I feel like I stopped growing up (mentally) in my 20s. But life, and everyone else, carried on on.
Is it just me or does everything seem to get more serious as time goes on? I'm not depressed, or sad, I'm in my mid 30s, I have a decent job, home, car and partner. Yet I would jump at the chance to go back to my 20s. Everything seemed completely different back then, less complication, more social and less seriousness and stress. Perhaps this is psychological, and that I'm very nostalgic. But a lot of things now simply remind me of how great life was "back then". Weather it's a bit in a movie I'm watching, something that someone says, music I listen to, or the littlest inanimate thing.
The thing is I think that this mentality is holding me back, and I don't feel as though I belong in these times. Everything feels hard work and over complicated. From setting up council tax, to selling something on eBay, to booking a doctors appointment.. and many other mundane things anyone else wouldn't have a problem with. I just find myself having very minimal patience for.
This is probably comes across as cliche but everyone else I knew in my life from "back in the day" has moved on and done other things with their life, mostly got married, have a family, or a career and grew up. I just don't see anyone at the moment, sure I have friends but 99% are wrapped up in their own stuff. It's "just one of those things" that happens as you grow up but I can't ever imagine myself getting married at all, let alone having kids.
In fact I often think how I wouldn't want to bring a child up in these times. I think it's harder than ever to keep your kid on the straight and narrow and to mostly make the right choices in life. There's stimuli everywhere you go, everyone just stares at their phones even if it's for a second or two. I feel as though it's conditioning people and even something that gets passed down that shows in ways like ADD and hyperactivity. We live in a world where eating healthy costs more than junk food, in fact I've heard people say they don't have time to eat healthily. People are working longer hours now than ever, in fact my partner works 14 hour shifts for the NHS. And don't even get me started on the retirement age.
If you earn a bit of money there's always someone waiting to take it. There's a scammer around every corner and nobody does anything for free. Even when you watch shows like Dragons Den people go on with genuinely good ideas or intentions and they get shot down if they can't go global with it or if it's not single use for profit. There's so much focus on money nowadays that it makes people feel miserable not to have it, but don't worry there's plenty of credit to go around.
This post wasn't meant to be a rant or full of misery, but for some of the good you see around you I think it's more or a hassle than ever to live in these times. It's no wonder I'd go back if I could. Maybe I was ignorant back then but I never thought about these issues, but to be fair a lot weren't there. There certainly wasn't as much misinformation back then. Things like that have exploded in recent times, and I believe people where more genuine too. Everyone takes everyone else so serious all the time, you cannot be humorous, or god forbid say something in an angry manner. People complaining about stupid things and people like the government listen causing a knock-on effect so now it's like we've entered into a complaint culture.
I'm wondering if it's just me that's developed a negative view of the world, or if others feel the same. I've often thought I've become more like Victor Meldrew as I've got older, or maybe it's just because life has become more serious as time goes on.
Is it just me or does everything seem to get more serious as time goes on? I'm not depressed, or sad, I'm in my mid 30s, I have a decent job, home, car and partner. Yet I would jump at the chance to go back to my 20s. Everything seemed completely different back then, less complication, more social and less seriousness and stress. Perhaps this is psychological, and that I'm very nostalgic. But a lot of things now simply remind me of how great life was "back then". Weather it's a bit in a movie I'm watching, something that someone says, music I listen to, or the littlest inanimate thing.
The thing is I think that this mentality is holding me back, and I don't feel as though I belong in these times. Everything feels hard work and over complicated. From setting up council tax, to selling something on eBay, to booking a doctors appointment.. and many other mundane things anyone else wouldn't have a problem with. I just find myself having very minimal patience for.
This is probably comes across as cliche but everyone else I knew in my life from "back in the day" has moved on and done other things with their life, mostly got married, have a family, or a career and grew up. I just don't see anyone at the moment, sure I have friends but 99% are wrapped up in their own stuff. It's "just one of those things" that happens as you grow up but I can't ever imagine myself getting married at all, let alone having kids.
In fact I often think how I wouldn't want to bring a child up in these times. I think it's harder than ever to keep your kid on the straight and narrow and to mostly make the right choices in life. There's stimuli everywhere you go, everyone just stares at their phones even if it's for a second or two. I feel as though it's conditioning people and even something that gets passed down that shows in ways like ADD and hyperactivity. We live in a world where eating healthy costs more than junk food, in fact I've heard people say they don't have time to eat healthily. People are working longer hours now than ever, in fact my partner works 14 hour shifts for the NHS. And don't even get me started on the retirement age.
If you earn a bit of money there's always someone waiting to take it. There's a scammer around every corner and nobody does anything for free. Even when you watch shows like Dragons Den people go on with genuinely good ideas or intentions and they get shot down if they can't go global with it or if it's not single use for profit. There's so much focus on money nowadays that it makes people feel miserable not to have it, but don't worry there's plenty of credit to go around.
This post wasn't meant to be a rant or full of misery, but for some of the good you see around you I think it's more or a hassle than ever to live in these times. It's no wonder I'd go back if I could. Maybe I was ignorant back then but I never thought about these issues, but to be fair a lot weren't there. There certainly wasn't as much misinformation back then. Things like that have exploded in recent times, and I believe people where more genuine too. Everyone takes everyone else so serious all the time, you cannot be humorous, or god forbid say something in an angry manner. People complaining about stupid things and people like the government listen causing a knock-on effect so now it's like we've entered into a complaint culture.
I'm wondering if it's just me that's developed a negative view of the world, or if others feel the same. I've often thought I've become more like Victor Meldrew as I've got older, or maybe it's just because life has become more serious as time goes on.