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Am I immature for harboring resentment?
#11
Maybe you connect it with a larger pattern of feeling ostracized or treated unfairly.
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#12
That makes sense. I do recognize that friendship cannot be forced, and that everybody has a certain 'type' - I myself have met people who I would have no interest in hanging out with because they were either dull or too hyper. But I've always felt that people don't give me a chance - people see the hearing aids and the scrawny 'boy' image, and automatically shun me instead of taking the time to see me for who I am.
'When the pack rejects their weakest member, he learns to adapt and to find his own way.  He is the lone wolf.'
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#13
You can't change who you are. And you can't change how people react to you. I'm sorry that you have such a tough time with people in your personal life. From what I read of you on here, you seem like a well rounded and decent individual.

As mentioned by Callie, it's not healthy. What has it taught you? Some people have no decency. But I bet she isn't fixated on her decision to cut contact. So why are you feeling it for the both of you? You deserve to move on with your life, and rent that brain space out to things that are actually positive for you.

I have never done a meetup. I don't even know if there's groups available in my area, and I certainly don't have the courage to create my own. Could this be an opportunity for you to organize your own? Even if only a handful of people came out, it would allow you to be more specific for what you are looking for?

Something I do believe in, is if a person is taking themselves out into the public, it should be to somewhere that makes them comfortable and a place they enjoy being. Where is somewhere that you enjoy being? Is there anywhere that you go, where you forget about your health issues? If you don't have a place like this, I would really encourage you to start exploring. Just go somewhere, check out the sights and don't worry about who is around. Easier said than done, I know.
"You are as you are until you are not"

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#14
Immature? No. Resentment is a natural feeling when one feels betrayed or ostracized. That being said, and this is to be taken with reserve...its just a whatsapp group. It's not as if your sister slapped you at the face during a family dinner. Some people on the internet can for great friendships, even love, but...there IS a difference. The internet is not necessarily a reflection of real life unless you've met and spent time with the persons.

Bit of context. I was raised in the 80s and 90s. Pre internet. It started around the time I was in college to really get off (hehe, web based chatrooms like The Park Smile ). But at the same time, we had a very clear view of the thing which I feel people are loosing and younger people will not know; it was designed as a tool to facilitate connecting with distant people, as well as entertainment. It was NOT designed to spend even a part of your life on it. When I read things about "online identities" where people react as if someone had actually stolen their homes, or push younger kids to suicidal thoughts...that scares me. Again, its a wonderful tool, but its not LIFE. In fact, you can live it exclusively without. Which I try to do as much as I can.

Anyway, all that to say that, its not like it's THAT important. In the sense you should try not to get too worked up and resentful towards people who don't really know you, or didnt care to.
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