IHOP and Loneliness

Tonight I went out (of course by my lonesome self) and got my food order from IHOP to take home to eat, and the IHOP manager that knows me, rings up my order.  This manager, whom is happily married, sat down next to me, and asked why I was always alone all the time.  He asked why I was not married, and I told him I was married once, but I found out that this man I married, married me so he could get his green card and then he left me for the woman he was seeing behind my back once he got his green card (and that was years ago).  

Then the IHOP Manager said "I can't understand why you have no one you are so friendly, smart, attractive, etc." I almost started to cry as he was talking to me.  I did everything to hold back the tears.  I told him I wanted a life partner.  Be it marriage, or a committed relationship.  He just said I don't understand.  And I said either do I.  He then said "I know there is someone out there for you."  I told him it had been many, many years since I had a real date.  He was in total shocked.  The look on his face almost made me start to cry again.  He just shook his head.  It made me so mad that it shows up that I have no one, and am all alone in this world.  

Reporting in on another lonely Saturday Night!

Malibu

I truly understand! I hear the same exact things, it dosn't help imo, it makes it worse.

Hi Malibu,

Thank you for sharing this story. It's hardest on this world for the sensitive people, people who think, people who feel things deeply. It's like we are punished for caring so much and feeling so deeply. PS I was married once to a green card guy. He was also dishonest and a total creep. Can you PM me and tell me where your guy was from?

There is someone in the world for everyone, I believe that. The relationship may not last forever but it will be good for you not to be lonely. Right now what are you doing to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for your future relationship? Polish yourself, girl. Go to therapy and work on yourself. Go to the gym or go for long walks and work on yourself. Take good care of yourself and work on yourself. You deserve it!!!!

*PERU*

I eat dinner alone almost every night, and it is the one event that really reminds me of how alone i am, and how things never used to be this way. dinner used to be an event. not anymore.

I think mr. IHOP manager meant well. people who aren't alone and haven't felt what it's like just don't understand.

Hi Malibu,

My guy was Arab, but I've read about some South American guys running the green card scam on women in the US.