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It's unbelievable what happened tonight.
In previous posts, I've mentioned that I was separated from my husband of 16 years. I moved into the "sunroom" and he stayed in the bedroom. He's been verbally and emotionally abusive to me and it's escalated a lot lately.
I was in my room when he suddenly walked in and told me he wasn't leaving. I told him he had to leave my room and he said:
"You're going to have a hard time sleeping tonight'. To me that was such a threat so I asked him again to leave. He refused. So I told him I'd had enough, I wanted to break up. I told him I thought I'd tried my best but nothing I tried was healing the relationship. I told him I wasn't kicking him to the curb but I wanted him to try his best to leave by end of March and that I'd help him the best I could. He started the debating and I told him enough. Then he said he was never leaving.
At that point I told him about the EIO (Emergency Intervention Order) and that it could be a very short 48 hours when he would be removed. He said "I dare you to do that."
I asked him to be civil, to cooperate, but he just sat in front of my bed and stared at me and again said he wasn't going anywhere. So I told him I would call the police because he was scaring me.
At that point, he got dressed, put his hat on and sat by the door...so defiantly, waiting to be arrested. I kept asking him to stop the nonsense, that it didn't have to be this way but I just got stonewalled. I asked him not to force me to strong arm him. All he had to do was stay in his room, I'd stay in mine and he could spend a month looking for a place. But he just glared at me.
So I called the police. Of course, they told me that they couldn't do anything because he didn't hit me or threaten my life. So I was in tears as I walked up to him and told him that he'd won. The police wouldn't come unless he hit me. I told him to stay away from me and out of my room. I feel so helpless.
But now it's my opportunity to finally follow through with the breakup. His defiant behaviour killed any love I may have still had for him.
In previous posts, I've mentioned that I was separated from my husband of 16 years. I moved into the "sunroom" and he stayed in the bedroom. He's been verbally and emotionally abusive to me and it's escalated a lot lately.
I was in my room when he suddenly walked in and told me he wasn't leaving. I told him he had to leave my room and he said:
"You're going to have a hard time sleeping tonight'. To me that was such a threat so I asked him again to leave. He refused. So I told him I'd had enough, I wanted to break up. I told him I thought I'd tried my best but nothing I tried was healing the relationship. I told him I wasn't kicking him to the curb but I wanted him to try his best to leave by end of March and that I'd help him the best I could. He started the debating and I told him enough. Then he said he was never leaving.
At that point I told him about the EIO (Emergency Intervention Order) and that it could be a very short 48 hours when he would be removed. He said "I dare you to do that."
I asked him to be civil, to cooperate, but he just sat in front of my bed and stared at me and again said he wasn't going anywhere. So I told him I would call the police because he was scaring me.
At that point, he got dressed, put his hat on and sat by the door...so defiantly, waiting to be arrested. I kept asking him to stop the nonsense, that it didn't have to be this way but I just got stonewalled. I asked him not to force me to strong arm him. All he had to do was stay in his room, I'd stay in mine and he could spend a month looking for a place. But he just glared at me.
So I called the police. Of course, they told me that they couldn't do anything because he didn't hit me or threaten my life. So I was in tears as I walked up to him and told him that he'd won. The police wouldn't come unless he hit me. I told him to stay away from me and out of my room. I feel so helpless.
But now it's my opportunity to finally follow through with the breakup. His defiant behaviour killed any love I may have still had for him.