TheRealCallie said:
Meaningless suggestions? No, they aren't. They are suggestions. You are the one who decides whether or not to try them. You are the one who decides how much effort you put into the suggestions if you do decide to try them.
Great! Lets hear some new suggestions other then the normal obvious ones that are tossed about. Obvious suggestions are meaningless. It's like saying just make friends with people and you will have friends.
And doesn't the same thing work with your hand/fire example is this situation? You did it several times, so you learned what NOT to do. You learned to do something different. How do you expect to get anywhere if you don't try different things that may not have occurred to you or that you passed off as pointless?
Not really. After burning my hand several times I gave up on that situation. I didn't switch hands or start sticking my feet into the fire as a feeble attempt to try new ways. Sometimes it's best to admit defeat and move on to something else entirely.
People here are offering suggestions that have likely either worked for them personally or someone close to them. By getting as many options as possible, it gives you more of a chance of finding something that works for you.
Or, they are just regurgitated suggestions from somewhere else without any idea of their successes.
It's not always about trying HARDER. Sometimes it's about trying something DIFFERENT.
That's true. I just keep reading in different places about how various groups of people aren't trying hard enough and that's why they aren't successful at what they are doing. I.E. "Just keep at it and eventually you'll get it." No, after awhile you stop trying and move on to something else. Many times things can not be accomplished because the rules are out of your hands. It's not a matter of switching a round a few aspects.
But yeah, just give up, then you know that you didn't stick it out to get what you want out of life and you can be bitter and negative until your dying days. Seems like a MUCH better option
Sometimes, it is better to give up and move on to something else. Most people can only bang their head against the wall for so long.