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Thank you for helping me
Yes i am a very jealous and insecure person and i hate it.
I get jealous when I see a pretty person because they have a much easier life than me (they dont hate themselves they bodies,they feel comfortable in their skins,nobody bully them)ofcourse I'm happy for them but I feel so sad about myself too.
And I get jealous when others have good relationship with their dads and they dad loves them
Because my dad was abusive and he never loved me
and so on....
And I get jealous when I see people are happy with simplest things while nothing can makes me happy
I didn't expect father issues would come into this. How do you know for sure their relationships with their fathers is as good as you think? Have you ever gone home with them or talked about it? Don't imagine stuff you aren't sure about.
But father issues and body issues are two pretty big separate issues to me.
I guess there's no real point in comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their own card they were played with and have to make due. It's nice to maybe look into someone else's life and see how much better or worse they had it, but not get bitter about it.
I never had anything that was popular growing up like video games and I wanted them so badly, and loved it when I could go over to others' houses to see and/or play them. But I never felt inadequate because I didn't have them; more upset that my family wouldn't buy them for me like everyone else did.
And in time, I got my own money and got them eventually. If you want something bad enough, you'll get it.
I say use someone else's life as either inspiration or a guideline, more so than get jealous of them. Say "I'll do it too" and then go for it.
And if you see someone with a worse situation than you, then that's nothing but inspiration for me. Like "Wow, they did it with a worse hand than me, I can too."
There's other more positive ways to look at it to improve yourself and get what it is you're pining for than just be bitter about it.