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Hi my names Colin and I’m here because yes I’m lonely, I suffer from anxiety and depression which I’ve had all my life and do struggle from time to time, I’m single and live on my own with my cat misty, my last relationship finished horribly 18 months ago which left me suffering with my mental health, I simply haven’t been the same since, I now very rarely leave the house and got no friends to socialise with, all my fault as I simply have no self confidence due to the relationship breakdown, I would just like to add wasn’t my fault she was an alcoholic and I just couldn’t cope with it as the lies and deceit wore me down, she simply didn’t want to stop enough so I gave up which has left me in the situation I’m in today, I’m simply lost. I hope this tells you a little bit about me and my situation, so big hi to everyone here.

colboyxx said:

Hi my names Colin and I’m here because yes I’m lonely, I suffer from anxiety and depression which I’ve had all my life and do struggle from time to time, I’m single and live on my own with my cat misty, my last relationship finished horribly 18 months ago which left me suffering with my mental health, I simply haven’t been the same since, I now very rarely leave the house and got no friends to socialise with, all my fault as I simply have no self confidence due to the relationship breakdown, I would just like to add wasn’t my fault she was an alcoholic and I just couldn’t cope with it as the lies and deceit wore me down, she simply didn’t want to stop enough so I gave up which has left me in the situation I’m in today, I’m simply lost. I hope this tells you a little bit about me and my situation, so big hi to everyone here.

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Hi mate.

It sounds like you did the best thing for yourself. BTW, post a picture of your cat. There are a lot of cat lovers on this site.

Hi Colin. Sorry about your relationship. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped. Hard, I know, but it's the truth.

Hope you find friends, and more importantly - confidence in yourself.

And Finished is right. There ARE a lot of cat lovers here - even those of us without cats love them

colboyxx said:

Hi my names Colin and I’m here because yes I’m lonely, I suffer from anxiety and depression which I’ve had all my life and do struggle from time to time, I’m single and live on my own with my cat misty, my last relationship finished horribly 18 months ago which left me suffering with my mental health, I simply haven’t been the same since, I now very rarely leave the house and got no friends to socialise with, all my fault as I simply have no self confidence due to the relationship breakdown, I would just like to add wasn’t my fault she was an alcoholic and I just couldn’t cope with it as the lies and deceit wore me down, she simply didn’t want to stop enough so I gave up which has left me in the situation I’m in today, I’m simply lost. I hope this tells you a little bit about me and my situation, so big hi to everyone here.

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Having a problematic relationship while you are working on your struggles can really pull you down. But as you said it wasn’t your fault, so look at the good side, I am sure your hurting but it wasn’t your doing and you have one less problem. All the lies and toxicity is hopefully behind you and now you can focus on your anxiety. Forget about making friends for now. You are vulnerable and might end up with a friendship that turns sour. Enjoy being alone instead. Appreciate the little things that you have. A cup of coffee or tea, some food, shelter, health, job, an uncomplaining cat. There is so much to be thankful for. Go out and take a walk all by yourself, do not mind others, do not look or stare or envy people with company. Enjoy the fresh air and the sun and that will pump blood and good hormones into your brain and your body. Go to a public park or a museum, take a long walk or hike, its free. You will have a much better life if you can learn to be happy just being by yourself. If not, it doesn’t matter how many people surround you. Your happiness should come from within and not from other people. People will disappoint us and we disappoint people, because after all we are just humans.

Hi and welcome!