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How do people know that I am a loner?
#21
(04-07-2019, 12:32 AM)redbeard 44 Wrote: I often wonder if people know or not.  I mean they all know I'm divorced with no kids and live alone.  They might think I have friends because I talk about fantasy football and can be engaging and sunny at work at times, but there are times when I sit in my cubicle all day and no one says a word to me, like they know.  What they don't know is that my weekends are 2 days of desperately trying to kill time until work Monday morning.  Yes, I actually look forward to Monday mornings because at least I'll be around someone who at least knows my name.  They don't know I have a routine M-F after work that keeps me occupied enough to not dwell on the silence.  That's the worst part about loneliness, the silence.  They might think I'm a loner, but they'll never know what that entails.

You still lived a better life than me.

You got the chance to experience marriage.
I have nothing.

I never had a friend in my whole entire life. My social skills sucks, I don't know typical social norms, and I am naive.

This is just an assumption. I assume because of my social skills people know that I am a loser.
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#22
Being a loner isn't bad. A lot of really good intelligent people past and present are loners. Some people will attach a negative to it but many more enlightened people will not. Being a loner does not mean "unfriendly" or "not nice". You can be very nice and even a good friend as a loner.

They say people can tell the truth about us just by being around us. I'd just own it. If you are a loner accept it and yourself. There is nothing wrong with it.

Trying to hide who you really are is very exhausting. It would be better to put positive energy into your own life.
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#23
(06-29-2019, 02:51 AM)HappyYogi Wrote: Being a loner isn't bad. A lot of really good intelligent people past and present are loners.  Some people will attach a negative to it but many more enlightened people will not. Being a loner does not mean "unfriendly" or "not nice".  You can be very nice and even a good friend as a loner.

They say people can tell the truth about us just by being around us.  I'd just own it.  If you are a loner accept it and yourself.  There is nothing wrong with it.

Trying to hide who you really are is very exhausting.  It would be better to put positive energy into your own life.

it can also be extremely lonely & depressing.  being alone means that you will inevitably miss out on some of life's greatest treasures such as a fulfilling intimate relationship.  perhaps some people can be comfortable with this but for others, knowing you are not good enough to experience it is an extremely bitter pill to swallow indeed.
"The most violent weapon on Earth is the table fork." - Mahatma Gandhi


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#24
I don't feel insulted if someone calls me a loner. in fact its a badge of honor. it means Im not a sheep.
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(06-29-2019, 02:51 AM)HappyYogi Wrote: Being a loner isn't bad. A lot of really good intelligent people past and present are loners.  Some people will attach a negative to it but many more enlightened people will not. Being a loner does not mean "unfriendly" or "not nice".  You can be very nice and even a good friend as a loner.

They say people can tell the truth about us just by being around us.  I'd just own it.  If you are a loner accept it and yourself.  There is nothing wrong with it.

Trying to hide who you really are is very exhausting.  It would be better to put positive energy into your own life.

That's true. Some of the most famous, brilliant people were loners - Einstein, Emily Dickinson (spent her last years never leaving her parents' house!), Isaac Newton, Tesla (never seemed interested in women/relationships), etc. Lots of very noble hermit/sages throughout history, too, in all societies.




People can tell I'm a loner - and that I'm Forever Alone, though that's extremely uncommon in a female. I look unattractive facially, and I'm very awkward. I'm seen as uncool, dowdy, and easy to bully. No one ever asks if I'm in a relationship - they assume, correctly, that I'm not, and never will. I'm basically a nothing in society.
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