I have trouble insulting friends

humourless said:

Seems every time I insult someone, they don't want to be my friend any more.
I think they are over sensitive.
I called one friend a "boobywooby" the other day. he was highly insulted and hasn't spoken to me since.
Another one I called a "jaberwooky nooky" and he almost slapped me. I grabbed his hand in time. ( Im learning Martial Hearts at the moment)
I once called my girlfriend a "cobblywobbly" and she went off in a huff. (and a puff too)
any advice out there?

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Guzheng said:

And when your friends insult you, how mad do you get?

My friend has hurt my feelings so many times!  I don't know why I'm still friends with her.  To be fair, I have insulted her a few times as well.  We forgive each other a lot.  Some people are quick to forgive, others like to hold a grudge.  And some people just need more time to recover from the pain of being insulted by someone they expected to be supportive and caring.

You mentioned that you have very high self-esteem on your other post. Your friends might have low self-esteem, so when you insult them it really hurts their feelings.  Maybe as you become more humble, you will insult others less.

Regarding your friend, who can never get an insult across - maybe his friends have very high self esteem and are being condescending to him?  So when he insults them, their reaction is "Wow, look at this loser trying to insult me, he's so lame".  The age of his friends could be a factor as well.  Mature people are hurt less by insults than young and insecure people.

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