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This thread will be one of complaints and love. When you get up in the morning and think about how dreary your day will be then post something that bothers you about people or even about this forum.  I am posting my main complaint right now.  The moderators I love for having a forum for us but I do not respect them being completely out of the picture and never showing their postings or thoughts. They are like Queens or Kings sitting there ruling.. Also this way that the forum has to read everybody who posted saying:  And Priscella said this and its in a small box and then the next one and Finished says this and its in a small square box as well.  Gosh I can not even see the dividing lines to all of this---------thinking this is unneeded because it confuses the crap out of me and every post has a date and people could just scroll through and find the last few postings. So good people if you want to get things "out of your system" this is the thread for you..We all use good judgement with manners so lets go at it...Thanks Priscella.
 
Thank you The Real Callie for you are the first poster...In my view there is absolutely no excuse with being busy for 24 hours a day. Since I have been here people have signed up and very few have greeted them to and its really the job of the moderators to welcome them as well as our group as a group effort. That's just how I see it. Starting this forum there must have been some reason on why they started a lonely forum for people and if they were that involved with all the work involved in starting it many years ago I do not see no reason why they cannot say "Hi" once in awhile. To me if you are going through all that work to get a forum I think you should stay at it through thick and thin...Bye the way your posting have been very very well thought out and nice..Thanks # 1 poster..priscella
 
I would say it's a group effort to welcome new people. Minus often welcomes people and he's a moderator. As for others, the forum isn't nearly as busy as it used to be, so new people won't get as many posts as they once did.
I know in the past, a lot of people wouldn't post in the welcome section because they didn't know what to say, so that's also a contributing factor. I don't always get to the welcome section myself.
Also, the mods here aren't the ones who started this forum. There have been many mods since this forum started. This forum is actually a spinoff of a thread from another forum. Here's an article that talks about the thread and how this forum was created.
https://www.salon.com/2014/11/19/i_...ddest_thread_on_the_internet_ten_years_later/
 
Thank you TheRealCallie and that information was terrific and to tell you the truth I have already read that and it put me on to a forum that was nothing but Pornography so I have been at that link------terrible. If people want to belong to forums like that it is absolutely their choice and I see no qualms to people having freedom of choice but there is a difference here and this is when they latch on to another type of forum involving lonely people why cannot they stand on their own two feet of a forum and do it on their own from scratch instead of truncating on to another forum unless they are doing it to make fun of lonely people.
Yes since that early forum started the world and generations have changed a whole lot especially having facebook and twitter and assorted other social medias come into play..Through no fault of our own we have become alienated from the whole society and there is no quick pill to solve that problem. But we can do the best that we can to remain honest within "our own comfortable rules of engagement", and in time people might on forums learn to trust in their fellow forum members and maybe even make friends with them through e-mails or something--even hand written post cards if they so desire. Something that they can be comfortable with as time goes by...I really appreciate the knowledge of this forum that you presented to me for it gives my thinking a whole new pattern...lol--
this could be Awesome or Not and it depends on how people look at this...lol lol This thread is just beginning so lets see where it winds up..Thanks forum friend  From priscella..

I came across this hoping I can get it on here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_am_lonely_will_anyone_speak_to_me
 
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Yea I see this is going to be quite a thread. lol lol... You are in the woods too long and you have such a attitude----lol lol  
Thanks for all the humor on this fine morning and most likely we all need this right now...Thanks  priscella
 
Listen to some of the depressing items today: Murder Hornets, Shark killings, Strange Seeds, Congress representative giving campaign money to husband--Omar..She hates America.., corona virus, mailed ballot fraud, Riots across the nation, Business and schools remain shut down, police defunded and budget cut in half, now a hurricane come towards the east coast....Oh such a lovely day for us to be happy about so lets all eat something good and listen to the music..or play our video games to just pass the time...Stay safe everyone--stay safe.....priscella..
 
Okay, you have many years of experience. In your opinion, do these times suck a lot more then they did say thirty years ago? Sure there are lots of shiny new trinkets that only seem to last one day longer then the insignificant warranty. We just keep buying new crap to make us feel better.

But, it seems to me that people are more angry, depressed, and frustrated then in the past. Are we all spoiled now? Are things to easy? Our lives seem less meaningful. There doesn't seem to be any reward in working and living nowadays. Sure people get a paycheck. But, that doesn't really do anything. It just keeps people afloat. Do we need a severe event to appreciate being alive and relatively healthy?

So, many groups are complaining about this or that. Everybody is a victim nowadays. Was it like that in the past. But it's just more in our faces now?
 
That's a really interesting question and not so cut and dry to answer but you already know this but I will try from my perspective--ugh---hard answering here.. First of all I have to say that I am a pessimist, and with my answer one needs to remember this..I think that our world has been here many times before and we get to a certain point and that's the end of it and we start over.  We are moving forward and the only way we could save our world is to leave it or :move our planet"..--not too many options here in my opinion...Now get you none of this I write is true just what I believe so lets not jump off the cliff right yet---lol lol.. I think society falls like everything else falls and this goes for our world too..Your born and young and middle age and old age then you kick the bucket.. The planet I think is the same way. I think we are at the old age stage veering into a new thinking which is AI...This AI will bring us forward but at the same token humans as we know them will go extinct so all this worry about past and present and future will not matter anyway..Was life back then better or worse or is now better than it was and does it show improvements----yes no and no yes---I do not know.. So I answered the best way that I could for now..Now if you want me to write a book about all of this I will for it would have many, many, many chapters in order to get right...lol lol...Thanks for the posting...priscella..
 
^not the person you asked, but I do think about this topic from time to time.

I was conscious through all of the 90s (starting 30 years ago, like you were saying) and I definitely felt that, compared to today, the dollar went further. The number on a paycheck might have been smaller, but it bought more stuff. I think that's a lot of the anger, it takes more and more to not even live "the good life" but just to get to "just OK" these days. Everything from gas to food and day-to-day stuff now costs more. It feels like doors are shutting. Nowadays you need more education that's more expensive that you need to be smarter to even be able to learn it in the first place. Even if you can somehow afford it, anything that pays even enough for "just OK" is getting more technical and difficult to understand and there are only so many positions available. The world is getting more complicated, but people aren't getting more intelligent to keep up with the pace of technology (I'm not anti-tech at all by the way, I think scientific and technological progress is good but I'm not sure what to do about this situation where you need to know ever more complex things just to be "OK"). I think competition is getting a lot worse, and it's bringing out the ugliness in people in all forms of life. It used to feel like there was enough to go around, and enough opportunity to move up in the world should you choose to do it. Now it's feeling less and less the case. Today it seems like if you're not winning, you're losing. There's no middle ground anymore.

It's frustrating when people tell you to "just be content", when what you're supposed to be content with is crappy, and getting increasingly crappier. What you're supposed to be content with, isn't at all motivating or inspiring or invigorating. It doesn't make you want to get up in the morning and face the day. You feel stuck, unable to make any progress. You don't feel like you can really get anywhere that's any good, so it's not meaningful. It's getting harder to see any reason be hopeful for the future.

Also, and this competition might feed into it, but identity politics have gotten worse. It used to feel like your political alignment was something that just came up now and then, around voting time, and it wasn't that big of a deal. Now it's in your face every day, and it's like the two sides want to kill each other. At the same time it's feeling like the people on top, regardless of party, don't care and can't even be bothered to pretend they care anymore. They just want more money for themselves and their friends and associates.

Well. That's my take. Not saying this is the answer. Just how it seems to me.
 
I have been reading the threads on this forum and they go back a long way but it seems like a history chamber of this forum. Who started this forum and I realize that we have people keeping an eye on it but is it too much to ask who owns it? People give their time for all kinds of things and I love to wake up in the morning knowing at least there are a few forum friends who might have posted something different and nice. I think we all need some thought provoking thoughts like for instance. Do any of you believe in conspiracy theories? Personally I believe this virus was started to bring America down and head it toward Socialism and we I believe will be in a bad inflation real soon through no fault of our own. Our government should never have shut the economy down. They should have protected "oldsters" a lot better and I realize they knew very little when it first started or did they know very little? I think all schools should be open and life should get back to normal and put the work of staying safe on the people---we are adults---just give us the equipment and information that we need to be aware of---but who tells the truth???? I do not trust anymore..
 
Be patient I am trying to bring forward a paragraph in that article that you shared with me and I cannot seem to do it.. I am not computer literate here--lol...I will share with you the beginning sentence of the paragraph and where it ends---I have it in blue and tried to paste and copy but it did not work if someone could paste that paragraph I think it is important. Be patient need to find it and I will be back--lol lol I got it-----If we all could discuss this paragraph would be nice....

The crux of the Internet loneliness debate isn't actually the Internet; it's the tension between Internet reality and real world reality. There's a sense in which the Internet is somehow fake, and that the real world is better, but we go online to talk about it anyway, hovering in that space between technological connection and physical connection. It's illogical to think of the Internet as separate from the real world — we're still regular people communicating regular things on it — and yet we constantly differentiate between the two. Lundgren, for instance, believes that loneliness can only be solved in the latter. “The Internet will never suffice,” he says. “You need to actually talk to and see people in real life to feel like a real person.” In other words, there's a fear that a person on the Internet is somehow less real than an unplugged one. And the fear of talking to people “who may not even exist” on the Internet is a relevant, though surreal, worry. If the original poster, “lonely,” logged off forever and never came back to the thread, how much value do we get from thinking of them as a real person with a real life and real loneliness? For all intents and purposes, hasn't “lonely” become just another search term, another bit of code? (Bjarne Lundgren) 11/20/14 article written by Tori Telfer

This forum is 16 years old and when is the last time that he posted and why did he let another entity scoop up his domain name A lonely life Forum and add other forums to it that are porno forms---can't he sue them or something if he owns this forum? He is not protecting this forum very well because he does not believe in it no more and God Bless the People Keeping it Going because I feel it is much needed in this world of ours and he should hire a professional web person to set up a good page with protection of the entries---that's how I feel---. I am glad that he is letting it continue--but the no care and neglect attitude on his part is sad.
 
priscella said:
This forum is 16 years old and when is the last time that he posted and why did he let another entity scoop up his domain name A lonely life Forum and add other forums to it that are porno forms---can't he sue them or something if he owns this forum? He is not  protecting this forum very well because he does not believe in it no more and God Bless the People Keeping it Going because I feel it is much needed in this world of ours and he should hire a professional web person to set up a good page with protection of the entries---that's how I feel---.  I am glad that he is letting it continue--but the no care and neglect attitude on his part is sad.

Bjarne created this forum because there was a need for it.  It's a spinoff from one of his other forums because it was so popular.  He doesn't have to post to provide a service for people in need.  He saw the desire for the forum and he created it, entrusting the moderation to others, who have does a decent job of keeping things in order.  Bjarne comes around when something needs to be done behind the scenes, usually at least once a year, unless more needs done in the meantime. 
As for "scooping up" his domain, I'm not really sure what you mean by that.  He has several forums and I'm sorry, but people like porn, so why shouldn't there be a forum for that too?  Whether you like it or not, it's out there and quite popular. Also not sure what you mean by him not protecting this forum or entries.
 
He has had many forums and it seems he was just experimenting to find out information and to see which forum stuck to the wall so to speak, some forums he dis continued others he let continue like for instance The lounge but different entities of it and I am not knowledgeable enough to decipher what exactly happened to all these different forums with different names. I spent some time on the net just looking at the words--lounge forums and moviecodex.com and trying to put together a history because he must have really cared about lonely people when he first started but now I think he just keeps it running because of its name. I do notice that the mybb group on the bottom expires this year unless it is renewed. I really think this forum under better ownership could become a real good site that could help people under the right circumstances. He has had complaints before when he just shut the forum down and totally disregarded them nor did he seem to care with no explanation. If you put in certain words having to do with lonely one winds up on a forum with video's and people are "really partying" all kinds of different ways. I think it extends from the word "lonely"... Lonely people like me want to belong to something wholesome and not so party party party and ha ha ha because once in awhile it means a lot to people to just acknowledge them and reach out to let them know they are not the only ones for there are other people just like them in this world. This looks like a corporate entity this forum and I wish the owner would just drop in and say hi and then go about his  work. I know that this won't happen but it is a wish anyway...
 
I think this forum has done exceedingly well in a time when forums are dying all over the internet. Forums just aren't what most people are looking for these days, so maybe you should just be thankful that you have a good place to go and stop trying to analyze everything when you admit you are computer illiterate.
I have been on this forum for 10 years and people have come and gone and people will continue to come and go until forums go the way of the dinosaurs in a fiery explosion. Be thankful for what you have, instead of finding illogical reasons to complain. No forum is perfect, every single one of them has issues, whether it be with design (this is actually one of the better designs) or with the mods or with the members or with anything else. Those are logical things to complain about, but you are complaining about something that is essentially irrelevant.
 
Of course I disagree with you but you have your opinion..My opinion has already been stated.  btw: I tried to duplicate the first forum with the word lonely that I plugged in to and it is not there no more as far as I can tell. Thank you for your post and reply.   priscella
 
If I can bring this up but look at this forum--wow....

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaia_Online


I went on the net and ask for the largest forum in the world and this one was out of ten largest---can you imagine 17 million people and I would have never thought how large forums can get---what a trip...But ours is a simple forum just for us members and those other famous large forums has all kinds of indexes plus political advertising and I cannot agree with that for I think forums should stay as neutral as possible and in the sport games as well as neutral as possible and in the clothing items as neutral as possible. But the young ones now a days have a very different culture and they are the ones with the energy and I am tired.. But it was sure interesting to see all the different forums of the world...
 

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