anIsolatedMan96
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[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Hello everyone :shy: [/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Bit of a weird (and lengthy) one this, because I'm sure some of you will read this and think 'well he's not really alone', but hey, if you can be bothered to read this then you're decent person![/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]I'm 24, got a good paying job (£30,000 a year), but no car, no girlfriend, very few friends, and I'm living at home.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]I feel like I'm in a state of flux, where I know I COULD move into my own place, buy a car, make a whole load of friends, but there's something inside of me that keeps holding me back from making those big steps![/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]In terms of the place, I just know I haven't got the skills to live on my own yet (can only cook the very basic things, everywhere around me is so expensive that I would literally have no money left over to actually live a life worth living outside work, and living on my own would probably make me go mad lol!).[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]The car, I passed my driving test back in 2012 but haven't had a car since because I've always relied on public transport, or the odd lift from a family member to get to places.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]With friends, I had to sort of shut them out in secondary school and sixth form because I was struggling with my grades, so had to take the tough decision to revise over lunchtimes and after school when they were going out on night outs and all that, so they simply faded away. I've got a really good friend that I've known for 12 years now, but I know I can't rely on him forever. I need to widen my circle.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]On the girlfriend front, I've actually been on two really positive dates recently with a girl who seems to like me a lot (lots of kissing, lots of laughter etc.), but her Instagram story shows that she's always out with tonnes of her friends and living a fun life, whereas I'm a relative hermit and feel like I have to lie about 'what I'm up to on the weekend'. She's got a car, seems to be completely switched on as to where she wants to go in life, whereas I (at the same age as her) feel like a fish out of water still.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]My sister is 22, she's just got a boyfriend and they are always in the house laughing and joking, and it sort of feels like she's ahead of me already in life despite being 2 years younger...[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]The pain inside of me about all of this comes from the knowledge that I know I COULD take the leap in a lot of those areas (getting a car, a place, girlfriend etc.) but I just don't feel completely ready yet, but I also feel I NEED to get a move on quick or I will just fall further behind and become an even bigger 'stranger' if you like (still living as if I'm a kid when I'm in my 20s). [/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Why am I posting this list of essentially life problems? Because I feel like I'm alone in my own little bubble here, and that everyone around me 'seems' to be totally fine with making these massive steps forward in their lives.[/font]
Not sure why I wrote all of this, because I sort of know the cure ('JU[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]ST DO IT') but felt cathartic to type all this out, so I suppose that's a positive. Anyone else feel a similar sense of pain/confusion, or is this feeling of being in 'flux' unique to me (doubt it)?[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Regards, [/font]
'D'
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Bit of a weird (and lengthy) one this, because I'm sure some of you will read this and think 'well he's not really alone', but hey, if you can be bothered to read this then you're decent person![/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]I'm 24, got a good paying job (£30,000 a year), but no car, no girlfriend, very few friends, and I'm living at home.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]I feel like I'm in a state of flux, where I know I COULD move into my own place, buy a car, make a whole load of friends, but there's something inside of me that keeps holding me back from making those big steps![/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]In terms of the place, I just know I haven't got the skills to live on my own yet (can only cook the very basic things, everywhere around me is so expensive that I would literally have no money left over to actually live a life worth living outside work, and living on my own would probably make me go mad lol!).[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]The car, I passed my driving test back in 2012 but haven't had a car since because I've always relied on public transport, or the odd lift from a family member to get to places.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]With friends, I had to sort of shut them out in secondary school and sixth form because I was struggling with my grades, so had to take the tough decision to revise over lunchtimes and after school when they were going out on night outs and all that, so they simply faded away. I've got a really good friend that I've known for 12 years now, but I know I can't rely on him forever. I need to widen my circle.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]On the girlfriend front, I've actually been on two really positive dates recently with a girl who seems to like me a lot (lots of kissing, lots of laughter etc.), but her Instagram story shows that she's always out with tonnes of her friends and living a fun life, whereas I'm a relative hermit and feel like I have to lie about 'what I'm up to on the weekend'. She's got a car, seems to be completely switched on as to where she wants to go in life, whereas I (at the same age as her) feel like a fish out of water still.[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]My sister is 22, she's just got a boyfriend and they are always in the house laughing and joking, and it sort of feels like she's ahead of me already in life despite being 2 years younger...[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]The pain inside of me about all of this comes from the knowledge that I know I COULD take the leap in a lot of those areas (getting a car, a place, girlfriend etc.) but I just don't feel completely ready yet, but I also feel I NEED to get a move on quick or I will just fall further behind and become an even bigger 'stranger' if you like (still living as if I'm a kid when I'm in my 20s). [/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Why am I posting this list of essentially life problems? Because I feel like I'm alone in my own little bubble here, and that everyone around me 'seems' to be totally fine with making these massive steps forward in their lives.[/font]
Not sure why I wrote all of this, because I sort of know the cure ('JU[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]ST DO IT') but felt cathartic to type all this out, so I suppose that's a positive. Anyone else feel a similar sense of pain/confusion, or is this feeling of being in 'flux' unique to me (doubt it)?[/font]
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif]Regards, [/font]
'D'