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Preference for Celibacy
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Does anybody else here prefer celibacy? My preference for celibacy is partly due to my practice of Buddhism and partly to my loss of interest in lust, even to the point of annoyance.  This is coming from someone who already had two relationships so please don't accuse me of prudishness.

It's not prudishness at all because, after all, my practice of self-denial includes the other emotions as well.  Because by avoiding the emotion of lust, it makes it easier to avoid the emotion of anger as well.  We can see how dangerous that anger can become when we see examples of Road Rage when a gun enters the picture. So the way I see it, all our different emotions are intertwined.

Even food can be an emotion.  We see how people become fat by overeating as an emotional salve. In other words the emotion of gluttony.

So the practice of Buddhism is not only the avoidance of lust but also the avoidance of other emotions too.  Anger, Fear, Envy and yes even Loneliness.

Anyway since this section is about relationships I would like to hear from others who practice celibacy.  And even those who practice celibacy in a relationship. A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.
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(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

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must be me right?  Cool

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(02-05-2020, 04:02 PM)lookatbrightside Wrote:
(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

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I did laugh at that. :-)
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(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: Does anybody else here prefer celibacy? My preference for celibacy is partly due to my practice of Buddhism and partly to my loss of interest in lust, even to the point of annoyance.  This is coming from someone who already had two relationships so please don't accuse me of prudishness.

It's not prudishness at all because, after all, my practice of self-denial includes the other emotions as well.  Because by avoiding the emotion of lust, it makes it easier to avoid the emotion of anger as well.  We can see how dangerous that anger can become when we see examples of Road Rage when a gun enters the picture. So the way I see it, all our different emotions are intertwined.

Even food can be an emotion.  We see how people become fat by overeating as an emotional salve. In other words the emotion of gluttony.

So the practice of Buddhism is not only the avoidance of lust but also the avoidance of other emotions too.  Anger, Fear, Envy and yes even Loneliness.

Anyway since this section is about relationships I would like to hear from others who practice celibacy.  And even those who practice celibacy in a relationship. A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

Okay, did you lose your interest in sex, do you just ignore it or are you in denial about it?  You are contradicting yourself there.  And if you have no interest in sex, are you sure you just aren't asexual?
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(02-05-2020, 04:02 PM)lookatbrightside Wrote:
(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

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LOL That cat's face is too funny!😹
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(02-06-2020, 05:52 AM)ahsatan Wrote:
(02-05-2020, 04:02 PM)lookatbrightside Wrote:
(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

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LOL That cat's face is  too funny!😹

I think he's just realised he's been spayed.....just sardines to look forward to now.
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(02-06-2020, 02:46 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(01-30-2020, 06:04 PM)August Campbell Wrote: Does anybody else here prefer celibacy? My preference for celibacy is partly due to my practice of Buddhism and partly to my loss of interest in lust, even to the point of annoyance.  This is coming from someone who already had two relationships so please don't accuse me of prudishness.

It's not prudishness at all because, after all, my practice of self-denial includes the other emotions as well.  Because by avoiding the emotion of lust, it makes it easier to avoid the emotion of anger as well.  We can see how dangerous that anger can become when we see examples of Road Rage when a gun enters the picture. So the way I see it, all our different emotions are intertwined.

Even food can be an emotion.  We see how people become fat by overeating as an emotional salve. In other words the emotion of gluttony.

So the practice of Buddhism is not only the avoidance of lust but also the avoidance of other emotions too.  Anger, Fear, Envy and yes even Loneliness.

Anyway since this section is about relationships I would like to hear from others who practice celibacy.  And even those who practice celibacy in a relationship. A couple can remain celibate in even a close relationship.

Okay, did you lose your interest in sex, do you just ignore it or are you in denial about it?  You are contradicting yourself there.  And if you have no interest in sex, are you sure you just aren't asexual?

To answer your question. I guess I would say Asexual.  Because in my two relationships, I had no interest in physical intimacy at all.  At the same time, though, Hugging is fine with me, in order to show affection.  And if the relationship had continued for much longer, then I would have tried ballroom dancing too.  Because ballroom dancing is somewhat physical, yes?

As it turned out, the Avoidance of physical intimacy worked to my advantage. Because when each relationship ended, I did not feel any heartbreak. Disappointed, yes, but not heartbroken--because I had No emotional attachment, a valuable lesson I learned from Buddhism.  No emotional attachment, yet I still had fun.
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No emotional attachment is a sad state to be in. 
I've been in that state regarding romantic relationship for a long time. 
Then I met someone that made me feel again and it's amazing. To actually have something invested in someone feels way better than walking on this earth as a cold one. 

Why do you feel it's better to not be invested in a relationship? I think this is a bad favor you do to yourself that's actually going to hurt you in the end. 
Maybe. That's my thoughts at least. 
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(02-15-2020, 06:23 PM)MissBehave Wrote: No emotional attachment is a sad state to be in. 
I've been in that state regarding romantic relationship for a long time. 
Then I met someone that made me feel again and it's amazing. To actually have something invested in someone feels way better than walking on this earth as a cold one. 

Why do you feel it's better to not be invested in a relationship? I think this is a bad favor you do to yourself that's actually going to hurt you in the end. 
Maybe. That's my thoughts at least. 
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Actually it's sort of an insult to call me sad when I'm actually happy.  As I said, in my relationships, my Avoidance of physical intimacy worked to my advantage.  Because when each relationship ended, I did not feel any heartbreak at all.  In other words, why should I accept pain when I can avoid it?  And I avoided it by practicing Non-attachment.
And it's not my idea but the valuable lesson I learned from watching the lecture from Mr. Brahm's Buddhist YouTube channel.  He's a Buddhist but is a Caucasian from the UK who is one of the most honored head monks in Australia nowadays.

The only way to avoid mental anguish is by controlling our emotions or even eliminating them.  Nirvana is the spiritual state beyond human emotions.  And it's what I try to reach by meditating.
For the most part, I feel contented nowadays. So don't you feel happy for me? After all, the other day I felt happy for you because You felt upbeat. Let's make it Mutual.
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#10
I'm not trying to debate, but are you saying you are learning Buddhism from a single source on YouTube?
You may want to try reading a variety of books or searching out a group of it's had that much of an impact on you. Besides being a good way to learn and strengthen your beliefs, you can correct any misunderstandings that may have come from only having that one learning source.
I'm not a Buddhist, and I definitely don't know that much about it, but nothing I ever read about the religion suggested that one should avoid all emotions, just that one should try to overcome negative feelings like hate, anger, and jealousy. It's a topic I would actually like to learn more about, I just don't find myself with a lot of time to spare for religion.
If I'm wrong, I'm wrong. But I still think you need to find a better source for information.
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