:) Good vibes.

Naizo said:

I am now kinda sorta friends with my ex, I like to think of her as my friend not my ex though. She's a very kind and understanding person and it really has helped me get over alot more stuff than anything else. She is able to see things that I can't myself, and is just really nice to me. It feels good. I still of course have some feelings and stuff but, I like to look to the future and not to the past when I can. I'm really proud of how I overcame my jealousy just today, and was able to have a wonderful day.

As far as moving forward, I want to meet someone that likes being around me because I am me, you know? Someone chill. Not someone worried about this or that. Someone I can make laugh just by being myself I hope. I'm not looking, but it is my little dream that keeps me happy to think I might meet someone that just wants me for me one day. Someone that doesn't mind being a little too lazy, doesn't need someone with a super great paying job to support their every little need. Just someone... chill, that enjoys my time. Enjoys a good movie night. It makes me feel warm just thinking about the possibility. I'd like to feel special to someone. I think most people here would.

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MissBehave said:

Parting ways in a good way and being able to stay friends is an awesome thing. No one knows you better than your ex. Love once shared between two people can form a powerful bond if you work for it.  This post made me smile.

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MissBehave said:

Parting ways in a good way and being able to stay friends is an awesome thing. No one knows you better than your ex. Love once shared between two people can form a powerful bond if you work for it.  This post made me smile.

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Naizo said:

MissBehave said:

Parting ways in a good way and being able to stay friends is an awesome thing. No one knows you better than your ex. Love once shared between two people can form a powerful bond if you work for it.  This post made me smile.

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Well... it wasn't in a "good way" as far as my part is concerned. I was a toxic ********. This is years now after the fact. I'm just really thankful she is someone who can look beyond my pitfalls and still see the worth in me as a friend and a person. She tries to tell me I am good, wanted, worthy, etc. Sometimes it falls on deaf ears but I always appreciate her efforts. She is really a good friend to me. I was really worried I wouldn't be able to look past my romantic interests in her and would ruin it. I really needed someone to tell me these things, that I'm not some unlovable monster, for any real healing to begin. I have issues, I know. Trust issues, abandonment issues, self esteem, etc etc etc. 

When we first started talking as friends again I was still very much a toxic ******** with certain ideals towards how I viewed her. But I am not that toxic monster. I am someone capable of loving someone without having to be in love with them, cherishing friendship. She hates being put on a pedestal though, and I'm very known to do so. So I try not to shower her with all the attention I would like to, but just appreciate her efforts in helping me be a better person myself.

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Puddled Duck said:

I would like that.

Slight problem, most women I meet want a holiday partner.

So it’s like ‘will you chill with me’, then it’s like ‘no, but i’ll go scuba diving in the Maldives’.

This went on for 5 years.

Oh and I’m sorry, if any woman goes on a dating site, George Clooney isn’t there waiting for you, it doesn’t matter if you spend five years, possibly your whole life on the site.

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MissBehave said:

Parting ways in a good way and being able to stay friends is an awesome thing. No one knows you better than your ex. Love once shared between two people can form a powerful bond if you work for it.  This post made me smile.

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But it’s his Ex, i’ve got them lying around the East Midlands in great numbers, including a wife. Will any of them lend me a fiver, no!.

By all means work at the relationship with your Ex, but always remember they’re probably shagging someone else.

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Puddled Duck said:

I would like that.

Slight problem, most women I meet want a holiday partner.

So it’s like ‘will you chill with me’, then it’s like ‘no, but i’ll go scuba diving in the Maldives’.

This went on for 5 years.

Oh and I’m sorry, if any woman goes on a dating site, George Clooney isn’t there waiting for you, it doesn’t matter if you spend five years, possibly your whole life on the site.

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MissBehave said:

Parting ways in a good way and being able to stay friends is an awesome thing. No one knows you better than your ex. Love once shared between two people can form a powerful bond if you work for it.  This post made me smile.

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But it’s his Ex, i’ve got them lying around the East Midlands in great numbers, including a wife. Will any of them lend me a fiver, no!.

By all means work at the relationship with your Ex, but always remember they’re probably shagging someone else.

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Well.. yeah. 
Ofc she is shagging someone else. 
She is the ex girlfriend.
All shagging responsibilities stop once you part ways.

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