MaratheGray
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Today it seemed like everyone got together and agreed to ghost me, and it got me to thinking. After reading a thread by someone talking about feeling ashamed of needing people, I can say that I know the feeling. I know that there's a difference between "aloneness" and feeling lonely, but my life has been a huge majority of the latter, even during times when I knew and/or associated with a lot of different people, like when at university. Sometimes it feels like I have a lot friends, or rather, I will be talking with people I know and they will say I have a lot of friends because I mention a lot of people, but I always feel like there's some disconnect between me and everybody else - like I'm some kind of alien that can't relate to anybody.
Like I try to be friendly and talk to people, but then they just seem to become distant after awhile. Sometimes I go through serious spells of introversion when I don't want to talk with certain people, but then after that it seems like when I do want to talk they have gotten past caring. Like I know that sometimes the other person is feeling not like talking to others too - but I feel like the other people I "talk" to -- or message rather -- often are not really caring about talking to me or seem to have some ulterior motive for talking to me.
I guess what I want to know is how I can get past caring too. It's weird but sometimes I feel like the whole world hates me and that the only way out of it is to not be me and to hate myself too, except that I don't know what I'm doing wrong to make others just act friendly at first but then ghost me later. I'm not just talking about a dating perspective - I guess I'm one of those toxic women who can't relate to other women. I have three sisters, yet I have never managed to hold onto any female friends who are not relatives. I think moving a lot when I was younger affected my ability to sustain friendships. I communicate more often to people I've never met before than people I know in person.
This post is all over the place, I'm sorry. I just wanted to vent about being lonely.
Like I try to be friendly and talk to people, but then they just seem to become distant after awhile. Sometimes I go through serious spells of introversion when I don't want to talk with certain people, but then after that it seems like when I do want to talk they have gotten past caring. Like I know that sometimes the other person is feeling not like talking to others too - but I feel like the other people I "talk" to -- or message rather -- often are not really caring about talking to me or seem to have some ulterior motive for talking to me.
I guess what I want to know is how I can get past caring too. It's weird but sometimes I feel like the whole world hates me and that the only way out of it is to not be me and to hate myself too, except that I don't know what I'm doing wrong to make others just act friendly at first but then ghost me later. I'm not just talking about a dating perspective - I guess I'm one of those toxic women who can't relate to other women. I have three sisters, yet I have never managed to hold onto any female friends who are not relatives. I think moving a lot when I was younger affected my ability to sustain friendships. I communicate more often to people I've never met before than people I know in person.
This post is all over the place, I'm sorry. I just wanted to vent about being lonely.