Buddy_2019 said:
Hello i'm 58 been married 15 years and this is my second marriage and find myself very unhappy and wanting more but not getting it. We get along but we are more like roommates and our sex life is not anything to jump up and down about. Divorce is not and option and we talk and communicate but we just don't seem to connect like we use to and really don't have much in common. I'm seeking a female who is is maybe in the same situation who would like to chat and shares some of out loneliness and feelings and be chat buddies and support one another. I know this is a shot in the dark but i don't know what else to do. Thx for reading and hope to hear back form anyone with support and advice.
I really didn't want to answer this post, but somehow my fingers took over my keyboard and it went from there.
So, you find yourself unhappy. Got it. How about your wife, is she unhappy too? I suppose she must be because it takes two to tango. Furthermore, I suppose you would like her to look for someone to "chat" online as well?
Get real! It really looks like you are a bit in the dark, so let me enlighten you a bit -if you don't mind.
Your sex life is not what you think it should be? Well, how about you work on it? What in the name of whatever god makes you think she has to make you happy. Ever tried it the other way around?
A marriage is about giving and taking. Two equal partners. You have to want it - it takes work - it takes commitment. There are ups and downs and you have to live through it. Happiness is not served on a silver platter, mainly because it would be wasted. If you are not happy with yourself, nobody will be able to make you happy. It's that simple.
I came here because I am lonely. Are you?
If you don't mind me say so -and this will get me booted from this forum -cut the crap! Man up and work on your marriage. She is worth it...are you?
And stop your pity party. Grow up and stand up. If this marriage is not what you want to get out. If you can't do that ask yourself why?
I am lonely. I have had fights with my husband lately because my loneliness has something to do with him as well. I let it happen and now I am rocking the boat for me -for him - for us.
Chat with your wife. Support her, ask her to support you. A marriage takes work, so does life!