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I'm an EMT and a stripper, and I'm lonely
#1
Hi All,

I've decided to seek out a forum to talk to people on, because my loneliness has reached an all time high, and I feel like my personal emotions and even my presence has become a burden to those in my interpersonal life.

I'm an EMT fulltime in a big city, and I'm also an exotic dancer because let's be real, first responders aren't paid well, and I also just like having fun. I've been a stripper for 4 years, and an EMT for 3 years. I've never had a problem at any EMS job, what with being a stripper as well. I don't go around telling people I'm a stripper, not because I'm ashamed of it, but because it unfortunately causes some problems for me with colleagues. 
I just moved to the suburbs to start at a new ambulance job, and someone had found out about me being a stripper. They are using it maliciously against me. I feel ostracized and beaten down, because it's not like being a stripper affects my care as an EMT. I live alone and I don't know anyone out here, so I count on my EMS job to meet acquaintances, but seeing as someone is spreading malicious lies about me as a dancer and what I do, it's been hard and lonely for me.

I was hoping to come here and document my struggles with what it's like to work in two very different professions, and maybe talk to some people. The girls at my strip club don't care what I do for fulltime work, but it's hard for me to come into my fulltime ambulance job (that I love) and be stuck in a box with someone for (at least) 12 hours a day who either ignores me, is rude to me or doesn't like me because I'm a stripper. I cry after work a lot now, and I find myself desperately scrolling through the contacts on my phone once or twice a day, looking for someone, anyone, to talk to, and feeling even smaller and more alone when I realize I really have no one. 

I hope to write here and find company online.

I'm very nervous to post this because I'm afraid of being ridiculed, but I hope someone, anyone likes me. I haven't been liked in a while. I haven't had a friend in a while. So thank you for letting me in. 

Lots of love xx
-L
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#2
welcome to this forum.
must be me right?  Cool

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#3
[Image: welcome_gif_by_4everlaugh-d56crsq.gif]Sorry ur not being fairly treated just cause ur a stripper. Sad People can be mean.
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#4
Wow, an EMT AND a stripper. You must have some stories.
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#5
Welcome ! 
There's absolutely nothing dishonorable about what you do. 
Suburban society can be so regressive. Loan sharks , giant corporations , etc aren't unethical, but being a stripper and loving it is. 
Feel free to talk to us Smile
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#6
If your coworker(s) have a problem with you being a stripper that's on them. Its not like you are a prostitute. Some people just need to keep their nose out of their own business. Maybe they are jealous because they know they couldn't be a stripper or are so self conscious about their bodies they have to hate on you. Being a stripper isn't who you are its just something else you do.
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#7
I have several friends who worked as strippers to pay their way through college. It got them where they wanted to be and no debt, so I fail to see the negative side of doing it. But yes, people are judgmental as hell and you will likely hear about it. Just try not to let that discourage you. You are doing for you what you need/want to do to get ahead and there's no shame in that. You aren't selling drugs or doing anything illegal, so be proud of what you've done and how much you have accomplished.
If it gets too bad though, you should consider talking to a superior.
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(12-28-2019, 01:38 PM)Sci-Fi Wrote: Maybe they are jealous because they know they couldn't be a stripper or are so self conscious about their bodies they have to hate on you

You raise a good point, I wish I had a body people would want to see, even pay for!!!!
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(12-27-2019, 10:19 PM)thenightmedic Wrote: Hi All,

I've decided to seek out a forum to talk to people on, because my loneliness has reached an all time high, and I feel like my personal emotions and even my presence has become a burden to those in my interpersonal life.

I'm an EMT fulltime in a big city, and I'm also an exotic dancer because let's be real, first responders aren't paid well, and I also just like having fun. I've been a stripper for 4 years, and an EMT for 3 years. I've never had a problem at any EMS job, what with being a stripper as well. I don't go around telling people I'm a stripper, not because I'm ashamed of it, but because it unfortunately causes some problems for me with colleagues. 
I just moved to the suburbs to start at a new ambulance job, and someone had found out about me being a stripper. They are using it maliciously against me. I feel ostracized and beaten down, because it's not like being a stripper affects my care as an EMT. I live alone and I don't know anyone out here, so I count on my EMS job to meet acquaintances, but seeing as someone is spreading malicious lies about me as a dancer and what I do, it's been hard and lonely for me.

I was hoping to come here and document my struggles with what it's like to work in two very different professions, and maybe talk to some people. The girls at my strip club don't care what I do for fulltime work, but it's hard for me to come into my fulltime ambulance job (that I love) and be stuck in a box with someone for (at least) 12 hours a day who either ignores me, is rude to me or doesn't like me because I'm a stripper. I cry after work a lot now, and I find myself desperately scrolling through the contacts on my phone once or twice a day, looking for someone, anyone, to talk to, and feeling even smaller and more alone when I realize I really have no one. 

I hope to write here and find company online.

I'm very nervous to post this because I'm afraid of being ridiculed, but I hope someone, anyone likes me. I haven't been liked in a while. I haven't had a friend in a while. So thank you for letting me in. 

Lots of love xx
-L

WELCOME!!! I don't feel like judging you at all. In fact you sound like an interesting person. PLEASE share your stories. It's wrong for them to treat you like that. If you have good character who cares if you are a stripper?
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#10
Quote: I'm afraid of being ridiculed
You have absolutely nothing to be afraid of from what I have seen so far on this forum. You also have nothing to be shamed about either, just turn and walk away.
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