revealing thing. Too lazy I suppose?
Or simply did not care that things are hard for both men and for women, in very different ways.
I would also comment that women's ads tended to have some common features:
First, the woman would list a few of her traits. This was not so much like "I speak five languages" as much as "my favorite singer is Mariah Carey"
The tone made it clear that these women had a very basic confusion.
Every person is UNIQUE, which simply means different. This is not even remotely the same thing as being SPECIAL or VALUABLE or ATTRACTIVE, yet they all appeared to have been convinced by someone that they deserved the very best, for pretty much no reason whatsoever.
Second, a woman would describe what she was looking for in a man. Perfectly reasonable, but most of this stuff was literally insane.
About three men in the entire history of humanity MIGHT fill all of the "requirements" these women demanded in a man.
Third, the woman would rarely say anything she had to offer that a MAN would find valuable.
Never, "I will never ask you to go shopping with me" Never, "I will rub your feet after you come home after a hard day of work"
Fourth, an amazing number of women actually said in their ads, "If you are married do not contact me".
Now, I am not even remotely surprised that there are probably millions of unhappy married men on dating sites.
But this is like putting a sign on your door that says, "My locks aren't very good"
All they achieved was to tell the liars and cheats to just hide the fact that they are married.
Fifth, a few married women were looking for men. So, what you're saying is, you are a liar and a cheat,
and then you expect me to trust you? And, you are saying that someone who would help you to lie and cheat is someone you would value?
Sixth, something has come up in our culture where women are now PROUD of being unattractive?
Look, I get that models in magazines are fake. But "Big Beautiful Woman"? I'm supposed to think you are great
because you're in denial that you're unhealthy and unattractive?
Let's turn that around for a moment. Suppose I have no money, and I start a movement and a phrase
and start calling myself a BBM? Broke Beautiful Man. Right, great idea. Because every women loves a guy with no job
and no car. Well F you because I'm PROUD of my Poverty!
I recently discovered that things have gotten so incredibly bad that there is now a serious movement, a group
calling itself MGTOW which stands for Men Going Their Own Way.
Hopefully this web page will allow me to post a link so you can better understand
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I've sampled them off and on for several years, and noticed some interesting things.
One of them that men outnumber the women by quite a large margin.
This of course means that women tend to get a lot of messages. Too many, spme told me.
Since our western culture seems to have been telling women that they are never allowed to
ever approach a man, only to wait to be approached, the majority of men just get ignored.'
No one has ever been able to make me understand this. Who made this rule? And why do women follow it?
Finding out it is a numbers game, men quit actually reading women's profiles and crafting personal messages, because
no one ever answers.
Instead, they spam out one stupid short message to every single profile hoping to hit like playing roulette.
This of course annoys the women.
Out of simple curiosity I have created dummy accounts as if I were a woman, just so that i could
look at what other men do and say in their ads.
Some of it made me embarrassed I was ever born a man. I mean, there are no shortage of
idiot ads among the women, but some of this stuff was just so bad it was hard to believe.
Hoping to do some good in the world, I have posted an idea all over the internet, literally for years:
If you want to have a relationship with the opposite gender, you are going to have to actually
UNDERSTAND that opposite gender. One of the best ways to do that is to create a fake ad, pretending to be
a woman or a man. Send out some messages to some people, and see what happens. I'm pretty certain not a single person
ever did this very simple and very revealing thing. Too lazy I suppose?
Or simply did not care that things are hard for both men and for women, in very different ways.
I would also comment that women's ads tended to have some common features:
First, the woman would list a few of her traits. This was not so much like "I speak five languages" as much as "my favorite singer is Mariah Carey"
The tone made it clear that these women had a very basic confusion.
Every person is UNIQUE, which simply means different. This is not even remotely the same thing as being SPECIAL or VALUABLE or ATTRACTIVE, yet they all appeared to have been convinced by someone that they deserved the very best, for pretty much no reason whatsoever.
Second, a woman would describe what she was looking for in a man. Perfectly reasonable, but most of this stuff was literally insane.
About three men in the entire history of humanity MIGHT fill all of the "requirements" these women demanded in a man.
Third, the woman would rarely say anything she had to offer that a MAN would find valuable.
Never, "I will never ask you to go shopping with me" Never, "I will rub your feet after you come home after a hard day of work"
Fourth, an amazing number of women actually said in their ads, "If you are married do not contact me".
Now, I am not even remotely surprised that there are probably millions of unhappy married men on dating sites.
But this is like putting a sign on your door that says, "My locks aren't very good"
All they achieved was to tell the liars and cheats to just hide the fact that they are married.
Fifth, a few married women were looking for men. So, what you're saying is, you are a liar and a cheat,
and then you expect me to trust you? And, you are saying that someone who would help you to lie and cheat is someone you would value?
Sixth, something has come up in our culture where women are now PROUD of being unattractive?
Look, I get that models in magazines are fake. But "Big Beautiful Woman"? I'm supposed to think you are great
because you're in denial that you're unhealthy and unattractive?
Let's turn that around for a moment. Suppose I have no money, and I start a movement and a phrase
and start calling myself a BBM? Broke Beautiful Man. Right, great idea. Because every women loves a guy with no job
and no car. Well F you because I'm PROUD of my Poverty!
I recently discovered that things have gotten so incredibly bad that there is now a serious movement, a group
calling itself MGTOW which stands for Men Going Their Own Way.
Hopefully this web page will allow me to post a link so you can better understand
.
.
.
.
.
.