*ADMINS* please delete this

*Basically I've said what I wanted to say and someone PMed me the relevant advice I found helpful. I'm a bit conscious of this being up online in case someone that knows me, finds it. Is it possible to delete the thread?*





Hey all.

Basically I was on a game online, just out of boredom I was playing it, hadn't done for a while and during the game people were cheating and it was generally not fun... This girl was playing and she added me on msn so we could chat.
Since that day I've found her to be the most amazing, interesting person I've ever met online and I wish I knew her in real life. She's unique in some ways, normal in others and has the most interesting life.
We generally talk for hours each day on msn and, as much as you can do knowing someone online, I've come to almost love her. Its strange as I've never felt this strongly about someone, not even in real life and I've no idea why she's made such an impact on me.

The only trouble is that she lives in Ireland and I live in england. Ok so its not that bad as she could've been living in america or australia. But her being within travelling distance has just made my affection stronger.

I know she likes me as a friend and a person and she does think I'm attractive but I don't know if she likes me more than that. But worse still is that she seems to live an amazing life and whenever she talks about it, I'm filled with so much longing to have a life like that.

So basically when I bring myself down to reality, I know that its unlikely we'll ever meet up (although in a couple of years she may be coming to uni in england) and its more than likely that our friendship will just fade away over the years like all the other ones... Whenever I talk with her I get this ache in my chest and such a strong longing to have been born near her to share her life. The harsh reality of my situation is becoming unbearable and i'm losing sleep over it, waking up during the night and feeling more and more depressed, especially when talking to her.

So I find it almost unbearable to talk with her yet would find it even more unbearable to break off communication with her.
I don't want to tell her any of this because burdening her with my problems would make me feel guilty.
I just don't know what to do...

well...there's was a chick that used to come on here.
She's totally smexy and awesume. She told me streight up.
"it's best that you find someone closer to you in real life to have a relationship with"
**** if that didn't even make me like her more.lol

Yeah......the LDR or on-line relationship
I had an on-line gf for a while. She was truely an amazing person.
It could of happened becuase the distant wasn't super far.
She broke up with me. While it took a while for me to be able to process it
and understand her..(becuase I was in love with her)..she bascailly said
she didn't want to hurt me. It took me a couple of weeks to get over it
or accept it. I'm glad I don't have bad memories or ill feelings towards her.
I belive she was in very, very much in love with me and cared about me.

For me it was progress...it's been a while since I've experinced having a
relationship and breaking up without chaos or dramma.
I don't regret falling in love with her or knowing her.
I needed that..I needed to not feel regrets in my life for a change.
She gave me that. Knowing that I'm able to love again.
To actaully cry tears for another woman instead of my ex was a good thing.

Well for me it doesn't feel like progress.
It feels like I'm being torn apart on the inside and I honestly dont know whether its best to break off contact and hope I recover or keep going through this agony in the hope that we may meet someday.

Divinitywolf said:

Well for me it doesn't feel like progress.
It feels like I'm being torn apart on the inside and I honestly dont know whether its best to break off contact and hope I recover or keep going through this agony in the hope that we may meet someday.

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yeah...torn
Yeap..

It's okay though...don't trip or beat up yourself.

Can you just LET GO ?

Just let go of the feelings (whatever you're feeling)or stop projecting the future of what if this or what if that...
Especailly if the feelings are really intence.

"Just trun everything over to the care of GOD"

If you don't beliving in god or a HP...then "Just Let go"

It'll get you to the same place...Peace , love , serenity.

It okay for you to love her...however Let go of it.
so you can fucntion and carry out your dailey task.

This way you're not worrying or getting obessed over
a challegne that can't be resolved at the moment.

If you worry to much...you'll become dysfucntional and stop taking actions.

It's a simple living tool or coping skills....for people in recovery.

Then just accept things as they are right now...at this moment.
If you spend time with her...enjoy it, be with her,
appricate the moments you have with her. Be in the moment.
This way you won't have any regrets for loving her or
her being a part of your life...for this moment.

That's how I went about it.

Then just put one foot in front of the other...
Do things that you need to get done for yourself.
Foucs on your educations or your carreer. This way
you'll become self supporting. Fanically stable..ect.
This way..if in the future whether she's still in your life
you'll be able to have a place to live together or money
to travel...etc.

Even if she's not the woman or this relationship dosn't
work out...you'll still be in the position to be avaliable
for another woman to step in your life.

Write plans for yourself...set goal for yourself.

Yeah but I don't think I can just let go.
You can't just throw away your feelings for someone.
And I don't want another woman, I just want her and can't imagine anyone coming close to who she is.

No...No..no
you're not throwing anything away...you're just letting go.

I can go more into depth about it ..but I might confuse you.
Maybe try letting go of the torn feelings.

It's a paradox...when you let go something...you usually get it.lol
Just like when you're grateful for what you have...you'll get more and more and more.


well...listen to this song and just roll with it.
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Ah I see what you mean...
Well I'll try your suggestion