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But If We Started Dating It Would Ruin Our Friendship Where I Ask You To Do Things And You Do Them

I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?

I knew you would understand. You always do.

We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me ***** about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.

It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.

No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.

Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.

Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.

Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.

Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other ******* guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.

Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.

Best friends. Friends forever

http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/but_if_we_started_dating_it
:D LMAO
 
Dating ???
Wtf....married couples don't date or fresia after a while.
True love...Love forever...:p
 
So that's where they get the speech from! It's for situations like this the concept of 'fresia buddies' was created.
 
Ug. The more I think about women and relationships etc, the more comfortable I am with being alone.
 
umm...was that actually for real? And not an absurd joke?

And if it wasn't a joke....

That HAS to be a joke. Doesn't it?

Yes, it must be a joke. *still shaking head*

Well, it's either a joke, or stupidity, take your pick. :p
 
EveWasFramed said:
umm...was that actually for real? And not an absurd joke?

And if it wasn't a joke....

That HAS to be a joke. Doesn't it?

Yes, it must be a joke. *still shaking head*

Well, it's either a joke, or stupidity, take your pick. :p

hhahahahaaaa ...you should dye your hair blonde..:p
what makes it funni is...there's some truth in it....

On the flip side ..when a guy is in a realtionship and have a plutonic GF.

A guy would say this...
Well...what if i just get you an apartment across town...
You don't want kids...kids will make your ass big and fresia up your finger nails.
Ooops...that's a mistress aint it ? lmao
 
Lonesome Crow said:
EveWasFramed said:
umm...was that actually for real? And not an absurd joke?

And if it wasn't a joke....

That HAS to be a joke. Doesn't it?

Yes, it must be a joke. *still shaking head*

Well, it's either a joke, or stupidity, take your pick. :p

hhahahahaaaa ...you should dye your hair blonde..:p
what makes it funni is...there's some truth in it....

On the flip side ..when a guy is in a realtionship and have a plutonic GF.

:p Kiss my butt, Rocket.
 
I think the point was to show what really goes on in a woman's head during this situation though not what she actually says out loud.
 
DayvanCowboy said:
But If We Started Dating It Would Ruin Our Friendship Where I Ask You To Do Things And You Do Them

I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?

I knew you would understand. You always do.

We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me ***** about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.

It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.

No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.

Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.

Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.

Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.

Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other ******* guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.

Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.

Best friends. Friends forever

http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/but_if_we_started_dating_it
:D LMAO

That really made me laugh :D

Plus, it brought back memories :club:
 
Oh god is that ever perfect. I've been that guy all too often.
 
People like this are manipulators and users. Saying this shows that you are so transparently saying something else it's ridiculous.

"You wouldn't like me" - Well obviously I think I would and I'm pretty sure I'm more qualified to know my wants and desires more than you are, so whats the real reason?

Typically, "I want to use the honeysuckle out of you when I'm lonely because you are perfect for me but find that one guy that I shouldn't be with to replace you because I get all the emotional honeysuckle I need from you regardless"

Why is being honest so **** hard for our species?
 
Papabear said:
Why is being honest so **** hard for our species?

Because we're naturally incapable of being honest with ourselves about what we want and why we want it. We're driven by immediate emotional needs and pragmatism, and we unconsciously find a point of view that justifies those things to ourselves and others.
 
Nyktimos said:
Papabear said:
Why is being honest so **** hard for our species?

Because we're naturally incapable of being honest with ourselves about what we want and why we want it. We're driven by immediate emotional needs and pragmatism, and we unconsciously find a point of view that justifies those things to ourselves and others.

Ironically enough I feel that "unconscious decisions" are excuses for people that don't want to admit that they've made it consciously. The I tend to agree that cognitive dissonance is a common problem, you can still be honest with how you feel and how you think. Nobody has ever said you aren't allowed to have two different viewpoints on one subject.
 
DayvanCowboy said:
But If We Started Dating It Would Ruin Our Friendship Where I Ask You To Do Things And You Do Them

I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?

I knew you would understand. You always do.

We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me ***** about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.

It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.

No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.

Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.

Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.

Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.

Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other ******* guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.

Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.

Best friends. Friends forever

http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/but_if_we_started_dating_it
:D LMAO



Ha! I shouldn't laugh, but that was funny. Especially the "Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi."

I ought to write a "I only want you as a FuckBuddy, not a Girlfriend" in answer. :p

Papabear said:
Why is being honest so **** hard for our species?

Because being truly honest with someone else ultimately means being honest with ourselves, which in turn means facing up to the things we are too ashamed to admit about ourselves.

Papabear said:
Ironically enough I feel that "unconscious decisions" are excuses for people that don't want to admit that they've made it consciously.

I agree. I think it's a cop-out to avoid censure.
 

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