--Lanie--
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Hi!
I really don't know what to do and what is wrong with me..
I don't have any friends. I talk to ppl at school and at work but none of them seem to want to hang out with me. Two and a half years ago i moved to this country. Back in my country i already had long established friendships made in kindergarten or primary school. (I didn't take intiative in meeting new people but having these old friends helped me: they would introduce me to new ones and take me to hang out with them and to parties) here however i don't have these long-established friendships. i tried to change and take the initiative but for some reason it doesn't seem to work out. None of the girls who i talk to at school want to hang out with me! Like for instance today i talked to my "friend".
she said
wow it's sucha beautiful day!" So i offered her to go for a walk or something but she immediately said "oh, actually i have so much work to do!" And this wasn't the first time. more like a hundredth.. i asked her if she wantedto go shopping she was like "well maybe sametime.."
Then i asked another girl to go shopping. (she seems to like shopping and dressing up and all this kind of stuff) She was like "oh, sure i'll call you tomorrow or the day after" and of course she did NOT call. By now i'm so used to everyone not calling back that i'm not even expecting anyone to call anymore really...
and yea, i used to be shy i thought this was my only problem and i was sure as soon as i started asking people out i'd stop being lonely but for some reason this still isn't working!!!
people say: you're such a beautiful girl you shouldn't be afraid to talk to people, offer them your friendship, ask them out, they'll be happy.. Well i'm not afraid anymore and i'm still beautiful and all that notwithstanding it's still not working out! The fact that i'm beautiful only means that many guys (much older ones too keep asking me out, and my relationships with other girls still suck! What should i do? What is my problem i really don't see what's wrong with me!! Ireally need your advice!
I really don't know what to do and what is wrong with me..
I don't have any friends. I talk to ppl at school and at work but none of them seem to want to hang out with me. Two and a half years ago i moved to this country. Back in my country i already had long established friendships made in kindergarten or primary school. (I didn't take intiative in meeting new people but having these old friends helped me: they would introduce me to new ones and take me to hang out with them and to parties) here however i don't have these long-established friendships. i tried to change and take the initiative but for some reason it doesn't seem to work out. None of the girls who i talk to at school want to hang out with me! Like for instance today i talked to my "friend".
she said
wow it's sucha beautiful day!" So i offered her to go for a walk or something but she immediately said "oh, actually i have so much work to do!" And this wasn't the first time. more like a hundredth.. i asked her if she wantedto go shopping she was like "well maybe sametime.."
Then i asked another girl to go shopping. (she seems to like shopping and dressing up and all this kind of stuff) She was like "oh, sure i'll call you tomorrow or the day after" and of course she did NOT call. By now i'm so used to everyone not calling back that i'm not even expecting anyone to call anymore really...
and yea, i used to be shy i thought this was my only problem and i was sure as soon as i started asking people out i'd stop being lonely but for some reason this still isn't working!!!
people say: you're such a beautiful girl you shouldn't be afraid to talk to people, offer them your friendship, ask them out, they'll be happy.. Well i'm not afraid anymore and i'm still beautiful and all that notwithstanding it's still not working out! The fact that i'm beautiful only means that many guys (much older ones too keep asking me out, and my relationships with other girls still suck! What should i do? What is my problem i really don't see what's wrong with me!! Ireally need your advice!