Naleena
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Your Significant other has just broken up with you. You're obviously heartbroken. How will you ever get over this?
Steps
The steps to getting over a break up are the same as the steps of dying. Starting with denial and ending with acceptance.
Denial, this is one of the worst to do through, because, if you don't know how to get past it, you may end up looking desperate or getting heart broken(again). This stage comes with thoughts like 'Oh, he/she was just joking, they still want to go out with me.' Do not think this. When some one says that they are breaking up with you, they all most always mean it. One exception is if they are severely depressed or have a change in behavior, then they may just be going through a stage.
A way to get past the urges to ask the person back out is to listen to music Music has healing powers, this may help you get over your initial shock.
Surround yourself with friends your best friends will almost definitely cheer you up "He/she wasn't good enough for you." "He/She doesn't deserve you." Etc.
Anger You will feel angry. There is no hiding the fact. DO NOT lash out at any one. Please, for the greater good of mankind
Listen to more music!! Listen to angry music, like the All American Rejects song 'Gives You Hell'.
Bargaining You will again try to say that he/she would love you again if you did whatever to your appearance/wardrobe. It Will not work. Don't try it. There is no real way to get over this except to do what makes you happy. If you really want to cut your hair that way, make sure you are doing it for you and only you.
Depression You will feel hopeless. Do not despair, there are cures for this. Cry it out just take sometime at night while you are falling asleep to shed a few ( or many) tears over them. It will feel like a big weight has been taken off of your chest.
Talk to Someone Usually a friend, but guidance counselors, a favorite teacher, uncles or aunts, and if you are really daring, your parents. This will also feel like a weight has been lifted. This is called Talk therapy and is very effective.
Listen to music, AGAIN music has great healing powers. If you don't want to do any of the other things, do this. It will usually work and will feel very relieving.
Acceptance Finally, you will have come to terms that they have moved on and you are, somewhat, fine with it. This is a time to reflect on what you may have done wrong. Maybe you have done nothing wrong and it is their fault, but don't count on it. If it is your fault, work on that thing for your next relationship.
Do not give in to the temptations that you will face to try to make the person jealous, to beg for them back, etc. This will cause more heartbreak. I can guarantee that.
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Steps
The steps to getting over a break up are the same as the steps of dying. Starting with denial and ending with acceptance.
Denial, this is one of the worst to do through, because, if you don't know how to get past it, you may end up looking desperate or getting heart broken(again). This stage comes with thoughts like 'Oh, he/she was just joking, they still want to go out with me.' Do not think this. When some one says that they are breaking up with you, they all most always mean it. One exception is if they are severely depressed or have a change in behavior, then they may just be going through a stage.
A way to get past the urges to ask the person back out is to listen to music Music has healing powers, this may help you get over your initial shock.
Surround yourself with friends your best friends will almost definitely cheer you up "He/she wasn't good enough for you." "He/She doesn't deserve you." Etc.
Anger You will feel angry. There is no hiding the fact. DO NOT lash out at any one. Please, for the greater good of mankind
Listen to more music!! Listen to angry music, like the All American Rejects song 'Gives You Hell'.
Bargaining You will again try to say that he/she would love you again if you did whatever to your appearance/wardrobe. It Will not work. Don't try it. There is no real way to get over this except to do what makes you happy. If you really want to cut your hair that way, make sure you are doing it for you and only you.
Depression You will feel hopeless. Do not despair, there are cures for this. Cry it out just take sometime at night while you are falling asleep to shed a few ( or many) tears over them. It will feel like a big weight has been taken off of your chest.
Talk to Someone Usually a friend, but guidance counselors, a favorite teacher, uncles or aunts, and if you are really daring, your parents. This will also feel like a weight has been lifted. This is called Talk therapy and is very effective.
Listen to music, AGAIN music has great healing powers. If you don't want to do any of the other things, do this. It will usually work and will feel very relieving.
Acceptance Finally, you will have come to terms that they have moved on and you are, somewhat, fine with it. This is a time to reflect on what you may have done wrong. Maybe you have done nothing wrong and it is their fault, but don't count on it. If it is your fault, work on that thing for your next relationship.
Do not give in to the temptations that you will face to try to make the person jealous, to beg for them back, etc. This will cause more heartbreak. I can guarantee that.
http://www.wikihow.com
